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post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 

Wah, wah, wah.

 

Yeah I'm whining and I invite you to also. Feel free to make this thread all about you. Share the bonbons and crazy hormonal love here!

I deleted my insanely long whine...LOL

It was even depressing me to read it ;)

 

Basically, my neighbors suck big time and have boundary issues. I am going to head down to the valley until Fri come tuesday. Nervous about that long of a trip with my belly rubbing the steering wheel, but I'll manage.

Freedom lol

post #2 of 25

Oh my, One More! That is hard to deal with. YUCK. She thought you might be in labor so she stopped by to see how you were doing? That is just plain crazy. I wonder if there is something else going on...is her husband in the picture? Maybe they needed to get out of the house for a while or something? I just can't imagine that anyone would be that blatently disrespectful...until I remember that I know people like that too! I'm so sorry you have to deal with this right now! If you feel like you're better off with them not speaking to you at all, I'd go for it and put my foot down if they come over again today. Something along the lines of "I just have too much to deal with to have visitors right now. I'll let you know when things slow down." Too much to deal with during your third trimester!

post #3 of 25


Woman, you are a champ for being as neighborly as you are.  Even at my most non-pregnant zen moments, I'm sure I would have a problem with folk bringing fleas into my house.  Never mind that the mutant sense-of-smell seems to have returned.

 

I'm sorry you feel so isolated right now.  Sending virtual hugs your way.hug2.gif

post #4 of 25

omg I would not have been able to be so neighborly! No fleas allowed in the house. In fact, if you haven't bathed in a few days, you're not allowed in my house either. Like Rowdie said, my sense of smell is in overdrive now. (DH picked me up from work and said "hi honey" and I was like "Ack! Did you eat spaghetti for lunch?! You smell so garlic-y!") 

 

Sure, it was nice of her to offer to come help clean up and all but she sounds like she needs to clean herself up first. And what on earth made her think you would want her there for labor/delivery/first moments with new baby??!?! ((HUGS!))

 

I live in a big neighborhood and have literally hundreds of neighbors around me. It is a very friendly place - when I go get the mail from the mailbox, there is always a neighbor strolling by with a toddler or walking a dog and we always say hello. I love it. It is the kind of fabulous southern neighborhood where there is no problem asking your neighbor for a cup of sugar, and everyone is very friendly and neighborly. The neighborhood kids play outside together, everyone knows everyone's business and looks out for each other. That said --- this means I'll have a lot of neighbors in addition to other friends and family who will want to stop by and see the baby after he is born. DH is making a wooden sign for the door that will read: "Mommy and Baby are resting. No visitors please." 


I struggled with the wording of the sign a lot - I worried that it would sound too harsh/rude...I thought of maybe having it say "We look forward to visitors another time" or something to sounds nicer...but I also want it to be very clear that I am not ready to have guests just yet. (I welcome suggestions here!! Any thoughts on how to word the sign?!) 

 

Anyway, onemore, I know you edited the post but I just wanted to say that I think a clearly stated sign is a good idea for you and don't feel obligated to open the door, answer the phone, or entertain guests. It is your babymoon and you should be able to enjoy it and bond in peace. 

post #5 of 25
Thread Starter 

Thank you gals. I really appreciate you gals listening cause I have been struggling with feeling isolated lately and all the other stuff. I can't really talk to my family about this stuff cause then they would feel guilty for us being up here, and not to mention my moms high blood pressure ---- I hate to upset her cause wheras I'm pretty mellow, shes a firecracker. LOL

 

Ruby - trust me when I say I definitely wondering if it was a over bearing Dad thing. No. She is the over bearing one. He's half stoned and mellow all the time. You can hear her screaming all the way down the hill at my house though. She's...she's  nuts.

 

Rowdie - LOL thank you also. You made me smile.

 

Meredith, I LOVE the wording on the sign. I was just giong to go with "Do Not Disturb" but that sounds so much more polite and to the point.

Update for you ladies:

I canceled the girls VBS bible study class thingeys so I am done with dealing with psycho neighbor #1. I was already wanting to quit going since she threatened to spank my daughter the last time I saw her last week (I am telling you last week was hell and I have just been holding it in!) but after her starting the whole rumor bit about labor and telling stinky neighbor and that whole thing...

