*~*~*~*April Pagan Family Thread~*~*~**~**~ - Page 7

[Maiasaura]

Where is everybody?

We had a nice home day today-- no gasoline use at all which is nice, because it seems like I am always in the car.

DS was a bit off for the first half of the day. He relapsed with three bad behavior days this week in school, and I had to get called on Thursday with a complete LIE, I mean a whole total fabrication about why he got sent to the office. So I took away his two very favorite things (Bey Blades and Wii) for the whole weekend, starting Thursday.

Well, Friday he was awesome in school, and he thought that would negate the 3 bad days and he'd get his beloved Bey Blades back. Or the Wii. Um, nope. NOTHING you can do will earn those back. No earning back anymore, because that means Mama was a wuss and didn't stick to her word. SO whoops, nope, sorry.

So today, he was pretty morose half the day. Then he got a wild hair and decided he had to have some new thing-- RIGHT NOW. He was trying to bribe me six ways from Sunday to take him to Walmart to buy this new thing that he's wanted so badly for a year that he couldn't remember what it was

He vacuumed, he did chores, he offered me $1.65 in gas money (you can tell he really understands the value of "gas is really high right now"...ha).

So I stood my ground and said no. Not leaving the house. He moped on the couch, very passive-aggressively obviously, for probably an hour, before he realized I wasn't paying any attention. Oh well!

He's good to go, now, finally.

I got some good cam time with M today

Oh hey-- we have a promising showing on Monday! Oh, mamas....if you have time and energy, please light candles and say prayers between 2-3pm EDT on Monday! This person has apparently driven by umpteen times, and finally asked for a showing of the inside. This could be The One! Oh cross fingers! Wouldn't that be so cool?

[Mommy2Austin]

Maiasaura- we're still in the hospital. I'm hoping because her anti bs will be done by 3 am that as long as they remove her ear tube tomorrow we can go home.


Sending all the energy I can muster that Monday will bring what you need

[DaughterOfKali]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

Oh hey-- we have a promising showing on Monday! Oh, mamas....if you have time and energy, please light candles and say prayers between 2-3pm EDT on Monday! This person has apparently driven by umpteen times, and finally asked for a showing of the inside. This could be The One! Oh cross fingers! Wouldn't that be so cool?

I hope this is it!!

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin 

Maiasaura- we're still in the hospital. 

Wow, I had no idea!  Poor little one.  Hoping today will be release day!

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin Maiasaura- we're still in the hospital. I'm hoping because her anti bs will be done by 3 am that as long as they remove her ear tube tomorrow we can go home.
Sending all the energy I can muster that Monday will bring what you need

Oh poor baby I hope she'll be alright soon. What is anti bs? Hope you are home now!

Originally Posted by DaughterOfKali I hope this is it!!

You and me, both! I lit a candle at church today, for M for job energy and for me for house-selling.

[Mommy2Austin]

Maiasaura- Anti bs=antibiotics

We're still here. Supposed to be getting out tomorrow. I'm so close to the end of my rope with their antics I may just sign her out AMA if they don't let us go. Because at this point they are just bleeding it for money.

Planning to start reading Living Wicca tonight. I'm not really feeling a conection to it at the moment maybe I will once I get into it. If not then I know I should keep looking.

[revolting]

Originally Posted by vydalea  I wish there was a safe place for ALL of those children to go to school.  ugh!

I know. I hate hate hate how the public school system is set up here so that the affluent areas have these great schools to attend while the rest of us fight over the scraps just to keep our kids safe.

Originally Posted by 3xMama 

Ok, I feel like silly, but what is busk?

Street musicians.

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin 

My 2 year old is in the hospital with mastoiditis. I don't know how long they'll keep her, or what is exactly going on. DH is with her, but hasn't given me much information. I'm rather unhappy with him right now on a biiiig scale. I'm stuck here at home without anyone to watch my other three until tomorrow at the earliest. 

I'm scared and upset and have no one to talk to. 

I'm praying for a swift recovery!

