Joanie, I would recommend offering a food several times and if it continues to be rejected, take a break and try again in a week or so. Have you tried simply offering her the whole foods instead of using a spoon or mesh feeder?
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Joanie, just tuck a dish rag or prefold or something into her shirt and lay one in her lap. I had to stop worrying about stained clothing- it's unavoidable for the most part bib or no bib. You can always throw them into a bucket of Bac Out water and just pour into your washing machine on wash day if you're concerned. I also didn't put nice outfits on baby while eating unless it was a very special occasion.
Regarding the food, of course do what feels right to you, but keep in mind one of the main ideas behind BLW is that baby is learning to chew (well, gum thoroughly) before swallowing at a younger age when the gag reflex is still quite sensitive. Feeding mush off a spoon or through a feeder just encourages them to swallow, but not chew the food prior. Later on when introduced to food with chunks, they have to learn how to chew first and the gag reflex is now farther back in the mouth and less sensitive so choking becomes a greater risk than when they were younger.
I was watching a couple of neighbor kids and came in to find Theodore covered in green slimy goo all over. I shrieked and ran over to find that his first food was...wait for it...an M&M cookie.
That's just the start you want for them, no? At least he knows food is tasty!
I tend to answer with something like, "blenders have only been around a short time in human history, before that babies got soft chunks of food." That generally makes people think for a minute and then realize that we've totally forgotten what life was like not too long ago. Also, I totally chew food and give it to my babies. It is easier and it's always the right amount, since I'll stop chewing pieces when they're done.
At any rate, R gets big chunks of things to play with/eat and then I also do some pre-chewing of foods to offer him. (Sorry if that's gross... Seems easier to me than pureeing stuff!!) So far this seems to be working out well for us. At meals where he is interested, he probably eats about 3/4 of a tablepoon of pre-chewed stuff, I'd say. And whatever he eats off of the big stuff he holds himself. So, not a lot, I'd say. Still going strong with BFing. I haven't really noticed any decrease in the amount of times he feeds per day. I think that's a good thing, though!!
I don't prechew. My older kids totally had baby bottle mouth and I'm convinced they got the bacteria from me, who got it from a kid I used to nanny for.
I mash some stuff for Shay with my fingers or a fork.
Shay loves food and eats daily.
People give us more grief about not feeding him cookies and candy (WHAT?) than about feeding him chunky stuff. I was yelled at by FIL because he was worried Shay could choke on a 2.5 inch long pen cap. I think it's a guy thing.
I was going to say this, too. The human mouth is full of disgusting things that babies aren't well protected against. Personally, I don't bother feeding my kids foods they are unable to eat by themselves. So I just follow their abilities and control for allergens.
I do this a lot, too. From food, to sleep, to diapering. I think it is helpful to have this perspective and then think how it could be adapted to modern society. It's a big reason why I found a lot of value out of The Continuum Concept. At any rate, Christina, would your dad read that article I posted about BLW? It's not long and I think it does an admirable job of explaining the concept.
I'm going to have to reread this thread thoroughly. Luca gets irate whenever we eat in front of him. I've given him only banana, first in a mesh feeder, then last night, a piece of banana. He choked and gagged on it a couple of times, and it worried my dh. I want to read more about it so I can at least do it with confidence instead of feeling wishy washy. Today, Luca grabbed a bagel out of my hand and shoved it into his mouth. He had an iron grip on it. He managed to gum some of it off and not choke. Asiago cheese bagel! I guess he's not going to be the picky eater my daughter was. He's totally ready to eat--more than I give him, I think. I have to get myself ready for this!
He's sitting great now, and having him in the high chair eating with us means--gasp!--we get to eat at the same time now!
Interesting about the chewing vs. not chewing. I used to chew up carrots for dd1 and dd2. But I've read you shouldn't do things like put baby's pacifier in your mouth and then put it in theirs because of the bacteria. But, then again, how often does Jasper shove his little hands in my mouth for me to play bite? Then he puts them right back in his. Hmmm.... confusing!
I'm still just not feeding him. I gave him a few things 1.5 weeks ago, but he didn't really seem that into it so I stopped. I'm in no rush now. He has no pincer grasp, can't sit alone, and still has major tongue thrust. Plus, he's not that interested. Works for me!
Two or three peas sounds pretty good to me! Jasper seems to be a bit slower on his skills... He grabs things with his whole hand or hands pretty well, but still struggles to get them in his mouth. If a toy does make it to his mouth, then he has a tough time keeping it there. And he hasn't even begun to realize he can pass things from one hand to another. I figure he's just taking his time!