Queer & Pregnant & Parenting - April, May, June! - Page 25

[starling&diesel]

Brite ... Swimming helps too!  Got both my babies into a great position.  Even if H proceeded to get into a less than great position during labour.  But they started out beautifully placed!  Hope your MW appointment goes well today!

Sara:  Great photos!  Love the tie-dyed finery and the pole scaler!  Fun!

[CrystalPerez]

nak

life is such a rollercoaster  i hate rollercoasters. the past few days dp has been saying she wishes she didnt have to work so she could stay home with us ad have a bond with ds, and know him better like i do.

we are thinking about starting solids, he shows all the signs of being ready and will be 6 months on the 12th next month. is it really important to wait til 6 months exactly?

[seraf]

Crystal, some will tell you it's important to wait. Shay started tasting foods at 4 months. I probably wouldn't go much than 4 months adjusted age.

[SwtRainbowBrite]

Dandy: Thank you so much for those tips! I have been doing hands and knees after my moxibustion/acupuncture treatments so I am happy to know that is helpful, looks like it is time to start cleaning the floors (my Wife is going to be ecstatic LOL)

Sara: LOVE the pics especially "spider monkey" Osha and the boys very dapper onesies!!

Starling: I have been dreading swimming with my pubic symphis issues but I have really missed the pool so I think I will give swimming a try again. Thank you for the well wishes for today!

AFM: Today is the almighty decision midwife appt please keep your fingers crossed that baby girl is head down and hopefully she shows off and is engaged LOL! Will be back later on today or tomorrow to update you gals. I have a mandatory "scare session" with an OB tomorrow morning because my C-Section scar was not double sutured but I am not worried and I am prepared for whatever statistics they are going to try to throw at me I am going for my natural birth against all odds!

[pokeyAC]

RainbowBrite - Jumping in to say that I recently heard an OB speak at a Midwifery conference and he said that a double layer suture is not a guarantee of safety over a single layer suture.  He said that if a double layer is not done well it's not necessarily better.  A single that's done that's done really well can be better than a double.  Good luck at your appointment!

[mtnlisa]

Brite -- fingers crossed for a head down babe!

Swear Love the wedding pics!

Crystal, my sisters first baby started solids at 4 months because he was sitting up on his own, watching all of us eat and trying to get our food, and no longer tongue thrusting. My understanding is that when those things line up a baby might be ready to try some solids.

I'm feeling better as long as I eat all day long and include meat in my meals. With DD I couldn't stand to even have meat cooking in the house during the whole first tri. Also helps to take naps, so its great that DD likes them too!

[mtnlisa]

*seraf sorry about the autocorrect

[justrose13]

i'm having trouble keeping up... this boy of mine is on the go, go, go!!

just wanted to make sure and pop in to send AHope some love. i would say more but everyone has touched on my thoughts. you have something special in your relationship, i wish you all lots of peace as you make it through this adjustment period. ps. we had so much hardship in our relationship in DS first year, but since he started walking he is a new kid! he's still so mommy-centric with me but it's amazing how independant he's become!! all of this hard work you and she are doing will pay off, probably soon, and i bet she will find it easier and easier.

to all

[DesertSunsets]

Drive by post from the hospital - DW fell this afternoon before our Centering class and upon learning that, the midwives sent us over here to be monitored, make sure the babe is okay. We have been here a couple hours and the baby is doing great, she has been very active and reassuring. DW is sore from the fall, and is really annoyed with the belly monitors. We have been witnessing first hand the inaccuracy of these monitors, as half the time Evie can escape it. Though I know that is because she doesn't take up the whole belly yet. DW will also be getting her RhoGam shot a tad early. I really hope we get to go home soon.

[seraf]

Rainbow, I hope your appointment went well.

Lisa, yay for feeling better! I've been autocorrected worse, no worries. Autocorrect has a place in my heart, since it got me pregnant.

Wehrli, I'm glad to hear life is getting easier for y'all. Are you signing with S? I felt like that made the second year so much easier. Perhaps he is verbile enough that it's unnecessary.

Isa, I thought you were going to Italy. More locally you can take bigger sunshades. The sportbrella is pretty cool. We don't own one, but I saw one set up recently. We have been keeping Soren pretty well covered in wraps, slings and a hat. There is a picture on my blog today of Sara wearing him at the pool, I'll try to remember to post it here when I get access to a computer. We also go out inthe sun more in the morning and evening when it's less intense.

Life here is good. Soren smiled(while awake) for the first time yesterday. Shay is all about standing up and he is walking along the furniture. He is also learning to sit back down when he stands up. O is struggling with the heat, feeling sick and couldn't eat (at his Mama's). So we are trying to keep him cool, too. A just keeps on keeping on.

[seraf]

Desert, scary stuff, falling. I'm glad Evie is ok. Did y'all use an RH+ donor?