 

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

my grandpa died tonight. he was real sick. he had been real sick for several months and he knew he was getting worse. there was nothing they could do and he lapsed into a coma. my grandma shut off the support this evening. she couldnt stay with him, she couldnt do it. they didnt unhook him until after she left. my mom couldnt stay bc she had to take grandma home. so my son and i stayed. i stayed and held his hand until he was gone. he was ready to go. it was quick and peaceful. i will miss him. he was 88. i hope he has found his way to whatever after life he believed in. my mom was grateful someone was able to stay with him so he wasnt alone. 

I'm sorry for your loss.

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

I don't know where my last post went. I know I saw it get posted.

But for those of you who didn't see it, M got fired yesterday. He has some old...issues...that come up on background checks. He gave them full disclosure before signing on to be hired, and the HR lady said as long as he's not an ax murderer, he's fine...but then they ran the check and he got fired anyway

We're totally devastated. He got rip-roaring drunk yesterday after it happened-- with barely 15 minutes between the firing and the liquor store! But he's trying really hard not to descend into depression and self-hatred, which he's incredibly prone to. He's so tired of this garbage. He's unhireable, it seems...and it sucks, because he is one of those people who feels worthless without work. He tries so hard. He's been paying and paying and paying for old mistakes and they just keep knocking him down Even for the lousy money, I wish he'd stayed at the old place. He hated it, but he had insurance there, at least. And no checking.

Gah. Poor guy. I hope he finds something soon.

That sucks! I hope he finds work soon!

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

You're telling me? It's freaking awful. Now he's feeling awful about having to try for assistance. I said Look, FDR put that in place for a reason. It's not for want or abuse, but for need, and you have need. Remember the part of yourself that tried to give the food stamps back when you got a job, years ago? Focus on that. You are a man of integrity-- don't be ashamed to take when you are in need. You always give back
 

I much rather give assistance for food to a man trying to get his life together than those banks we gave assistance to a bit back so they could kick people out of their homes.

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

Oh hey-- we have a promising showing on Monday! Oh, mamas....if you have time and energy, please light candles and say prayers between 2-3pm EDT on Monday! This person has apparently driven by umpteen times, and finally asked for a showing of the inside. This could be The One! Oh cross fingers! Wouldn't that be so cool?

Good luck!

BTW, I'm looking for inspiration for creating a pregnancy/birth altar inexpensively. Ideas?

Edited by revolting - 4/16/12 at 6:25am

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by revolting I much rather give assistance for food to a man trying to get his life together than those banks we gave assistance to a bit back so they could kick people out of their homes.

BTW, I'm looking for inspiration for creating a pregnancy/birth altar inexpensively. Ideas?

Thanks. He really does try extra-hard. He was in a homeless shelter a long time ago and he was the only one pulling his weight with household chores, and the only one pounding the pavement looking for work. And when I say pounding, I mean it-- he doesn't give up. He wants to, a lot, but he's just that kind of guy who has to work or he feels worthless.

Pregnancy altar-- fabulous time of year to make one of those! Eggs, rabbits...go get you all that Easter stuff on sale! Lots and lots of it! Our Ostara altar for the public ritual was literally filled with bunnies, chocolate eggs, little chicks (I think the teeny fuzzy ones can be gotten at Michaels or AC Moore craft stores), some of those big Lindt chocolate rabbits covered in gold foil...if I can get M to send me back the photo of it, I will post it (I deleted my copy).

[vydalea]

Well, this weekend was quite...full of nastiness!  Friday night DD and I got the barfs and it continued into yesterday when we finally started to feel better and then our darling caregiver Papa said "Wow, I feel like there's a bowling ball in my stomach!" ohhhh man!!!!  We are slowly coming back to life, DD and I.  DH is out cold on the couch.  I hate when the house gets the plague!  Looking forward to opening these windows WIIIIIDE this afternoon and clearing out the ick.  

Maia!! I will be sending LOADS of good energy your way this afternoon!!! I hope, I hope, I hope!!    How is M doing?  

Mommy2Austin: hope the babe is on the mend, soon!!!  

Lots of love and joyful energy to everyone.  

[Mommy2Austin]

We're home! Thank Goodness. TONS of laundry to wash and the A/C is broken, but I'm happier home and so is little bit. 

