thanks ladies, I'm not one to worry too much about milestones, but i have had the nagging feeling that I'm not giving them the verbal feedback that they should be getting each day. since i am usually the only one they see from waking till about 5pm and then their in bed at 8, i fell a pretty big responsibility.
Originally Posted by hamilali
First, I just want to let you know I appreciate how active you are on the boards.
thanks, i appreciate how active the boards are in my life! it can get pretty lonely being a SAHM in a new city where you dont really now anyone.
My boys really have no desire to walk either, which surprises me because they've been standing up next to things for so long. I know they can bear the weight.
my boy has no interest in walking even though my girl has been doing it for about 2 months now. he has always been about a month behind her in other milestones (rolling,sitting, crawling, pulling up) and the later the milestone the larger the gap is becoming between them, that has actually been part of my worry, he seems to be slipping more and more. now i of course know that both of them are well within a normal window for everything. and he is just so laid back in general, I'm sure it is just his personality. clearly he sees no reason to walk yet.
Let me know if you find some fun things to do that seem to help. I have a friend who helps in a speech program, and she said animal sounds are great for first learners. I do read a lot of books with them, and for whatever reason, they seem to be most responsive to verbal things/sign language-type-stuff in their highchairs while I'm feeding them.
as for cool tricks to help with walking, my boy usually just goes limp if you try to hold him on his feet (he pulls up on his own with no problem what so ever and actually climbs like a moutian goat!) but acts like a peaceful protester getting hauled off if i hold him up and work on walking skills. but way i have noticed is that he loves to dance with me, so i hold his hands and we dance together and i slowly walk him as we boogie down! he cracks up and will do it for a really long time. i think its the trick with him for sure.
the extra cute thing is that the moment he gets even close to standing free of things or maybe taking a step, his sister rushes over really excited and wants to cheer him on and hug him. this is of course not really productive to him staying upright, but it is the cutest thing in the world.
and yeah high chair time is very vocal time in my house too, they really like to tell me about their food.
Originally Posted by Emaya
Well, she started talking up a storm basically all of a sudden at around 26 months. And not only that, she insisted on being taught how to read and write shortly thereafter (her parents tried to dissuade her as they are laid back Waldorfy types).
as silly as this sounds this is kinda one of my issues but in the other way, i always figured that i was going to be the mom that worked daily on words and numbers and stuff at a early age. i had a friend that had her kids about 8 years ago and we put name tags on nearly every big thing in the house when she was pretty little, she loved it and would ask all the time about anything that was not tagged. it was never pushed on her, but readily available. she was reading quite well at 3 (probably mostly from memory but it was amazing how much joy it gave her) so being swamped with the twins and being so on my own in this new town away from my "village" i feel like i have dropped the ball on a lot of the ways i want to parent.
Originally Posted by DoubleDouble
Have you seen this video of twins "talking"? They don't have words that we use, but they clearly are talking! Do yours do anything like that?
Maybe yours are doing the same thing - communicating, but in a small circle, and they'll include you and everyone else eventually?
yeah mine clearly talk to each other a bit, not as solid as that, but for sure they do, specially they call out to each other when separated. one will talk to the other they whole time they are getting their diaper changed i the next room.
Originally Posted by pammysue
The key at 15 months is are they communicating? It sounds like they at least communicate to each other since they are so engaged in their play. Maybe they don't seem to have a reason to communicate with anyone else yet.
If you really think about it, I am sure you will find ways they are communicating with you too. How do they signal they are hungry, or "all done"? I would just keep "chattering" with them throughout the day.
they have not really picked up on signs that much either, though we are kinda half ass about it too. but i always use "all done" and they dont seem to get it all all. we have just used a handful, but "change" "eat" "more" "all done" are signed to them on a semi regular basis. with the exemption of maybe "more" none have been signed back.
they are really engaged with each other during play, anyone that says 15 month olds dont play "with" each other but rather just engage in parallel play needs to spend a day at my house, there is no way they would be doing anywhere near the same thing without each other. they do play be themselves , but then get board and go see what the other ones is up to and get involved in that.
Originally Posted by mamalovex3
I would make a point of talking to them, even if it's just a running commentary on what you're doing - "Shall we get a snack? SHould we have a banana or an apple? Great, a nice yellow banana! Let's peel it..." and so on. It might feel silly at first but it really is how kids learn language. I would also try to set aside some time to look at books - my girls have been very interested in the touchy feely types and the lift a flap ones.
I think the point where I would worry is if they don't seem to understand you - at this point, they should start to understand and recognize words, even if they aren't saying them yet.
yeah i do feel silly talking to them and i guess that is just something i need to get over, i kinda force myself to do it. in part i also think I'm hitting a bit of a wall of burnout with twin mommydom in general. i need a day off or a few morning or something, 15 months straight with no babysitter or family members has taken its toll. i am just not as engaged with them thru out the day after day as i want to be.
oh yes dad brought home some touchy feel books and thy luuuuuuuv them.
im not that sure how much they understand me, I'm not even that sure how much they know their names really. that is part of the worry.
Originally Posted by ShanaV
Hey, Einstein didn't talk till he was three, right? Don't worry about it Mama.
And seriously? For HOURS they'll let you relax? Wanna swap babysitting?
well einstein is not a good example, he may have been brilliant but was also a deeply troubled person in a lot of ways and had a very hard time with simple human tasks his whole life.
but yeah they will play together on their own in the two large rooms that we have fully baby proofed for up to a hour at a time, mostly right after they wake in the morning or nap time. it may be one of the great accomplishments as a mom that i can look to. i have always give them hands off time, sometimes sitting there and reading to myself other times sitting in the next room over and letting them have their space. it is amazing how they learn to work things out different when I'm not there, they fit over things less, fuss less if they stumble and genuinely seem to like it. even when I'm not in the same room they can walk right over tot he gate between the rooms and ask for me and do when they want something, but its amazing how often they dont bother and do it on their own. this has made me very happy and does make me feel like I'm doing things well in some respects.