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post #181 of 671

AdAstra, Cohen's only problem was feeding also and he was born at 32w5d (4lb6oz) and came home just under 3weeks later so I'm sure your babies will be home soon! Congrats!!

 

Isa- YAYYYY congrats to you and your family! I can't wait to hear more about your delivery.

 

Things are going better but I dont see any councelling in sight. I am going to see my mom and family for lunch and DP is going to try to wake up early so she can go to. My aunt is coming in to town tonight so I will be visiting later also after DP goes to work. Cohen-still on the boob!

post #182 of 671

Isa- Congratulations to you and your DP and welcome to the world Edith! Can't wait for you to be all rested up so that we can get some pix of that precious baby and hear your birth story. Enjoy your baby moon! partytime.gifbirthday.gifpartytime.gif 

 

Smiling- You're next! How are you feeling?  Any more contractions?

post #183 of 671
Oh, welcome to the world, Baby Edith! I am jumping for joy for you, mamas! So excited to hear details...joy.gif
post #184 of 671

Welcome to the world, little Edith!  (That fabulous name belonged to both my grandmother and one of my all-time favorite singers.)  Congratulations Isa and DP!  We can't wait to hear the details and see pictures of your wee girl.  flowersforyou.gif & blowkiss.gif

post #185 of 671

Hello ladies

 So while we wait for ISA'S birth story. Dp and I want to share some pics.

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ok one more pic L loves sweet potato

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post #187 of 671
Isa: congrats to you and dP!! Cannot wait to hear more when you feel up to it! Super happy for you and now I don't have to feel bad if I have this baby early! Did you ever get all of your nesting things done?!!

Mami: I'm feeling food thank you for asking. I'm feeling my body spread out and get my swollen. I'm having contractions randomly everyday but none that are in any pattern or at all strong feeling. I'm feeling good but feeling ready to meet this baby. Sara says I have to wait at least 4 more days and have him term. Right now he is moving up a storm but it's the first time I've stopped moving for a while all day. Did some more stuff on my list of things I wanna do and feel happy about that! I'm ready to meet this guy!
post #188 of 671
HOORAY ISA!!!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif Welcome to the world, little one!
post #189 of 671

YIPPEE ISA!!!! Welome Edith!!!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

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Isa: Wooo- Hooo!!!! Welcome.gif to the world Baby Edith!! (I love that name, it is so Nostalgic!!) I can't wait to hear the birth story and see lots of pics!!! joy.gifbiggrinbounce.gif

 

Seraf: We have a growth scan and echocardiogram scheduled for Tuesday afternoon. Thank you for your condolences

 

JuneBug: Thank you for your condolences

 

Library: That you for your kind words, I am hoping that we will all start to heal soon. And thank you for the wonderful compliment orngbiggrin.gif I hope DP's dissertation went awesome with few or no revisions!

 

OMom: Thank you so much for your condolences

 

Mami: Thank you for your prayers and condolences. You hit the nail on the head, it is so hard to enjoy this pregnancy while I know my brother in law and girlfriend are mourning the death of their son. I am really hoping that her heart is just overflowing with love and anticipation. And I LOVE all the pics of your LO she is so adorable!

 

Desert: Yes all of this has been so much to handle, and slowly but surely things are starting to not hurt as much, but it is still all so very hard. How are you liking the Bradley class?

 

 

AHope: Thank you so much, I wish that I could take all of their pain away or at least distribute it among family and friends. Yes we are going to Seattle Children's on Tuesday for 2 extensive scans. I am trying to take care of myself especially emotionally since I have a history of depression, but it is really hard. How did you students react to you "coming out"

 

Sara: How close are you? It freaks me out that you are getting closer because I think I am next in line YIKES!

 

AFM: We are still very much in a dark cloud over this way, and we feel like we are in a nightmare that we can't wake up from. Thank you all so much from the bottom of my heart for your condolences for our family. I still can't believe that my nephew is gone and our hearts our broken. I sent a special prayer asking my daughter Imani to welcome her baby cousin to that special place where baby angels dwell and to show him the ropes and watch out for him. My brother in law and his girlfriend are obviously broken and they are trying to pick up the pieces. We are giving them all the space and time that they need to work through their grief and since I know how it feels to not want to be bothered with pregnant women or babies DW and I are letting them come to us and not forcing ourselves on them.

 

As for our baby girl we have a high level growth scan and fetal echocardiogram scheduled for Tuesday, I am a wreck and waiting until Tuesday is killing me but it was the soonest that the Children's Hospital could get us in. With these double whammies it has been so hard to really appreciate my pregnancy and the life that is coming in a few weeks. It is also really hard to hear her family say that "everything happens for a reason" and that "they are happy there is another baby coming soon" being the mother of a child that passed away it makes it seem as though Baby Zayden's life was not as important as the "living baby" that is coming and the fact that people think that way makes me physically sick and even more sad. I don't want this baby placed on a pedestal because she "survived" and I don't want the pressure of making sure this baby "survives" I put enough of that stress and pressure on myself.

