Bajingo in the Spring-O, Part Deux: Having #1 in Our 30's, Spring 2012 - Page 15

[Tear78]

Caly, good luck! Not too much longer, though I know every day feels like forever. Easy labor vibes to you!

[iixivboots]

Happy due date, dear Caly and Spacegirl! Lots of love and positive energy to you both, I'll be thinking of you today. Come on, baby girl! It's show time!

Our shower is today after a week of craziness. I am so happy about it, though. We had to change the venue TWICE in this past week, after my friend had a family emergency and then the restaurant basically canceled on us. Now it is at a library, though, which couldn't be more perfect. We have enjoyed time with my friend from out of town who is here in the 110 degree heat for this event with her husband and son, and my mother in law.

Andaluza's baby shower is this weekend, too. Congrats, mama, hope you have a great time. It's funny since we are closest in due dates in our DDC.

On a more somber note, my maternal grandmother was just put in hospice care, and in the back of my mind I'm thinking about how I'd like to be there, but pregnancy, heat, and money are just prohibitive. My parents are there with her as well as most of the rest of that side of the family.

Also since it's officially summer, I am going to start the new thread soon, let me know if there are any updates or adds from the front page.

[CA Country Girl]

Hi Ladies

Happy D-day Caly.  I know that knowing that half of women go late is probably not much of a comfort, but she will come soon.  I am only a couple days behind you- due Tuesday and I have had tons of signs, but no real action for weeks.  It is exhausting.    

Boot and Andaluza- enjoy your showers.  Sorry to hear about your grandma Boots, but Hospice is a wonderful organization; they will do good by your family.

Hopefully Caly and I will have updates for the front page soon!

[Calycanth]

Originally Posted by CA Country Girl 

Hopefully Caly and I will have updates for the front page soon!

Hear, hear! Wishing you a quick and peaceful labor too, Country Girl! Maybe our little girls will come on the same day. Like tomorrow, maybe. 

Hi Tear! Thank you for the encouragement!

Boots and Andaluza, I hope you have a wonderful time at your respective showers. Boots, I'm so very sorry about your grandmother. 

We've been granted a reprieve from the sweltering heat, so DH and I went to a wildlife preserve this morning. We hiked around and did some bird watching, and I got sweaty and sunburned (despite slathering on sunscreen twice in the four hours we were there) but had a terrific time. It was so nice to be out of the house. Now that I'm home, I'm feeling bored and anxious again. Better think up something to do tomorrow.

[andaluza]

I hope that everyone has had enjoyable weekends!

Caly, things will be starting up soon! I hope that everything goes well! That hike sounds fabulous.

CaCountry, positive thoughts that you are also very soon with your babe!

Boots, how did the shower go? I hope it was a wonderful, happy, and fun event! I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother.

AFM, the skype shower was a lot of fun and I'm still staggered by people's generosity. It was great to see my mom so excited and able to participate in the pregnancy in some way, since she only saw pregnant me at 7 weeks or so over Christmas. In other news, dh has been really great and excited about the birth and life with the baby, but lately I find that he's showing a little less general excitement and more worries about how things will change and how we'll adapt. I think it's good in that it shows he's aware of how much things will change, but also a little annoying, like he hasn't been listening to me about this since the beginning. 

[CA Country Girl]

Andaluza

I am glad you enjoyed your shower.  Thanks for the good thoughts.  I just wanted to share some possible insight on the Daddy to be front.  Even though this is our 2nd, my DH was hit by a real wave of fear when I was about 32 weeks.  He actually said it was like moments of panic.  He said this huge event is coming and there was nothing he could do about it.  I think they feel real vulnerable since they are so used to being able to fix things and all they can do about birth is wait and try to be supportive.  My DH thought it was kind of biological- you know cave men stressing about how to protect a brand new baby and fairly incapacitated partner from the lions.  It has been getting more real for us for awhile- baby moving inside us and all, but even though they obviously see the belly, it just takes longer to sink in.  To not gender stereotype too much- I often feel like my DH doesn't really listen to me as much as I think he is or think he should- talking to lots of other ladies (and listening to comedians) I think that is kind of a man thing.

AFM- A couple of hours of contractions early this morning again, but no progress.  I am so tired of this pre-labor stuff.  I want to get the real show going!

