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Homebirthers!

post #1 of 61
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Anyone else planning a homebirth? Want to have a little "support thread"? I haven't really thought about the birth much yet, I'm still focused on surviving the first trimester! I let my midwife from DS's birth know we need to be on her November calendar and I'll call her in a week or two to make my first appointment (waiting until 10+ weeks so we can hear the heartbeat).

 

Eventually I'll find a tub though I'm thinking it would be cheaper to search out a kiddie pool at the end fo the summer. Gotta buy all the birth supplies again but this time I'm just going to let my midwife order them for me! I'm pretty sure buying a kit was an option with DS though we didn't do that. Need to plan out meals to freeze, which room I hope to birth this baby in, what to do with DS during the birth, and much more!

 

Last time I used Hypnobabies so I'll probably dust off the old relaxation tracks again soon. They helped a lot during pregnancy but not so much during birth! I'll at least give them a try though...

 

Have you started any planning yet?

post #2 of 61

I had a homebirth last time and planning on it this time too. The student midwife who ended up attending my last birth is certified in most states, but not ours yet, so I'm hoping she can finish her certification in time, but we'll see. if not I guess I'll probably use the midwives that I had last time, even though they aren't quite as good a fit. 

post #3 of 61

We are planning a homebirth and have found our midwives! This is my first pregnancy so I'm not sure about the nitty-gritty yet. The only thing I've wondered about so far is the whole birth tub option...I wish we had a clawfoot tub in our house but all we've got is standard-size. I'm wondering if it'll be worth it to spring for a birth tub. Otherwise, our first appointment is at 10 weeks and I guess we'll sort things out from there.

post #4 of 61

We had a HB with transfer and CS with DS and then a successfull HWBAC with DD.

This time? I guess I still have a lot of processing to do. I totally don't want a hospital birth but I also can't vote HB with conviction this time around.

DD's birth was reeeeally tough. I actually never quite wrote down her birthstory because I kept procrastinating. I seem to have a narrow point in my pelvis which makes it hard for the baby to descend. So, my MW is still away until next month but I have my first appointment with her colleague tomorrow. She is quite a HB legend around here and I am curious to finally meet her (my last pg she and her family were living in India for a year).

 

With DS I felt like it was all just bad luck, because he was a brow presentation. Now that I have had a natural birth with DD and although her positioning was fine in the end (she was a stargazer at some point) we still had the same problems I am not so confident anymore, KWIM? I used to think birth would just come naturally to me, but I waited for the urge to push (both times) and it never came and in the end it didn't feel very natural and instinctive at all. just very raw and violent and desperate.

 

So, yeah, like I said: I still have a lot of processing to do. I am thinking about looking into some birth trauma therapy. I'll bring that up tomorrow.

post #5 of 61

I wanted to labor in my bathtub for part of my last labor, but it didn't work out, we didn't have enough hot water because I had been running laundry and the hot-water heater in our old apartment sucked, and things went really fast. 

post #6 of 61

All 6 of my babies were born at home. So that's definitely the plan again this time. Can't imagine having babies anywhere else. I'll call my midwife in a couple weeks once I'm sure this baby plans to stick. She didn't even make it to my last birth since it was so fast, so we'll see what happens this time around. Should be exciting.

post #7 of 61

I'm having a homebirth!  My last baby was born at home.  Also, I work as my midwife's assistant when I'm not giving birth myself, so the choice for which midwife was pretty easy :).  

 

I actually attended a beautiful homebirth this afternoon, and it actually made me sort of excited for this birth.  (I have attended 3 or 4 other births since I found out I was pregnant this time, and I left those births thinking I was completely nuts to have another baby!) 

post #8 of 61

My last was born at home, and this one will be as wellif everything goes to plan. So far I've already seen my mw for blood draws. I need to make an appointment for around 10 weeks, but I feel the need for an u/s this time... just not feeling confident, I guess.

post #9 of 61

this will hopefully be my second homebirth!  i'm only 6 weeks, so haven't done anything at all yet - -(haven't even told our family!)  

We literally just moved across the country and are still recovering from that huge transition... and then we find out we picked up this little hitchhiker before leaving California.  LOL

 

I'm sad I won't be able to use my CA midwife this time; she was so incredible.  Hoping to find a good one around here though.  Looks like it's illegal for LMs in Maryland unfortunately - what a crock!  but plenty of CNMs do homebirths I've heard, so that will do.  