Maiasaura- I just looked at the clock and saw it was 2:30 so I sent all the energy I could muster the best I could :) I hope M can find a job soon too!

LionessMom- I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother and both of my dad's parents in a 9 month period of time. Sending lots of peaceful vibes your way.

To everyone who is struggling or sick- hugs, love, and healing all your way.

Its time to get back to work! The laundry won't wash itself if I never put it in the machine ;)

[Mommy2Austin]

*DP*

[3xMama]

Mommy2Austin-Glad that you are finally home and your LO is feeling better! Its always sooo refreshing to be home! 

Maia-Hope the showing went well! I didn't see your post until just a few minutes ago which would've been about 330 but I sent a good boost of happy likey buy buy buy vibes!

Revolting-Wow, I can't believe I typed in "I feel like silly" and didn't catch that! I honestly don't talk that way, really!  As for busk though, that sounds pretty cool! I love street musicians. :)

Pregnancy altar-I'd put a few things for Isis (Goddess of Mothers, Infants and Children) and Bast (Protector of pregnant women and children, plus She is supposed to be an awesome fertility goddess) to ask for Their assistance. Plus I'd put a few things up that were significant to me for pregnancy and baby. For me, that would be a card for my midwife, a certain sleeper all my kids have worn that I'd want any future kids to wear, a pic of a beautiful round belly or maybe of a perfect lil baby being born, things of that nature. 

Vydalea-Eeeek, I hope you are all feeling better now and the ick gets out and stays out!! Yuck! 

Well, we finally got our yard all cleaned up this weekend. So nice to know that now we just need to keep up with mowing and some weeding here and there. Some seeds have been planted for flowers (hoping they didn't get washed away in the downpours we had last night) and DD and I planted some sunflowers especially. Last yr DH mistook the growing plants for weeds and sprayed them with weed killer.  So sunflowers were very important to DD and I this year! We have a nice pretty herb garden, too! In addition to the sage and thyme plants we've had for a couple years, we have rosemary, basil, Thai basil (DH's fav herb, he's so excited lol), dill, mint and cilantro. Looking forward to DH's yummy cooking with them and bringing out the magic side, too!

Speaking of DH cooking, he made the BEST clam chowder this weekend. I swear, it was touched by the Gods, it was so good. I actually ate it for breakfast the next day...lunch, too. And today. 

But unfortunately, my children have been at each other constantly for the better part of a week. They are not playing well together at all. If one has a toy, they all have to have THAT ONE toy, too. Because, ya know, the mound of toys right next to them just isn't as perfectly awesome as THAT ONE.  And the temper tantrums...oh lor' the tantrums. I wish there was a smiley that was pulling its hair out...!! 

Well, here is to a good week, yes?!

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by vydalea Maia!! I will be sending LOADS of good energy your way this afternoon!!! I hope, I hope, I hope!!    How is M doing?  

Oh, ew, I hope you guys feel better soon!

Thank you for the energy! My house is SO clean! I won't probably know how the showing went till tomorrow. Oh, I so hope this is It!!!

M is hanging in there. He's up and down. He has depression anyway, so he has to work extra hard for this not to feed it. Tomorrow he has a full day planned of the job place (they call it different things in different areas, but it's like a job bank; it's free and they help you find jobs and make resumes and things like that), the unemployment office, and the food stamp office. I hope he gets those things to help him float through.

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin We're home! Thank Goodness. TONS of laundry to wash and the A/C is broken, but I'm happier home and so is little bit. 

Maiasaura- I just looked at the clock and saw it was 2:30 so I sent all the energy I could muster the best I could :) I hope M can find a job soon too!

I hope he does, too, for his self esteem more than anything. He's trying so hard not to convince himself he'll be out on the street.

Glad you're home! It's always a relief to be home, even with all the catch-up work to be done. How's your LO doing?

Originally Posted by 3xMama Maia-Hope the showing went well! I didn't see your post until just a few minutes ago which would've been about 330 but I sent a good boost of happy likey buy buy buy vibes!

Well, here is to a good week, yes?!

Yes! A good week! Have your kids killed each other yet? There are times I am SO glad I only have one. The times I am NOT glad is when he needs a playmate and there's only me.

