I've been a bit of a "birth junkie" for years now, but only TTC recently... and was successful right away. Praying for a sticky bean-- so far, at 7 weeks, all looks good.
Anyway! The following is really long, so if you'd rather just skim the bolded parts, those are the most important. Thanks!
Long ago, in the midst of my general birth research, I decided that Hypnobabies was probably my best choice for a CBE class-- Lamaze and Bradley sounded fine, but since I'm planning a homebirth (I've already hired my HB MWs), a good chunk of those courses seemed superfluous. Most discussions debating Hypnobabies vs. Hypnobirth gave me the impression that Hypnobirth was a little more "hard-core" in its belief that "it's ALL in your head," which sorta rubbed me the wrong way. So, Hypnobabies, it is... right?
Just today, I started looking into what my real, local options will be, as I'd rather take a course than home-study. I found one "official" Hypnobabies instructor in my area, a bit of a drive, but not too bad.
One problem-- I recognized her as my BFF's instructor, whom she also hired as her doula for a hospital birth. My BFF's birth ended up in-- actually pretty much started with-- a pretty classic cascade of interventions (ending in C/S for reasons that were at the very least POSSIBLY, if not probably, iatrogenic). I've never pressed it, because I know the subject is sensitive, but at many points when my BFF was telling me her birth story, I thought, "Where was the doula?" I know some doulas are very cautious about overstepping in their advocacy, but basically the doula (and Hypnobabies instructor) didn't seem to do anything with my BFF in terms of advocacy, not even saying anything to my friend about her care. And there were things that my friend's HCPs said to her that were outright lies, though they may have believed them, and which my BFF said she was skeptical of... but again, the doula/Hypnobabies instructor didn't seem to say anything about those things during her labor, one way or the other. In fact, I barely remember my BFF mentioning the doula in her birth story at all, so I'm not quite sure what she did, though I assume she must have provided massage or Hypnobabies help... or something.
Not saying what the doula did or didn't do was necessarily "wrong." It's a legitimate approach. But now I'm feeling weird about having this same woman give me Hypnobabies instruction. Is that crazy?
Like I can picture myself in a class that's all about letting go of fear, and I feel like this woman will be a reminder of something that still makes me angry-- it happened just a year ago. And I wonder if there isn't something, if subtle, about her philosophy of birth, that might rub me the wrong way... Or if she might give advice to other students about hospital births that bugs me... IDK. Under normal circumstances, I might not worry about it too much, and honestly, I'm not even sure what, if anything, I'm expecting to be problematic about this woman, LOL. But in the environment of letting go, trusting your body, releasing fears, pushing out negativity, etc... I don't know if that's a great mix.
The other obvious alternative, besides Hypnobabies home study, seems to be a woman closer to me, who used to teach Hypnobirth, but now teaches "BlissBorn." I'm really confused as to how it differs from the other hypnosis methods, so if anyone has any insight, I'd be thrilled to know more! All I have gleaned so far is that it uses more "technical"/medical/"real" terms. So I'm guessing that, for example, instead of "pressure waves," it uses the word "contractions." This is fine by me-- in fact, possibly preferable-- my mom is a doctor, so technical/medical terms don't have as much societal baggage for me as they might for some. But I'm not clear on any other differences. I'm especially interested in the overall philosophy-- to what extent "mind over matter" is idealized, etc. I'm obviously a big believer in mind over matter-- you'd have to be to want to do hypnosis-- but I also prefer a philosophy that's a touch flexible and not too isolating, if that makes sense.
Sorry for the novel-- thanks for any help at all!