 

Yeah, I am soooo over being neighborly to these people. I think after being able to vent to you all, I have found my Mom's side in me...Seriously, the only reason I truly deleted the post cause I know how BAD this all sounds and right now, somewhere on the net are a group of women laughing their arses / feeling bad at my neighborly drama. lmao

Its that pathetic and hysterical and disgusting all at the same time!

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Thanks ladies <3 <3 <3

post #6 of 25

Oh my goodness Onemore!! (I read most of your post before you deleted it, I was going to come back and read the entire post today) I found it interesting because we live in the city, but bought 5 acres of land out in the country 7 years ago with the intention of building our dream home out there. Two wooded acres, enough room for my horse, it was perfect! Until we started spending time out there working on cleaning it up. First of all, someone had used the land as a junk yard for many many years, back in the woods, under the brush, so it wasn't readily apparent, but it would have to be cleaned up. Then the four-wheeling started, constant on the weekends, the noise of the engines was nerve wracking and ridiculous. Then the shooting. Yep, someone was target practicing (or maybe shooting real things?!) every single weekend. And the clincher was one of the crazy neighbors walking around outside in his union suit (one piece long undies) and waving a Confederate flag from his flagpole (I live in Wisconsin). We were like... oh shi%. So needless to say, the land has been on the market for 6 years. We were also expecting Mayberry! I feel for you!

 

I like Meridith's idea of a sign, and I think the wording is great. It also sounds like you don't have a problem being direct, which is awesome, but I know it still drains you. Keep up the good fight!

 

<3

post #7 of 25
Thread Starter 

LOL oh wow Poppy...

I know you sooo understand. Poor lady!

I am actually chuckling to myself now imagining your dream acres turned "Mad House" on you. I don't know what it is, in the city I would see people talking to themselves or thugs or whatnot (in fact the last event that happened while we lived in the city that solidified us moving was a couple prostitutes got busted at dusk (wasn't even night) and took off running out of some guys truck. The kids were like "Whats going on Mama?" cause the police lights were flashing and one lady didn't pull up her shirt in time before running..I decided right then and there it was just time to move)  but all of that seemed ... I don't know.. normal? expected?

 

In a small rural town its like the crazy is super concentrated.


We only drink bottled water now in case its in the water. LOL

post #8 of 25

My friend sent me a picture of a doormat that said "Leave food and go away." LOL How's that for wording?

 

My whine is that I just want to go for a walk. I need to go all by myself because my older daughter will stop for every shiny rock or flower. My youngest will need to be in a stroller. All that stopping and starting and pushing is what kills my hips. I hate to have to find a babysitter just for a damn walk. That is certainly something I took for granted last time I was pregnant. DD1 was in daycare and I could walk in the park near my office or if it was hot at least do a turn around the parking lot. 

post #9 of 25

LOL onemore!

 

I love being away from people in nature, but then I know what to expect in cities. Like your prostitute story... That just seems normal to me.  My kids always ask what the tennis shoes over the electrical wires mean... and I just ask them what they think it means. They have some interesting theories. 

 

OMG, I have my own Whine ... I completely blew up at my kids today and feel terrible about it.  They were trapping my second son under the bed with a trundle bed.  Second son was yelling, "help me" which just triggered the crazy in me... like fight or flight stuff... And it was just dangerous and freaky, and I totally exploded yelling at the top of my lungs.

 

I made them all sit on the couch until their dad got home (which thankfully was only like 10 minutes). wild.gif

 

I ate some chocolate to calm down.  But I was so mad and freaked out.

 

Tomorrow is a new day, but man... I just felt like a psycho there for awhile... .

post #10 of 25
Thread Starter 

Ok...You have to tell me what tennis shoes over power lines mean. I've always seen that and been like "I wonder who the unlucky sob is without tennis shoes tonight.." I didn't know there was some special significance to it, so now I have to know LOL

 

Masel - You have my sympathy....Just a quick walk to the post office down the hill is met with my four year old picking flowers, gazing at the water...you know, KID STUFF that I am all about encouraging but some days..I just want to walk without having to worry about where the kids are at every moment..

 

FM - My head has TOTALLY spun with the kids the last couple weeks. DD2 always says "Dodi isn't going to want to come out cause you're yelling!" ....uh..score 1 for kid.

 

 

post #11 of 25

My DH finished the No Visitors sign for the front door. Onemore, I told him about your "helpful" neighbor that thought she was welcome during labor and he reassured me he wouldn't let anything like that happen. A sign plus having DH around to politely dismiss people makes me feel really good about being able to recover and bond in peace. 

