omg I would not have been able to be so neighborly! No fleas allowed in the house. In fact, if you haven't bathed in a few days, you're not allowed in my house either. Like Rowdie said, my sense of smell is in overdrive now. (DH picked me up from work and said "hi honey" and I was like "Ack! Did you eat spaghetti for lunch?! You smell so garlic-y!")
Sure, it was nice of her to offer to come help clean up and all but she sounds like she needs to clean herself up first. And what on earth made her think you would want her there for labor/delivery/first moments with new baby??!?! ((HUGS!))
I live in a big neighborhood and have literally hundreds of neighbors around me. It is a very friendly place - when I go get the mail from the mailbox, there is always a neighbor strolling by with a toddler or walking a dog and we always say hello. I love it. It is the kind of fabulous southern neighborhood where there is no problem asking your neighbor for a cup of sugar, and everyone is very friendly and neighborly. The neighborhood kids play outside together, everyone knows everyone's business and looks out for each other. That said --- this means I'll have a lot of neighbors in addition to other friends and family who will want to stop by and see the baby after he is born. DH is making a wooden sign for the door that will read: "Mommy and Baby are resting. No visitors please."
I struggled with the wording of the sign a lot - I worried that it would sound too harsh/rude...I thought of maybe having it say "We look forward to visitors another time" or something to sounds nicer...but I also want it to be very clear that I am not ready to have guests just yet. (I welcome suggestions here!! Any thoughts on how to word the sign?!)
Anyway, onemore, I know you edited the post but I just wanted to say that I think a clearly stated sign is a good idea for you and don't feel obligated to open the door, answer the phone, or entertain guests. It is your babymoon and you should be able to enjoy it and bond in peace.