I hope the showing went well, too. The house looks gorgeous, at any rate! Thank you for the energy!

Oh, mamas....I so hope this person (persons?) makes an offer!

[witchygrrl]

I hope it works out, Maia!

I think the HR person who told M that all would be well needs to be out on his/her rear end. Not only that, but HR should make it really clear what happened. They should not hire people and then toss them out. Anyway, I hope his day goes well tomorrow!

Thank you for the energy! My house is SO clean! I won't probably know how the showing went till tomorrow. Oh, I so hope this is It!!!

M is hanging in there. He's up and down. He has depression anyway, so he has to work extra hard for this not to feed it. Tomorrow he has a full day planned of the job place (they call it different things in different areas, but it's like a job bank; it's free and they help you find jobs and make resumes and things like that), the unemployment office, and the food stamp office. I hope he gets those things to help him float through.

I hope he does, too, for his self esteem more than anything. He's trying so hard not to convince himself he'll be out on the street.

Oh, mamas....I so hope this person (persons?) makes an offer!

[LionessMom]

Originally Posted by vydalea 

Well, this weekend was quite...full of nastiness!  Friday night DD and I got the barfs and it continued into yesterday when we finally started to feel better and then our darling caregiver Papa said "Wow, I feel like there's a bowling ball in my stomach!" ohhhh man!!!!  We are slowly coming back to life, DD and I.  DH is out cold on the couch.  I hate when the house gets the plague!  Looking forward to opening these windows WIIIIIDE this afternoon and clearing out the ick.  

my house had the plague.  lol. that is what i called it too. we had it twice with a 2 week lull in the middle. it was awful.

thanks everybody for the condolences. the funeral was fine, i guess.

you need to know, my grandpa wasnt my mom's biological dad. her bio dad was a bad man that i was never allowed to know. so that means all my grandma's kids were his step kids. he married their mom when the oldest was 18, the others 17, 16, 15. so they didnt spend much of their lives living with him. they had a good relationship. but to tell the truth i spent more of my life growing up with him than they did. since i was born my mom had us over there. she was the only kid who stayed in the state and actually within 30 mi of them. every holiday, every time she needed a sitter, etc. then when i was 19 and my oldest was 6 mo old, i left his father and they let me live with them. we stayed there for 2 years. moved out for a couple of years and then had to move back again for another 2 years. he taught me how to balance a checkbook, how to want better for myself, how to file taxes, why to vote, my political beliefs, and a fighting spirit. i have a lot of respect and love for him. i feel bad we hadnt been over more in the last few months, but he seemed to want to just be alone with grandma. 

so i was surprised when they asked the oldest 2 kids to talk about grandpa. the one did fine but the oldest did not. i am angry actually. he did say some facts about grandpa but didnt tell too many stories about him. he spent most of the time adding stuff about his travels and the crap his kids do. he was supposed to be remembering grandpa. he went on and on about veterans (which grandpa was) but where was all the stuff specifically about grandpa!?! what facts he did tell he only got half right. my son and i know more than he did and it irritates me bc i thought he would have done the best job. i feel like my grandpa wasnt given his due. but i cant say anytihng bc i dont want to start trouble. i wish they would have asked me to talk or i would have asked if i could talk. i dont know what to do with these feelings. why do i feel like i was the only one who really cared about him as a person? i held his hand as he passed and i wouldnt be satisfied till i saw they had him in the ground right. i had to stay to make sure it was all taken care of. i just dont know what to do about my feelings. they are eating at me. 

[vydalea]

Originally Posted by 3xMama 

Well, we finally got our yard all cleaned up this weekend. So nice to know that now we just need to keep up with mowing and some weeding here and there. Some seeds have been planted for flowers (hoping they didn't get washed away in the downpours we had last night) and DD and I planted some sunflowers especially. Last yr DH mistook the growing plants for weeds and sprayed them with weed killer.  So sunflowers were very important to DD and I this year! We have a nice pretty herb garden, too! In addition to the sage and thyme plants we've had for a couple years, we have rosemary, basil, Thai basil (DH's fav herb, he's so excited lol), dill, mint and cilantro. Looking forward to DH's yummy cooking with them and bringing out the magic side, too!

