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post #21 of 68

Hi.  I'm kinda new.  Charted to get my son (now 16 months) and I'm doing a little charting now.  We had an oops last month but AF started yesterday.  Makes me a little sad that I'm not more fertile (I have PCOS) but the cycle ended with the same result that we were aiming for when it started.  I can't find my thermometer and my wakeup is a little erratic with a little one so I don't have temperatures on my chart.  We are currently TTA until at least mid-July, depending on how DH's job search goes.

 

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post #22 of 68

welcome, wifeofant!

 

buterflymama- I am so sorry if you are going through this again. :( I hope you get good news at the dr.

 

So, I had the longest fertile period this month. fertile CM for about a week and a half before I finally peaked. I don't temp so not sure if it coincided with that. I emailed my Billings Instructor (and new HCP, actually) and her response was "your body just really really wants you to get pregnant!" Well, I guess that's good news but I've got 6 more weeks before we are TTC! Speaking of, if my calculations are correct and I have my normal cycle next month, guess who will be visiting on my wedding day? Yup, an very uninvited AF. My mother said, "could be one good advantage of wedding stress delaying ovulation, I guess..."

 

Hope everyone is having a good April (it's snowing in northern Ohio....not very April-like)!

 

post #23 of 68

Hi! I am new to this thread and group. I charted with both my boys and got prego with DS1 on first charting experience, then had a MC then during that same month (even though I showed no signs of ovulation) conceived DS2. DS1 is 3 and DS2 is nearly 1. So, I am using Lady Comp for charting help. I love it! However, my body hasn't started cycling as I'm still nursing "the beast" as we have dubbed him. He nurses a ton still. So, I'm pretty sure that I'm beginning to cycle though as my CM has been intense and then on Monday after some seriously hot steamy lovin' with my hubby the next day I had a huge temp increase. So, now I'm going on day 2 of high temp and am curious to know if I managed to get prego. We aren't trying or anything so it would be amusing to say the least! 

With DS1 my cycles resumed around 9.5 months after birth...so I was expecting the same with this one, but it's been much later (if I am cycling again, which is hard to know right now). Also when we were TTC when I was still nursing DS1 it didn't matter how we timed it, I never got prego, even if I nursed once. So I am intrigued if it is going to be the same way again!).

Anyone's cycles resume at different times with different kids? If so how did you know if you got prego before AF resumed? This is totally uncharted territory for me. I'm assuming I just hang out for a couple weeks and if my temp drops obviously not prego, but if it remains high then yes prego? 

 

post #24 of 68

buterflymomma: Thinking of you and your appointment today <3

post #25 of 68
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buterflymomma: Thinking of you and your appointment today <3



This.

post #26 of 68

Thank you ladies.

 

Well, I wish I had better news. My Dr. is 99.9% sure that this is a blighted ovum. I am supposed to be 7w2-3d today, but am measuring 6w1d. There was some growth from last week, but there is still no visible yolk sac, fetal pole or baby. He looked at several different angles and also zoomed in to be sure. I have read about babies being missed in early u/s, due to a titled uterus, so I asked my OB if this could possibly be the case with me. He said no, that my uterus is not titled.

 

With the growth, my DH and I have decided to postpone my d&c until next week. We are going in next Thursday for another progress u/s and if there still isn't anything in the sac, I will go in for my procedure on Friday.

 

While this is painful, my DH and I are good with whatever God has planned for us. We are looking towards the future and have decided to put TTC on hold again for 1 year. This will give both of us time to work on our health and some other issues that we have been needing to address. I have decided (because I have absolutely no willpower at all when baby fever rolls around) to have a Mirena placed. I have had one before and it has worked well for me. I also had no issues conceiving after it was removed. I am hoping this will be true for me this time as well.

 

I will give you all an update again next week after my appointment. Thank you all so much for your support.

post #27 of 68
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buterflymomma, I am so sorry. Hugs.

post #28 of 68

so sorry butterfly.  praying for you whatever comes.

 

have most momma's had d&c's after miscarriage?  i didn't have one with either miscarriage, but just had my hormones tested w/ blood tests, and only with one had a confirming ultrasound.

 

i'm just curious to how the decision is made for the d&c vs. not.

post #29 of 68

Hugs, Butterflymomma.

post #30 of 68

Caissani~ To answer your questions about the d&c. I actually requested to have it done. He was ok with my having a natural m/c at home, but honestly I can't go through that again. My natural m/c in November was very traumatic for me. It took two weeks to complete and my life pretty much stopped during that time. Personally for me, going in for a d&c is the best choice. Also, with it being a blighted ovum, my body can take weeks or months to figure out I am not really pregnant, which means I will more than likely continue to have the pregnancy symptoms I am having now. I personally can't handle going through this for an unknown number of weeks. I need closure and the d&c will give me that. I hope this helps to answer your question.

post #31 of 68

that makes total sense.  closure and resolution are huge.  both my miscarriages took about six weeks to resolve, so i do understand that.

 

much rest and healing during this time for you all.

