Wow, how did I miss that comment....if the not yet two year old was doing all the same things as the 3 year old and had her own supervision separate from the lead educator and other teachers for the kids you would feel this way. I feel that is very unfortunate. My child obviously can't get what she "needs" because she is far to advanced for a younger setting....and you would walk out on a school because you simply would see a younger child, not even give time to evaluate their suitability because...."She's to young...and if she's going to be here I'm leaving" Fortunately, The parents of the other children are understanding, always speaking highly and impressively of DD, and completely suport the fact that she is there. I get told all the time by other parents how much their kids have grown by having her around and how much their kids love to play and work with her. Also, during more formalized classes, she isn't even in the room...
Teachers aren't taken away because she is there, they are added, which ironically, because of her abilities, adds more teachers for the older kids, not less.
We cross posted.
I'm sharing my experience. We've had several negative experiences with people bending age rules. IT hasn't worked in my experience.
My kids are as exceptional as your little girl sounds to be. It's a constant struggle. This summer, the parks and rec has broken down all their camps as ages 5-6 or ages 7-10. My almost 7 year old won't be going to those camps. He's developmentally beyond the 5-6 group, but at 6.75 years, he won't yet be 7.