My finace has been part of my son's life ever since he was born, but we never started getting serious until about a year ago, so my son has just had from 2009 to 2011. My fiance's name is Sam, and my son's name is Aiden. Sam loves Aiden like he's his own...that's never been an issue, and Aiden's biological father has never been in the picture. Aiden will be 3yrs old at the end of April.
For the last year Aiden has acted as if to say he doesn't want Sam. He won't use his manners towards him, won't acknowledge Sam when he asks him a question, won't tell Sam when he has to use the potty, or when he's gone poop like he does with me and other family members, won't say "i love you" back after Sam says it, and recently has stopped calling Sam "dad". Sam has tried to keep calm in some situations, other's he's blown up and yelled at him and i always intercept in some way to calm them both down, but i don't know what to do anymore. Sam is convinced Aiden hates him, but i know that's not the case because Aiden does miss Sam when he's not around, and asks where he went...but when Sam comes home, all that goes out the door and he goes back to ignoring him and/or acting out.
I've googled step parenting advice sites to see what they have to say, but everything i find is on divorced families/remarrying parents...whereas that doesn't help in my situation because neither me or Sam have been married before, and Aiden's never had a father figure other than Sam to compare to.
If anyone has any advice, I'm all eyes/ears. Ladies, if you have a man in your life that is going through or has gone through what Sam and Aiden are, ask them to respond to this. Sam is in this relationship for the long haul, and we both want him and Aiden to have a healthy relationship, and i want a healthy family, so any and all help would be great :)