 

thanks for sharing with me.  i appreciate that.

post #32 of 68


First of all, I want to send my prayers out for Buterflymomma.  I hope someone else can say something more comforting that what I can.

 

I haven't been around for awhile (I gave up the internet for Lent and it ended up completely breaking my habit!), and I kind of stopped charting since I was last around.  My son is 7mo and nursing exclusively and nothing was really happening, so I just kind of got complacent.  I'm having a hard time getting back into the charting habit as well!

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Anyone's cycles resume at different times with different kids? If so how did you know if you got prego before AF resumed? This is totally uncharted territory for me. I'm assuming I just hang out for a couple weeks and if my temp drops obviously not prego, but if it remains high then yes prego? 

 



I have been wondering if cycles tend to return around the same time for each child, as well.  With DD, I got pregnant, without having had a period, at 10mo.  My temp did remain high, but I was new to temping (I started about a week before I got pg!) so I didn't get what that meant.  I realized I was pg when I had the stomach flu for two weeks, lol.  DD got occassional to frequent bottles of expressed milk throughout her infancy (I was a substitute teacher).  DS has never had a bottle, so I'm hoping that my nursing infertility lasts a bit longer--anyone think this is likely?

 

post #33 of 68

i have had 4 kids, and each time my cycle resumed at 6 months.  with my first, i was solely breastfeeding, not bottles, no food, no water, nothing.  second, she was solely breastfed for 14 months, and i was pregnant when she was 10 months.  3rd, i was nursing 2nd and 3rd child, and only one was eating solids, still 6 months.  And so w/ 4th i started charting a bit before when it seemed like i had had an ovulation attempt, and almost 6 months to the day of giving birth.

 

my mother started at 4 months PP after each of her 5 kids.  

 

I think it can differ with body and amount of nursing for sure.  most of my friends who exclusively breastfeed, or even just some of them if they're nursing even 1x a day, have no cycles for 18 months or more.  others just get pregnant without a cycle around 18 months.  i'm lucky and get fertile at the first possible chance.  here's hoping you don't!  unless you really want to!

post #34 of 68

The timing of your return to fertility with previous children tends to be a quite good indicator of when your fertility will return with subsequent children.  However, there are many things that can change this.  If you formula feed one child and breastfeed another, you are likely to have a longer period of infertility.  If you don't breastfeed ecologically with one child and do with another, you are likely to experience a much longer period of infertility.  If you gain or lose a whole lot of weight, that can change the circumstances enough to change how long your infertility is, and if you experience a lot of stress and sleep deprivation, your fertility can come back much earlier.  There are also other factors that can make it quite different between children, but you're still you, so a lot of the factors (primarily genetics, but likely many lifestyle factors as well) that are still the same.

post #35 of 68

My experiece with return of fertility was that it returned sooner with my second than with my first.  with my first son, my Af returned when he was 12 months old.  I remember being bummed because I wanted to say I made it 2 years without a period.  Well, at what would have been that 2 year mark, was when I got Pg with my second!  So I had 3 cycles and then got pregnant - I think I'm counting right.  But it didn't take long.  With my second son, my AF returned when he was 9 months old.  I was super bummed out about that.  Can't explain the difference...but I guess 3 months is not a huge difference.

post #36 of 68

Just checking in..... this month I have been a truly awful temperature-taker! I'm pretty sure I ovulated a couple days ago, but I'm not going to be able to confirm it this cycle.  I think I stopped being so particular and thorough about my charting this cycle because my baby fever kind of went away, as did some of my interest in my cycle :P  Which is the complete opposite of how it should be going with "Charting to Avoid".  I'm going to try be better about temping , starting now! 

 

 

Hope everyone is doing well with their lives and families  :)

post #37 of 68

Does anyone have a good link to a printable free CTA chart? I know the TTC charts are the same but if I could make CTA in larger than caps I would -  I am CTA and don't really want a cute pink or blue chart with "baby's here" in the corner smile.gif

Thanks!

post #38 of 68
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Does anyone have a good link to a printable free CTA chart? I know the TTC charts are the same but if I could make CTA in larger than caps I would -  I am CTA and don't really want a cute pink or blue chart with "baby's here" in the corner smile.gif

Thanks!


TCOYF has some I like. They have options for CTA or TTC, in Fahrenheit or Celsius, and for normal temperature ranges or lower than average temperatures, and I think the chart is well laid out for ease of use. NFP and More also has a chart that's neutral when it comes to CTA or TTC.

 

post #39 of 68

OK so I got my period...day 5/6 still spotting and it was a couple of heavy flow days once it got going. But now, my temp is still up? So confused.

post #40 of 68

Just wanted to give you all an update. It is a blighted ovum. I go in tomorrow for my D&C.  My DH and I have talked a lot about  our options after tomorrow. We both agreed that we need time to heal emotionally and I need time to heal physically. We are putting TTC on hold for 1 year and I have decided to have a Mirena placed, so I don't have to worry about BC. I love CTA, but emotionally I just can't do it right now. I really need time of from charting so that I can focus on some other areas of my life that I want to change. Thank you so much for all of your support. You are a great bunch of ladies!

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