[Calycanth]

I found this awesome site today while obsessively searching for information about how long first pregnancies last: http://spacefem.com/pregnant/charts/duedate0.php

I was particularly happy to see that her data do not support the idea that the average first-time mom delivers at 41w1d, which is what I've been seeing all over the web. I was starting to feel like I should just expect to go over 41 weeks, but it looks like the odds of delivering before then are actually in my favor.

Andaluza, my DH's anxiety has also increased as my pregnancy has progressed. For the first two trimesters, I felt like I was the only one who was concerned about how having a child is going to change our day-to-day lives. I was pretty frustrated with him for a while, because although he was excited about the pregnancy, I was the only one reading the baby and child development books, worrying about gathering baby supplies, researching daycare options, etc. I think Country Girl is right and that this is probably typical of men. Maybe it's easier for them to be more detached because they aren't physically reminded every second of every day that parenthood is imminent, or maybe it's an effect of socialization, or maybe both. I don't know. It is frustrating, though. Suddenly you're two-thirds of the way done, and they're like, "Whoa, we're having a baby!" And you're like, "Yeah..."

Okay, Country Girl, looks like today wasn't the day for either of us. Let's aim for tomorrow! So sorry you're feeling crummy. 

[iixivboots]

Going to be back for more later (I might even start the new thread:) but I wanted to paste this from the site that Caly just posted...

"The length of human pregnancy as calculated by ultrasonographic measurement of the fetal biparietal diameter (H. Kieler, O. Axelsson, S. Nilsson, U. Waldenströ) has a very nice table of 10 published studies, which found various means between 272-283 days. The authors contribute their own results as well, recording over 800 mothers who went into labor spontaneously. When pregnancy length was calculated using ultrasound in the second trimester the mean was 280.6 days, standard deviation 9.7 days. When it was calculated using LMP, the mean was 283.6 days with a standard deviation of 10.5 days."

Interesting. I thought the standard way to date a pregnancy was from the early 8/9 week ultrasound, but here it says second trimester u/s. How is everyone's due date being calculated? LMP, ultrasound (which?), O test day?

[LilyTiger]

Boots, my doc is going off my 9 week ultrasound, but it's only two days off from my LMP.  My doc said that the early ones are very accurate.  That's interesting about the second trimester u/s.  By that point, I thought the growth started to become less regular.  Hmmmm.... 

[andaluza]

Thanks about the thoughts and reassurance about dh, CaCountry and Caly. I also have to remember that he gets really cranky in the heat here in summer, since we have no sea/ocean nearby anymore and we can't escape to family in Spain this year, which I think is contributing. He's been reading the Bradley book diligently and taking notes, but was not as convinced about the hypnobabies informational track I played on the way to/from the grocery store the other day. I was hoping he'd read that one next.

Boots, hope you'll give some details about your shower! My edd is from my 8w 3d sonogram, but I think it's just one day earlier than my LMP date (and sometimes the same depending on the calculator used). I think it's pretty amazing, considering the seemingly crappy image that that sonogram produced from my ob's office, in contrast with the images from the perinatologist. He measured ahead in the 15 and 19 week u/s there, but I don't think there was a specific date identified through that information. 

[2sweetsparrows]

Hi All!

On the Husband/dad front, I love you you all have been saying here, mine is the same.  We have been on the baby makin' track for 2 years now- major roller coaster, and sometimes I am amazed that he is just 'getting' it now.  It is really cute though, we will be chatting about- being at a restrant and I keep reminding him of the things that we will no longer be able to do as freely.  Like spontaneous travel, movies, fancy dining etc.  I feel like he does not listen, then he will get all spazzy and look at me - with watery eyes and say... oh my goodness honey, we are going to have a little baby soon!  And I am like "oh yeah, yup".. late on the memo?  

I love the balance on the intervention issue on this thread,  lily, and everyone has great prospective on "smart intervention" and pain vs. suffering.  

Caly & CACountry I am thinkin' hard about you two- and sending calming energy your way!!!  I cannot wait to hear your birth stories and see pics of you beautiful babies... today??? maybe???

I did do a fertility treatment, femora- like clomid.  We are going from trigger date- but in the beginning the little bean was measuring small, which totally freaked me out, then now he measures big so whoflippin knows???  We are sticking to the LMP for now- guess I will go calculate my probabilities- love stuff like that boots, thanks for the link.

Andaluza & Boots-  I am glad you had great showers- that is so very exciting, the love of the community I think really helps at this stage in pregnancy.  I am super excited- my first baby shower is on July 8th.  

Boots- so sorry about your g-ma.  I have really had a hard time with what I cannot do in this pregnancy, stuff that you just have to let other people take care of but this really puts it into prospective, I am so sorry you cannot be there with her.  