Speaking of DH cooking, he made the BEST clam chowder this weekend. I swear, it was touched by the Gods, it was so good. I actually ate it for breakfast the next day...lunch, too. And today. 

But unfortunately, my children have been at each other constantly for the better part of a week. They are not playing well together at all. If one has a toy, they all have to have THAT ONE toy, too. Because, ya know, the mound of toys right next to them just isn't as perfectly awesome as THAT ONE.  And the temper tantrums...oh lor' the tantrums. I wish there was a smiley that was pulling its hair out...!! 

Well, here is to a good week, yes?!

Please send me some of your DH's clam chowder!! MY FAVORITE!!  I would have also eaten it morning, noon and night!! YUM!!  

I was planning on just throwing my herbs in with my vegetables - do you think making a separate garden for them is better?  I've been thinking about this a lot in the past 2 days and then you wrote about it...so... 

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

 i just dont know what to do about my feelings. they are eating at me. 

I am so sorry that you are feeling so hurt over how your grandpa's eulogy was handled.  I think that would have been very, very hard for me, also.  Would it help at all to hold your own, personal, maybe even solitary service for him?  I did one a few weeks ago and, for me, it was exactly what I needed because I got to say everything that I wanted.  It helped to bring me closure. Hugs, Mama.  BIG, BIG, HUGS. It sounds like your grandpa was amazing and you are very lucky to have had him and he you.  

Maia, I'm not going to lie, I checked in like 6 times just to see if there was any news about your house.  haha!!  Still sending YES energy your way!!! 

Glad to hear that M is hanging in there.  Hopefully the job place will help settle his nerves a little.  I think witchy is right, there needs to be a consequence for the person that led M to believe he was in the clear - especially enough so that he left one job to take one.  
 

DH is back to work today.  The windows are wide open, candles are burning and I've lysoled the crap out of this place.  Like you were saying last month, 3x, I'm not one to have chemicals around but after the plague hits this joint we make exceptions.  I can't imagine having more than one child when everyone is sick around here.  Blessing to all of you who balance that!  

I had to get OUT of the HOUSE today so first thing Z and I went to get the last of our seed starting supplies!!  Hooray!!  

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by witchygrrl I hope it works out, Maia!

I think the HR person who told M that all would be well needs to be out on his/her rear end. Not only that, but HR should make it really clear what happened. They should not hire people and then toss them out. Anyway, I hope his day goes well tomorrow!

I hope so, too, witchy! Here is the email from my realtor:

"Heard back this morning from the agent that showed your house yesterday. His client still has a lot of interest after seeing it, and only had one question about the stain above the shower stall. I told him it had been fixed, but the tile was just never replaced or re-painted. I said they could look at it during an inspection if they wanted to. Throw ALL of your good energy out there! I hope this pans out for you....I'll keep you posted if I hear anything more."

Oh, mamas....please keep the energy up for me!

M says to tell you "thank you" :)

Originally Posted by LionessMom i just dont know what to do about my feelings. they are eating at me. 

Oh, Lioness, hugs. I don't have any answers but I just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you. Maybe write your grandpa a letter? And burn it in ritual?

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by vydalea Maia, I'm not going to lie, I checked in like 6 times just to see if there was any news about your house.  haha!!  Still sending YES energy your way!!! 

Glad to hear that M is hanging in there.  Hopefully the job place will help settle his nerves a little.  I think witchy is right, there needs to be a consequence for the person that led M to believe he was in the clear - especially enough so that he left one job to take one.  
 

I guess we cross posted :)

See above for my realtor's email this morning. Keep sending energy, YES, thank you!!

I agree with both of you about that HR woman, but I think M is trying not to think about it anymore. He's moving on, or trying to.

[Aubergine68]

Thinking good thoughts for you and M, Maia.

[Maiasaura]

Originally Posted by Aubergine68 

Thinking good thoughts for you and M, Maia.

Aww, thanks!

Something's wrong with the smiley thing. I can't get any of them to work :(

I haven't heard back from the realtor yet. I am hoping against hope that this person makes an offer!

