Hair washing- weekly, sometimes twice a week. Depends on how much food gets in there.
Toe/ Fingernail clipping: weekly. Her nails grow super fast and get nasty. Plus, now she has a little brother to scratch.
Nose dealings: boogers, using the nose frida (she is sick), wiping her nose.
The hair brushing isnt as bad as the rest, but for some of it- especially the teeth and nails- you would think she is dying. Her whole body goes deadweight, she screams and hits and kicks and in order to get it done I have to physically hold her do and do it one handed. Really, its a two person job, but DH is working 14 hours a day right now, so that isnt an option. I have bought fun toothbrushes, we sing a tooth brush song, we brush teeth at the same time, I have done everything I know to do to make it fun and she just doesnt want me to brush. She will chew on her toothbrush, but that isnt getting the real deal done. There have been a few times that I just threw my hands in the air and just didnt do it, and after a couple of days her teeth LOOK grimey. Basically, hygiene is such an issue for us that my kid is going around looking like a ragamuffin all the time because it is such a PIA to hold her down and deal with it. The kicking and hitting have to stop, and I usually just back away and try again later, but Im sick of my whole day revolving around when I can get a toothbrush in the kid's mouth. Not to mention, when she fights me like that, I inevitably wind up cutting one of her nails too short and then she bleeds and screams even more. So, today I swadddled her with my bedsheet and sat on her legs to be able to get a good, two handed tooth brushing in.
What am I supposed to do??? Singing songs and distraction and making it cool and fun is not working.