Hyku- sp?? Very precious baby- true that on the birth- that healthy baby makes it all really small- because they are here and ADORABLE!!!!!!!

AFM- Went on a spontaneous trip to point reyes this weekend, to see a few of my 'young' friends bands play at a coffee shop in a quaint town up north.  It was wonderful but my dh can bike and climb and swim in the freezing water with a wet suit and I am the support person.  I do not mind it was beautiful, he also ate the best oysters- and I .... did not.  and had great wine and I ... had a tiny sip ; )  It was nice to do an old school trip like that- because I have been so sick it has only been possible for the past month.  I feel a little bad though because we should be working on the babies room but, guess that will come later.  

I was having quite the freak out in the middle of the night about 'what if I went into preterm labor' because I was gassy and there was nasty cleaning chemicals in the room we stayed in so I got a headache.  I was trying to plot our escape and think of how long it would take us to get to San Francisco.  There was spotty cell coverage.  I guess that I am in the part of pregnancy that if I went into labor the baby could survive with great medical help, but if I am in the middle of nowhere, It may take too long to get to a hospital- or a good one at that.  ERRRR.  The gas passed but I got terrible sleep, my little guy reassured me we were okay by dancing around- saying - hey mama, I am okay!!!

I am going home for 10 days- to New Mexico.  I have a flight, then we will drive to southern Colorado- there is two hours where I will be more than an hour from a good hospital, and possible out of cell coverage.  There are those emergency phones on the road though.  I will be fine, just thinking ahead- I really wigged my self out on this trip.  After this- no more rural and no more planes.  

I will be going to my baby shower at my mom's house, I started feel overwhelmed then my mom and her BFF met to get the final plans together and I realized- I do not have to do much- AHHH thank goodness.  

Guess I AM really pregnant now- I walked into a store and without hesitation the woman said- 'when is that baby due' and I have 3 months to go- errr, I am measuring big and this past three weeks have brought on a bigger bump- but I am not gaining weight- just getting bigger in the front.  DH was 11 lbs.  This Ert may be coming early : /  I feel like I am 8 moths pregnant.

[Calycanth]

I just got back from my check up. The NST results were perfect. My cervix is still long and closed. Baby is apparently very happy where she's at and not planning to come out anytime soon.

I'm glad, of course, that she's doing well, but I am soooo frustrated that nothing is happening on the labor front. Having a little pity party at the moment. 

[iixivboots]

Ugh, Spacegirl! You cannot become an intergalactic explorer if you won't leave the womb! Glad she's still doing well but come on, chica! 

I'm getting so antsy I've been stalking the June and July DDCs...saw a post about evening primrose oil as a cervical ripener, thought about anything like that or have your midwives recommended anything?

[LilyTiger]

Originally Posted by Calycanth 

I just got back from my check up. The NST results were perfect. My cervix is still long and closed. Baby is apparently very happy where she's at and not planning to come out anytime soon.

I'm glad, of course, that she's doing well, but I am soooo frustrated that nothing is happening on the labor front. Having a little pity party at the moment. 

Ahhhh!  That must be soooo frustrating.  I'm sorry there's no progress yet.  Maybe you will be one of those ladies who just open up all at once and have the baby in like 5 minutes!  Glad the NST results were great though.

I'm already freaking out about wanting this kid to get here and I'm only 34 weeks.  :(  It's going to be a looooong 6-8 weeks. 

[iixivboots]

I agree, Lily, I am going to be crazypants by 40 weeks.

You are all invited to Caly's pity party

Time: right now!

Location: new thread!

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1356555/summer-2012-love-for-the-preggo-bajingos-having-1-in-our-30s

[2sweetsparrows]

COME ON SPACEGIRL!!!!

Had my 27/28 week and I guess:

#1 I am anemic :( Iron pills here I come.

#2 I gained one pound in one month but 3 inches of belly- that up down pelvic to sternum measurement- so conclusion: It's not me, it's the baby- he BIG and I do not have GD soooo, BIG ERT!

They said we will do an U/S next time to check his size but even if he is big and doesn't come out- they cannot induce until after 39 weeks- so basically they really do not press for induction, which is good maybe he will come out naturally early because THERE WON'T BE ROOM- haha haha.

Giddy Up little Space Girl- and CACountry Girl how is your progress???  

Heading out to New Mexico and Colorado, might have some internet- hope to see some BABIES!