 

On a brighter note it seems as though we had come to a decision about our birth plan and birth location and I am feeling more at peace with it. We have also decided to take inventory of all the baby items we have now and sort them so we can make a list of essential items to buy before she gets here. Can you all give  me some suggestions on items that we DEFINETLY need in the first few weeks of life? We have no plans to make any large purchases (cribs, nursery furniture, etc.) but I would like to make sure we have the basic necessities when she arrives.

 

And thank you all again! I eternally grateful to have an amazing support group of women like you gals! namaste.gif

post #191 of 671
Brite,
gosh... I am so sorry for all you and your family is going through. I'm holding you all in my thoughts.

as far as necessities, I'd say a few outfits, diapers and wipes, and her mothers' warmth. oh, and boobs. I'd say a bassinet, if she's not sleeping with you, but you could always use a laundry basket for the first couple of weeks! I can't think of anything we needed other than those couple of things (we had a arms reach but it turns out DS didn't need it). also, don't forget about what you gals will need... dinners, beverages, snacks, anything that will make it easier to just be in bed or lounging on the couch together as a family! I wish we had made sure to have more snacks, etc on hand. neither one of us wanted to take time to "make food happen". wink1.gif

candle.gif for your nephew
post #192 of 671

Isa, we are thinking of your family this morning.

 

Rainbow, we are thinking of your family this morning, too. Tuesday can't come soon enough.  Essentials for a newborn are few.  Baby needs warmth, food, a place to sleep, a place to poop, safe travel and love.  Mom needs warmth, good food, a place to sleep, a place to sit (to nurse, to see what's going on), a place to bleed, a way to contain milk overflow, love and a camera to remember all the things hormones will tell her to forget.

 

For us that was clothes and blankets, boobies, our bed, cloth diapers and potty, sling and carseat, and love for baby.  For mom, clothes (maternity pants the first few weeks), a well stocked pantry and friends with dinner, our bed (with a fleece blanket over the sheet to protect the sheets and mattress from the abundant body fluids), the couch, cloth pads, nursing pads and a milksaver, love and a camera.

 

The carseat was purchased.  Not everyone needs a milksaver or potty. The camera we had. In our house the sling, diapers, cloth pads, nursing pads, burp cloths and butt wipes were all just pieces of cloth of various sizes.  All our boys' clothes and blankets are hand me downs or handmade.  The well stocked pantry was also purchased, but is useful to have in general.  Babies go in the shower with us still.  You don't need much.  And you probably need more than the baby.

 

 

post #193 of 671

ISA: Congrats!! Hello baby Edith! I can't wait to see pictures and hear more! Yay!

 

 

Brite: I am so sorry you are dealing with this. My heart hurts for you and I am sending all good positive thoughts your way.

 

Crystal: I have been in a relationship that sounds similar before. I can tell you that it didn't end well,  byt that I ended up much stronger because of it. If you need anyone to talk to......

 

Sara; You are next!!!

 

Library: Love your "profile" picture,  I could use some new Alice shots though. Where are you moving again?

 

Mami: What a stinking cuties. I love the sweet potato pic.

 

AFU:  Harrison is SO BIG. 9 Months old today. Sigh. Where does the time go? He is kind of crawling, kind of pulling himself up, and kind of saying all sorts of words. The last week has been crazy developmentally.  The only thing he isn't doing is sleeping....still. This kid just won't sleep more than 1 1/2 hours at a time. Ever. Which translates into mama doesn't sleep and baba doesn't get the sex. Ha! 

We are loving this spring, it feels so nice to NOT be pregnant and be able to cart around the boys and enjoy the weather. We are trying to decide when to have our 3rd. I can't decide whether to start trying summer 2013 or winter 2013 or summer 2014?  I do know that we are wanting to marry it up sometime in 2013. Maybe spring? 

The most important news? ;)  I finally lost all my baby weight!! WOOOOOO!!! Ok maybe not the MOST important but pretty damn exciting.

Pictures

 

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post #194 of 671

 

36w2d

 

Ari and I on the see-saw

 

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Feeling ready for this baby to come out.

post #195 of 671

Congratulations Isa and Edith! Looking forward to reading the birth story.

 

Mamitomami, those pics are adorable!

 

Rainbow, I'm so impressed with how brave and calm you are in the face of all this craziness.  Oh, and in addition to all the things others mentioned, I would recommend Lansinoh for the breastfeeding new mom... it really helped soothe my nipples.

 

Mizyellow, look at Harrison go!  He's not only self feeding but feeding OTHERS!

 

Smilingsara, that seesaw shot is awesome!

 

As for us, I have a few minor health things going on but nothing serious.  Luckily we have a large FSA this year, so at least the bills won't be a major problem.  And I'm hoping to have one of my doctors write a letter so I can pay for a yoga class card with my FSA also...

 

 

 

 

post #196 of 671

I don't have time to write a lot, but I wanted to say congrats to Isa and welcome Edith!