 

I used a kiddie pool with fishies on it last time for labor - ($30 bucks on a waterbirth website and then you can reuse it later as a kiddie pool!)  I had to get out in the last 10 minutes though since LO was coming out at a weird angle (I forget the term at the moment - asynclitic something or other..)  But a few position changes guided by my wonderful MW, and he self-corrected and popped right out!  I was very lucky.  

post #10 of 61

I had my first DS in a hospital with midwives and an epi. I am actually grateful for the way it turned out. Weird birth with 10cm dilation and no descent for five hours. Water broke 24h before. Posterior. Narrowly avoided csection because I had the most liberal of the midwives on call.

 

Second birth was an unplanned, unassisted birth at home. I delivered the baby myself. Two hours of active labor. Water broke 24h before. Posterior. Chiro and acupuntiure really helped with positioning.

 

I am leaning towards a homebirth this time. If so, I need to find a homebirth midwife. I have an eight week appointment scheduled with my old miwife group (hospital based) and will use that to get a referral to the top notch CVS guy I used last time. I doubt the homebirth midwife has the clout I need to get the right guy. I'll want a twenty structural ultrasound but I assume the homebirth midwife could refer me for that.

 

I am also considering a birthing center, which might make DH happier. I don't really care about birthing at home or not but I want to be in a situation with high quality midwive(s) and no epidural. If I go back to the hospital, I'll probably end up with an epidural. Need to find a doula too because DH is not very helpful in labor. Really, really wants me to use pain relief.

 

 

post #11 of 61
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Originally Posted by franjapany View Post

We had a HB with transfer and CS with DS and then a successfull HWBAC with DD.

This time? I guess I still have a lot of processing to do. I totally don't want a hospital birth but I also can't vote HB with conviction this time around.

 

DD's birth was reeeeally tough. I actually never quite wrote down her birthstory because I kept procrastinating.

I used to think birth would just come naturally to me, but I waited for the urge to push (both times) and it never came and in the end it didn't feel very natural and instinctive at all. just very raw and violent and desperate.

 

So, yeah, like I said: I still have a lot of processing to do. I am thinking about looking into some birth trauma therapy. I'll bring that up tomorrow.


My third birth was a NB transfer with CS too. totally sucked. Planning a homebirth (maybe even water) again. I've planned a water birth for each baby & each baby had a different birth plan than I wanted.

 

I get you on the birth story thing...it took a long time to write my c/s down. When I did, I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulder though. I realized that everything wasn't about ME nor my baby...it was everyone else. I lost my voice in his birth and I refuse to do that again. I'm still healing & have some issues I'm working on.

 

I'm totally doing the belly mapping this time around. I've had 2 mal positioned babies & if I can help it, not another one...
 

 

post #12 of 61

spinning babies and a chiropractor who does Webster. really helped when DS was spending all his time posterior. 

post #13 of 61

I'll planning on having a homebirth. I'm an out of hospital midwife and I'm assisting at births right now. But for me, I home is where I want to birth my baby!

post #14 of 61
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Originally Posted by Marissamom View Post

spinning babies and a chiropractor who does Webster. really helped when DS was spending all his time posterior. 



Very true. It really helps, especially if they have good ligment stretching massage. DD remained posterior, just like her stubborn self, but the chiro did get her out of breech. And really helped speed up the birth. I

 

 

post #15 of 61

I'm still figuring it out but we will probably try for a homebirth again. With DS (almost 9 years ago now), I went to an out of hospital birth center but in my 40th week they risked me out for blood pressure and I gave in to pressure from my backup OB to have a cesarean. After his birth, I ended up becoming a doula and really wanted to become a midwife (still do, someday) and after all my research and experience, I knew I would have a HB if I ever had another baby. Fast forward 8 years to DD's birth 18 months ago. I saw an amazing HB midwife and finally went into labor at 43 weeks. I labored for 33 hours before transferring to the hospital, I just didn't want to do it anymore honestly (I still feel bad for being such a wimp, which I know is dumb but there it is). Once at the hospital, we got a very rude and angry OB who tried his best to push me into the CS. I didn't want to have one right away, I just wanted relief so I could sleep, but while I was there, the baby's heart rate started to decel drastically and was staying down so I asked for the CS in the end.