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by CrystalPerez 

nak

life is such a rollercoaster  i hate rollercoasters. the past few days dp has been saying she wishes she didnt have to work so she could stay home with us ad have a bond with ds, and know him better like i do.

we are thinking about starting solids, he shows all the signs of being ready and will be 6 months on the 12th next month. is it really important to wait til 6 months exactly?

We started solids around 7 months. DD seemed developmentally ready before then (pincer grasp, sitting up, etc.) but she wasn't really showing any interest - sure, she grabbed food on our plate but she was just as likely to grab anything that was in front of her and shove it in her mouth (food or not ;) ). I don't think exactly 6 months is a magic number. However, I would caution that for any baby who might be showing any signs of allergies (through the breastmilk) - it's better to wait as long as possible. Also, if you start and it doesn't go well (for whatever reason) there is nothing to say you can't just ramp up more breastmilk again. And if you want to keep your supply up it's best to nurse him right before you give him solids, not after.

Originally Posted by DesertSunsets 

Drive by post from the hospital - DW fell this afternoon before our Centering class and upon learning that, the midwives sent us over here to be monitored, make sure the babe is okay. We have been here a couple hours and the baby is doing great, she has been very active and reassuring. DW is sore from the fall, and is really annoyed with the belly monitors. We have been witnessing first hand the inaccuracy of these monitors, as half the time Evie can escape it. Though I know that is because she doesn't take up the whole belly yet. DW will also be getting her RhoGam shot a tad early. I really hope we get to go home soon.

Yikes! Sorry to hear about the fall but I'm glad everyone is ok!

[onemommyonemama]

QOTD: It was always mine and my wife's intention to talk openly right from the beginning about our LOs donor with our kids (who is not known). But my DD1 is 3, and I realized, we've never talked about it or mentioned the word donor at all. It hasn't come up naturally yet of course, but I thought I would somehow be talking about her donor more, and or making her more aware. what has been your experience with your kids around donors? have you done anything (read books, etc) with young kids about donors? how old were your los? etc...

desert - so glad that everything is alright!

library - how is life sans mean girl?

Hi everyone! :)

[KnittingTigers]

Originally Posted by onemommyonemama 

QOTD: It was always mine and my wife's intention to talk openly right from the beginning about our LOs donor with our kids (who is not known). But my DD1 is 3, and I realized, we've never talked about it or mentioned the word donor at all. It hasn't come up naturally yet of course, but I thought I would somehow be talking about her donor more, and or making her more aware. what has been your experience with your kids around donors? have you done anything (read books, etc) with young kids about donors? how old were your los? etc...

I've been thinking alot about this too. Our situation is even more complicated in that my DD has a dad (my partner is trans, and goes by dad). We've talked a little bit about it as we're ttc-ing number 2, but just in very general terms- the doctor is putting some seeds in mama's belly to try and grow a baby. She has yet to ask where the seeds come from..:) I too always intended to normalize it by talking about it early and often, but it's just never come up. Others?

[justrose13]

very interested in this donor convo

Seraf, we've been working on a few signs (all done, more, poop, diaper, eat, milk...) since around 6mo w/o much success. this wknd he really "got" waving hi and bu-bye, and all of a sudden he is signing 'more' and 'all done' with perfection. he is fairly verbal, too, he makes a noise that sounds like 'all done' while he does the sign. we still feel it's invaluable to teach him at least a few signs... plus it's just about the cutest thing ever!

[dandylez]

Desert, I'm glad everything's okay!

Also interested in the donor conversation... we plan to be open too, but don't know how it will come up.  We supported Cory Silverberg's What Makes a Baby on Kickstarter and can't wait to have the book in our hands. I wonder if reading a book like this will help prompt the conversation at some stage? My nephew got interested in this stuff when he was about 5 or so... I think before that, they just take all family shapes and sizes for granted.

Did people use a book to learn signs? Any recommendations?  I know a few signs from nieces and nephews and friends' kids, but would love to have more in our vocabulary.

[KnittingTigers]

Dandy- I am waiting for that book as well!

In terms of signs (hello, embarrassing confession), we rented a Blues Clues sign language video from the library and watched it. DD wasn't particularly interested, but DP and I learned a lot!

[justrose13]

re: baby signs
we recieved a few videos, books and a set of flash cards at our baby showers but truth be told, we mostly YouTube them.

[dandylez]

Originally Posted by AngelaM 

Dandy- I am waiting for that book as well!

In terms of signs (hello, embarrassing confession), we rented a Blues Clues sign language video from the library and watched it. DD wasn't particularly interested, but DP and I learned a lot!

Haha! Awesome!

Originally Posted by wehrli 

re: baby signs
we recieved a few videos, books and a set of flash cards at our baby showers but truth be told, we mostly YouTube them.

Cool, thanks!

[onemommyonemama]

very highly recommend signing time DVDs dandy. we can get them at the guelph library, and have bought some. DD loved them, they are entertaining, and we like them too. we have books also, mostly learned our signings from the videos and now when DD asks what the sign is for something, I look it up online.