 

Rainbow, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot imagine all that you must be feeling right now. Please feel some love coming at you from the southeast. A couple things that we found helpful in the first weeks: food! We had friends come stock our freezer with homemade soups, cassaroles, and lasagne, and it was so helpful to have things we could just reheat and eat. Or trader joes. But have stuff on hand that's super easy to make and eat. Also, if you don't already have it, get the name and contact info for a great lactation consultant, preferably one who will come to your house. If you're having breastfeeding issues, you will not want to be researching this then, and you will also not want to get back in the car and drive somewhere. You're in Seattle, right? I'm guessing you'll have lots of options. Just line it up ahead of time, and hopefully you'll never need it!
 

post #197 of 671
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I don't have time to write a lot, but I wanted to say congrats to Isa and welcome Edith!

 

Rainbow, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I cannot imagine all that you must be feeling right now. Please feel some love coming at you from the southeast. A couple things that we found helpful in the first weeks: food! We had friends come stock our freezer with homemade soups, cassaroles, and lasagne, and it was so helpful to have things we could just reheat and eat. Or trader joes. But have stuff on hand that's super easy to make and eat. Also, if you don't already have it, get the name and contact info for a great lactation consultant, preferably one who will come to your house. If you're having breastfeeding issues, you will not want to be researching this then, and you will also not want to get back in the car and drive somewhere. You're in Seattle, right? I'm guessing you'll have lots of options. Just line it up ahead of time, and hopefully you'll never need it!
 


great call about the LC, Angela!
post #198 of 671

 

Rainbow.  My heart breaks to hear your family's devastating news.  I'm so sorry. 

Baby Zayden ... Find peace and hold tight to Imani's hand, little one.  candle.gif

 


 

post #199 of 671

Morning all~ It's Friday and I still can't get motivated. I suspect that will be true for the rest of this school year. I'm leaving, they know I'm leaving, it's all I can do to show up every day so sometimes that feels like my biggest accomplishment. 

 

MizYellow~ Look at that li'l guy!  Nine months already. Wow.  I am VERY SORRY about the sleeping thing, though. I know for sure how awful that is and I hope it improves soon, for all three of you!!!    I'll post some more pix of Ace pretty soon, I have some cuties.  And we are moving to Greenville SC in a few weeks, really. I'm starting to freak out about it just a little bit. 

 

Sara~ That's a heckuva tummy. Be careful on the seesaw!!!

 

Rainbow~ I agree with everything that's been suggested for your coming-home-time. I think a Boppy or similar is really important, since I spent the first three months in my rocking chair with Alice in my lap, the bop really saved a strain on my back.  We still love that thing! And now when she sees it she reaches for it and gets excited.  I also found it helpful to have a big jug-type cup that had a built in lid and straw so that I could have a giant amount of ice water/iced lactation tea close to hand at all times (in a container that was hard to spill).

 

AFM~ Not much. Alice reached new heights of light-sleeping last night. We had a thunderstorm (the nice, non-fatal variety) and at one point lightning struck nearby. HUGE flash of light, ENORMOUSLY LOUD crash of thunder that rattled the windows and shook the house for at least ten seconds. Did she peep? No.  Moments later, the cat nudges open the door with a tiny creak: screaming. WTF girl, for real. DP handed in her dissertation finally, so hopefully she'll start to decompress. Her mom arrives later next week to visit us for a while. We need to pack. I need to find a job. lordy lordy lordy. 

post #200 of 671

Ad Astra ... Congrats!  Let's see pictures and hear more, woman!

 

Isa .... Hallelujah!  Congrats, mama!  Pictures!  Pictures!  Welcome baby Edith!  That was one of our top names for E, who has a different E name. 

 

Rainbow ... With my first, we didn't acquire anything beforehand because I was feeling strangely superstitious (I'd had a couple of bad calls as a paramedic during my pregnancy) and even though people gave us lots, we were three hours from home, and had come in a rush without bringing a lot with us and we didn't get to go home for over a week. 

E slept with us, although we'd set up a drawer to put her in at first.  We had diapers, and a few outfits, a wrap, and toques, and a couple of blankets.  I had heavy-duty pads, and lots of people to provide food and water.  And a carseat.  That's about it. 

Ideally your boobs will work great, so that covers feeding for now. 

To be honest, we didn't do anything differently with number two, even though we were only a few clicks from home.  Although this time I had my nursing supplementer at the ready, because my boobs are epic fails when it comes to providing enough milk. 

I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday. 

 

Mami ... Yummy pictures of a yummy baby!

 

AmandaH ... Love the end-of-year coming out thing!  How do you keep it hush-hush until then?

 

Sara ... Look at that gorgeous belly full o' babe!  Hi in there, Soren!

 

Yellow ... Exciting to hear you talk about #3!  Gorgeous pictures.  Thanks for sharing.

 

HI TO EVERYONE ELSE!!!! xoxox

 

AFM:  Must dash.  I'll try to come back later and update on my mammoth six-month-old and all he's getting up to and my precocious three-year-old (who's nearly READING!), but I have to get to work on my mss.  Later, folks! 
 

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