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post #41 of 61

 

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Originally Posted by CindyCindy View Post

 

 


No ostracism, but why would you "wallow" in your own birth fluids?  For one, you can labor in the tub without birthing in the tub.  If your mucous plug comes out, or anything else for that matter that isn't fluid, they have nets to catch and take out quickly.  If you do choose to birth in the tub, pretty quickly after you birth you are allowed to get out....I didn't wallow in it and it wasn't nearly as disgusting as you are making it out to be.  Just don't want to scare off any mama's thinking about going that direction, but you are of course welcome to your opinion!

 

 

I personally have a lot of birth fluids, my mucous plug doesn't come out in a chunk, it is similar to a heavy period with lots of extra mucous. It comes out over a long period of time. There would be no scooping of the mucous. For me, if I stayed laboring in a tub, I would be wallowing in my birth fluids, and it would be as disgusting as I'm making it out to be. And I've never pooped accidentally in labor, so I'm not worried about that. winky.gif It's my abundant mucous that I'm afraid of. orngtongue.gif My intent wasn't to "scare" any potential water birthers out there, I was just voicing my own idiosyncrasy and still, after all these years, trying to wrap my head around waterbirth being appealing, as in, not gross to me. upsidedown.gif

post #42 of 61
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Originally Posted by Thyme Mama View Post

I'll risk some ostracism here and say that birth pools completely gross me out. tomato.gif The thought of wallowing in my own birthing fluids is just puke.gif. That said though, water is my go to when I'm not feeling well or I'm stressed or I just need to relax. I LOVE taking baths. Some days I'll take 2 or 3 baths. But when I'm in labor, I do not want to sit in murky water with mucous plug floaties. I prefer to spend my labors in the shower, sitting down, or leaning over on all fours or laying down on my side. Our last baby was born in the bathtub, after the shower had been turned off for pushing. smile.gif

 

 

HAH!! I remember thinking this precise thing when I first heard of waterbirth. GAG!! Then I got used to the idea. Funny how that happens!! winky.gif I think something is crazy and then I learn more or hear about it enough that it becomes the norm. I never lost my mucous plug (that I saw) and was way too deep in laborland to notice anything floating the tub.....

post #43 of 61

We have a large garden tub that's great for laboring in. But I've never felt drawn to actually birthing in the water for some reason. Once transition hits, I want nothing more than to be out of the tub and walking around. Usually my labors are so fast my babies are born on the floor where ever I'm standing/kneeling when the urge to push comes on.

post #44 of 61

Hello!

 

   I am planning a homebirth, as well. I am 15 weeks pregnant with babythree. My oldest was a c-section, second was a VBAC... going for the gold with a homebirth this time around. :)

 

   I live in Baltimore, MD, but we are (THANKFULLY) moving up to PA at the end of this month. Maryland is downright hostile to the homebirth/midwife scene, so I am very happy we are moving.

 

   I am thinking about using Hypnobirthing-have any of you had good or bad experiences with the method? Except I just realized-there is Hypnobabies and Hypnobirthing. Ack! Which is better? I guess I have an excuse to curl up on the couch with my laptop for awhile. :) I would love to hear opinions from BTDT moms, though!

 

   Hope you're all having great days!

 

Jennifer

post #45 of 61

We are planning a home birth. My first two were born at home. My experience with DS's birth was horrific start to finish. While my labor with him wasn't as long as some, 17 hrs, at least half of it was back labor and my midwives didn't do much to help. I had a birth pool but they wouldn't let me stay in it. Not sure why. Shortly after the midwives left the house the afternoon he was born, he began to bleed profusely from his cord stump. The midwives had already had to retie the cord before they left because it was leaking blood. We didn't notice the second round of bleeding right away because my husband was holding DS close to him and his shirt was soaking up the blood.  Anyway, long story short we freaked, ended up calling 911 and were held hostage at the hospital by terribly unfriendly docs. I was a headcase for a loooong while after that traumatic experience.

 

We used a different midwifery practice for DDs birth. It was a wonderful, healing experience start to finish. Labor was short - just 5hrs active and really only tough for an hour or so. We tried the pool again but when it came time to push I wanted out! Interestingly, I didn't feel the urge to push during either birth.

