Just wanted to say that this thread has been so helpful to me as well. We are lucky to have a car that can fit three seats (generous hand-me-down from DH's parents) and to live in a 2-bedroom townhouse/condo but are dealing with many of the same questions. I've since put an easy-to-push stroller and a changing area in the bathroom at the top of my list! Doing some research and I may be back to ask more questions. :)
I don't know if anyone here reads the blog Ask Moxie, but she has this handy theory that babies are either swingers or bouncers. For my DS this was definitely true - he screamed if I so much as lowered his tush into the comfiest-looking bouncy seat ever (I kinda wish I had one in adult size for myself). Meanwhile the swing was the only place I could put him down at all. Our swing has two different motions, btw, and he only liked one. The more traditional back-and-forth swing he actualy didn't like. I would recommend if you can looking for a swing that has different motions. I lent out my bouncy and never got it back, so I'm thinking I might get one of those new Rock 'n Play numbers rather than a bouncy - any opinions?
ithappened, well, we moved from the city to avoid having to do public transportation with a kiddo (among other reasons), so I'm probably not the best person to ask! I am very used to using buses/trains, but now that I rarely have to with DS, I am grateful I don't have to. If it is at all possible, I probably would consider getting a car, especially for food shopping, even with the annoyance of parking it in a city. For public transport, I would probably go with double carriers or two babies in a wrap plus holding my older child's hand, but of course then you can't push a cart. So not for shopping, just for getting from point A to B.