[3xMama]

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

M is hanging in there. He's up and down. He has depression anyway, so he has to work extra hard for this not to feed it. Tomorrow he has a full day planned of the job place (they call it different things in different areas, but it's like a job bank; it's free and they help you find jobs and make resumes and things like that), the unemployment office, and the food stamp office. I hope he gets those things to help him float through.

I hope he does, too, for his self esteem more than anything. He's trying so hard not to convince himself he'll be out on the street.

Yes! A good week! Have your kids killed each other yet? There are times I am SO glad I only have one. The times I am NOT glad is when he needs a playmate and there's only me.

I hope the showing went well, too. The house looks gorgeous, at any rate! Thank you for the energy!

Oh, mamas....I so hope this person (persons?) makes an offer!

Sending M lots of good job energy! He definitely deserves it! 

HA! No, my kids have not killed each other, though I'm not sure its for lack of trying. I tried to stem some of it today and ran errands ALL day. Helped a little while we were actually at stores, but hanging out with BaBa (DS1's name for my dad, its his pronunciation of Grandpa, lol) didn't fully curb the boys bickering. After DD got home from school we went to the library which was stupid on my part. Three rambunctious, bickering kids and one fried mama in a place where you are supposed to be quiet?? Uh, no. But we came home, ate a frozen pizza, they watched some TV and then ran around outside and I only had to intervene a handful of times. So it was better this evening. And now they are in bed (early but whatever) so I'm a somewhat calmer person. Somewhat. Just gotta figure out a better way to work with them. Why is it that some parents seem to have it down to a science and have these cherubs and some (like myself) run around with their hair falling out, screaming at their imp children?! Ugh! 

Oh, and there are times where I am the only playmate they want, too. Its frustrating!

Originally Posted by LionessMom 

i just dont know what to do about my feelings. they are eating at me. 

I'm sorry the funeral was angering. I like vydalea's idea of holding your own service, on your own or with your family. Maybe just have a small fire and throw your eulogy written out on it and let the smoke carry it to him in the afterlife. I know it is a long time from now, but Samhain may be a good time to do a followup service. *hugs* I'd be pretty upset, too, in your situation. 

Originally Posted by vydalea 

Please send me some of your DH's clam chowder!! MY FAVORITE!!  I would have also eaten it morning, noon and night!! YUM!!  

I was planning on just throwing my herbs in with my vegetables - do you think making a separate garden for them is better?  I've been thinking about this a lot in the past 2 days and then you wrote about it...so... 

DH is back to work today.  The windows are wide open, candles are burning and I've lysoled the crap out of this place.  Like you were saying last month, 3x, I'm not one to have chemicals around but after the plague hits this joint we make exceptions.  I can't imagine having more than one child when everyone is sick around here.  Blessing to all of you who balance that!  

I had to get OUT of the HOUSE today so first thing Z and I went to get the last of our seed starting supplies!!  Hooray!!  

If there was any left, I would send you some! I will have him write out his recipe, though, and pass it along. ;)

I have no idea if a separate garden is better for herbs or not. All I have is the herb garden, no veggies. I'd figure though that as long as there is plenty of room for them to grow, you'd be ok. Many of the herbs are perennials, though, so keep that in mind when planning your garden layout. Yay for seed supplies! Its always nice to get out and dig around in Mother Earth. :)

So glad everyone is feeling better!! The plague is awful! Lysol it up, mama! Putting a half of an onion in every room for three days then burying them is a good (and magical) way to get rid of some yuck, too. Worked wonders for us several months back when all five of us kept cycling through illnesses. 

Originally Posted by Maiasaura 

Aww, thanks!

Something's wrong with the smiley thing. I can't get any of them to work :(

I haven't heard back from the realtor yet. I am hoping against hope that this person makes an offer!

Oh, sounds like an awesome bite!! Sell sell sell!!!!

The smileys about made my poor muddled brain explode this morning. I was trying to kill a little time before leaving to run errands and wanted to catch up on here. I had to start over three times because I'd want to add a smiley and it would freeze mothering.com. The fourth time I messed up I swore a lot and left early. LOL! I made very very sure not to even go near the smiley button this go around!!