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post #12 of 25
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Originally Posted by MeredithA View Post

My DH finished the No Visitors sign for the front door. Onemore, I told him about your "helpful" neighbor that thought she was welcome during labor and he reassured me he wouldn't let anything like that happen. A sign plus having DH around to politely dismiss people makes me feel really good about being able to recover and bond in peace. 


Ooooh, I love your sign Meredith! I think I should get my DH to make us one :)  Seriously though, I do have some really sweet, well-meaning, but overly chatty neighbors who I'm nervous about.  I'm just glad we don't have a doorbell!  I'm not sure when family will come, but we'll definitely know because 99% of them are 4-5 hours away.  DH's brother lives about 30 minutes, but they never come over so I'm not concerned about them.  Again, I love that sign!!!!!

 

 

 

Onemore - As for the shoes over the power lines, I was always told it meant that drugs were sold nearby.  I have no idea if that's true, it's just one of those weird things someone tells you when you're a kid.

 

post #13 of 25
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Onemore - As for the shoes over the power lines, I was always told it meant that drugs were sold nearby.  I have no idea if that's true, it's just one of those weird things someone tells you when you're a kid.

 


It's possible that was part of the origin, but now it's just kind of a 'thing' with no particular meaning. Or rather, it means some kid decided to chuck his shoes up there to prove he could. 

 

post #14 of 25


Meredith, the sign is perfect! :)

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Originally Posted by casmer View Post

 

Onemore - As for the shoes over the power lines, I was always told it meant that drugs were sold nearby.  I have no idea if that's true, it's just one of those weird things someone tells you when you're a kid.

 


I was told (or saw it in a movie?) that when someone was killed their sneakers were thrown over the power line as a kind of memorial, or something.  No idea if that is or was ever true, but like KM said, it's probably just a thing to do now.  Although, I don't know why someone would throw a perfectly good pair of shoes away.  I've seen some pretty nice ones up there.  shrug.gif

 

Sort of related...when I was a kid we went to this lake with a "shoe tree" near by.  You took old shoes and threw them in the tree.  It was some sort of tradition.  I can't remember how it got started, but I'm sure there's a fun story behind it! 

 

post #15 of 25
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Originally Posted by KM84 View Post


It's possible that was part of the origin, but now it's just kind of a 'thing' with no particular meaning. Or rather, it means some kid decided to chuck his shoes up there to prove he could. 

 



There's a whole wikipedia page dedicated to "shoe tossing"! Very interesting, I had no idea there was so much folklore behind throwing one's shoes into the power lines...haha.

 

Now on to the whole whiney mcwhinerson thing...I have water stuck in my ear from the shower, every time I get up my bones creak and pop - I'm officially an old lady now, seasonal allergies are kicking my butt and my eyes couldn't be more purple, DH is getting on my nerves, and I have to go to the mall to get some nice clothes for our upcoming maternity pics...I hate the mall.  Oh and I need start practicing with my make up again for the pictures...I hate make up too.  Why does everyone think I'm disabled? I don't need help getting out of my car, I don't need to sit on the couch instead of helping DH clean out the garage, I can carry my own grocery bags, xyz.

 

Okay I'm done :) I felt that the thread needed to be returned to its original topic, hahaha.

post #16 of 25

I'm generally an introvert and people just don't randomly talk to me. I've had zero trouble with people trying to touch my belly. This week the tide has turned and the baby is everybody's business has surpassed my natural invisibility. 

 

I was at the fabric store with my 6 year and one clerk very loudly asked if I was having twins. Then when I went to get my fabric cut the very nice lady with a cart load of bolts let me and my single bolt go ahead of her. I guess that trip balanced out. I might have said something snarkier to the first lady had I not had my big girl along. 

 

Yesterday EVERYONE liked my shirt. It's the "loading please wait" one from Thinkgeek.com. I wear it all the time but this was the first, second, third etc anyone has commented. 

 

it's going to be a long 5 weeks. 

 

 

post #17 of 25

Well, I feel pretty whiney right now.  We just lost our dog of 11 years unexpectedly.  Sigh.

post #18 of 25
Oh, just1more I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! It is so hard to lose a pet. Sending a virtual hug your way!
post #19 of 25
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post

Well, I feel pretty whiney right now.  We just lost our dog of 11 years unexpectedly.  Sigh.


I'm so sorry to hear this.  Losing pets can be so difficult :(    hug2.gif

 

post #20 of 25

So sorry for your loss. :( 

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