This is my first post and the reason I have signed up. I don't want to sound like I'm pushing my nose in where it does'nt belong, but as my my thread name mentions, I am very concerned.
A close friend of mine has 3 boys, 7, 4 and -1. The eldest... well, let's just say he's challenging! I've watched him many times, scream (and I mean really scream) at his mother, teachers and even at myself. He becomes agressive and violent at the smallest of things.
My friend has always put it down to his character, but since the birth of the youngest, the middle boy (who up until recently, was very sweet and polite) is starting to do the exact same thing.
Their mother is an absolutely amazing, caring woman and her husband is great too. The issue I have is that there is no discipline whatsoever. Their father does try, but the mother puts him straight back down (in front of the kids). However, she has made it clear that she is not bothered if I tell him off, in fact she even welcomes it.
I'm no expert, but I have 2 relatively well behaved boys of a similar age and I'm a firm believer that children NEED boundaries and these just don't have any.
Well basically I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. Do I just ignore it and leave her be? Or do I mention something, risk offending her and losing a very good friend? I am not alone with this opinion that she will have a real problem with her boys in the future. There are quite a few of her friends who are concerned.
I would really love some advice, and if I do need to mention something, how do I go about it?
Thanks in advance.