 

The whole experience of DDs birth was extremely difficult for my DH. He really hated it, he felt so out of control and scared seeing me in so much pain for so long and then the whole ordeal of transferring....as much as he believes in HB, he's really scared of trying for another one. We also don't really know where we are going to be living at that time, and then there's the financial aspect...

 

At the same time, I just can't imagine myself anywhere else, KWIM?

post #16 of 61
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Originally Posted by Marilyn82 View Post


At the same time, I just can't imagine myself anywhere else, KWIM?



I know exactly what you mean!

 

I am in a similar situation. It's not so much that DH is freaked out but that I know I can't and won'T have another birth like the ones I had before - especially DD's.

Luckily I have an awesome awesome midwife! It was weird, at our first appointment I somehow expected her to shy away from me, because I am obviously not a 'natural birther', kwim? I half expected her to say something along the lines of: wellllll,... given your birth history... I would strongly advise against another HB attempt. You were lucky last time but things could have gone a lot differently... you should really consider birthing in hospital.

that was all in my head, bc I somehow feel so... broken by DD's birth and I have lost the confidence in my ability to birth naturally. And I was a BIG believer before!

Anyhow, instead this awesome person actually encouraged me to be as open as possible and let this pregnancy and subsequent birth be the healing experience I obviously need - possibly with a 'HB in a clinic', as she called it. Her on my side, calling the shots, keeping the docs off my back but at the same time with all the possibilities that could prevent this birth from becoming a repeat of DD's birth at hand.

So I am sloooowly starting to play around with different ideas in my head and I have realized that there are more possibilities available than HB or hospital. We can find the perfect fit for what I need - and there is still plenty of time to get there and I will have a HB-midwife with 25 years working experience and a similar first hand birth experience as mine at my side. Lots of reasons to be optimistic :) now, if only the first trimester was over already...

post #17 of 61
I'm planning a homebirth. DS was born in a birth centre despite my hopes for a home birth then too. DP is eternally sorry for being so discouraging of my homebirth wishes with our first and has said from the minute DS was born, that the next one would be at home.

It's crazy - I'm a doula and student midwife and know all of the homebirth midwives in our city but I just can't seem to decide on a midwife yet. The one I really want retired last year. I'm meeting with another next week. I feel like I really should have had this sorted before we even conceived but here I am, on the way to 10 weeks pregnant with no midwife!
post #18 of 61
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Originally Posted by oikophile View Post

We are planning a homebirth and have found our midwives! This is my first pregnancy so I'm not sure about the nitty-gritty yet. The only thing I've wondered about so far is the whole birth tub option...I wish we had a clawfoot tub in our house but all we've got is standard-size. I'm wondering if it'll be worth it to spring for a birth tub. Otherwise, our first appointment is at 10 weeks and I guess we'll sort things out from there.



Totally worth it to spring for a tub in my opinion!  We rented one for $200, called a tub in a box or something from someone local.  Just went to do some research the other day and it turns out you can purchase one for around that cost.  The hospital grade one is more expensive, but you don't need that unless you are going to rent out the tub yourself.  It has a seat in the tub that I used a ton with our last birth.  It was soooo deep too and felt ridiculously sturdy.

post #19 of 61

We are definitely planning one!  It will be our third homebirth.  Last baby was born in the water in the same house.  I am really excited.  Luckily the midwife pretty much brings everything so there isn't much to plan for except to have the house clean.  My issues right now is trying to figure out when the baby will come.  I have a school session in November and am worried I will miss it.  :(

post #20 of 61

This will be our third - first was born in a freestanding birth center in CA, second was born in the kitchen here in MD.  Sadly our homebirth midwife options are few in MD right now.  I was so sad not to have my CA midwife for my second birth, but was still happy with the new MW I found (except I disliked her assistant intensely - who thankfully missed the birth completely).  Now my MW has had her license taken away, so I pretty much only have a choice of one HB MW who will come to my area.  At least I've seen her in action as she was at my sister's HB last month.  Still hoping to avoid the gestational diabetes test this time around, but with a CNM I'm not sure that will be possible.

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