 

Thinking I'll skip the pool this time. Just didn't feel quite right for me so the setup isn't worth it. So glad we have such a fantastic midwifery practice available to us!

post #46 of 61
We are planning our second home birth, using the same wonderful midwives we had for our second daughters birth. Our first daughter was csection 35 hrs after AROM.
post #47 of 61

I'm planning a HB. Have recently considered water birth, but not sure about it. Don't have a place and hubby's already dying over the $$ so far. Lol Told him to put it in the budget when we started trying last summer! I'm having my second MW apt this week, so I might ask her about it. I know she does them too. This is our first, so I really don't know what all to expect or even ask! This will be a great thread to keep up with. :)
 

post #48 of 61
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   I am thinking about using Hypnobirthing-have any of you had good or bad experiences with the method? Except I just realized-there is Hypnobabies and Hypnobirthing. Ack! Which is better? I guess I have an excuse to curl up on the couch with my laptop for awhile. :) I would love to hear opinions from BTDT moms, though!

 

I am a Hypnobabies doula and soon to be Hypnobabies instructor and will be using HB with this baby :) Here's the run down on Hypnobabies...

 

IT is a 6 week course with 18 hours of instruction, which includes a 218 page workbook,  7 hypnosis scripts on CD, 6 scripts on paper, and 2 birthing CD's that help keep moms in hypnosis during their labor ( aka birthing time). Moms also learn many different cues and techniques as well as how to get up and move around while still in hypnosis. They really emphasize the importance of the birth partner's role and they get their own CD and a guide/ quick reference booklet, and lots of handouts. They cover pretty much everything you would want to know about your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum and more. It really is a very comprehensive course, so much so, that this is the only childbirth hypnosis course that DONA allows doulas to observe this class for their requirements. Another unique feature to Hypnobabies is that they teach the use of a medical hypnosis technique called hypno-anesthesia. There is really a lot of information and preparation so couples head into their labor with confidence. 

post #49 of 61
I used hypnobabies with my first two and will use it with this one as well. I was planning another unassisted but since found a midwife who was willing to work with me on payment so yay! I still have the fishy pool from last time (I ended up just using it for labor not birth , although I did poop in it because poop happens!) anyway, this will be interesting-last baby, 3rd type of birth. I've done hospital and unassisted and I'm excited to do it with a midwife. Bonus, her assistant is my friend!
post #50 of 61

Thanks for starting this thread! We're planning on having a homebirth for our first little guy/gal, due around November 22. We live on the Oregon Coast and were so excited to find a fantastic midwife who lives a half-hour away from our home. We were particularly thrilled that she wasn't automatically concerned about me being 41 and this being our first biological offspring. (We adopted our older child, Katey, who is now 21.) Late-in-life parenthood is common in my family and I'm healthy and active; I didn't want to wrangle with a provider about being an elderly primigravida, the old medical term for someone like me. (Actually, it might have been "senile primigravida"! Geez.) 

 

All my best,

 

Mar

post #51 of 61

I have seen waterbirths and I'm with Thymemama, yuck.  Y'all can do it all you want, but I am open to it only because my first labor was so fast, if my HBAC goes very long I want to have some alternatives so I don't get impatient.

 

We had a CS with #1 due to breech, so we chose our HBAC plan and MW based on that as an "again" worst case scenario.  They're so awesome.  My plan is to have DH as my "doula", or ask everyone to leave me alone for a bit, I labored really well by myself last time just reciting Bible verses.  We considered a doula but I just don't want to deal with finding one.  Waay too many interveiws for CPs already, I am totally interveiwed out.

 

I love this thread idea!  I can't wait to hear how everyone's plans go.  

post #52 of 61
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Originally Posted by PacificMar View Post

Thanks for starting this thread! We're planning on having a homebirth for our first little guy/gal, due around November 22. We live on the Oregon Coast and were so excited to find a fantastic midwife who lives a half-hour away from our home. We were particularly thrilled that she wasn't automatically concerned about me being 41 and this being our first biological offspring. (We adopted our older child, Katey, who is now 21.) Late-in-life parenthood is common in my family and I'm healthy and active; I didn't want to wrangle with a provider about being an elderly primigravida, the old medical term for someone like me. (Actually, it might have been "senile primigravida"! Geez.) 

 

All my best,

 

Mar

I'm in Oregon also! Salem though :) There are some awesome midwives here!

post #53 of 61

Yeah. I had my visit with the backup OB and he agreed that I was an excellent homebirth candidate yesterday. As he put it, "let's hope we never meet again!"

post #54 of 61

judiAU, that sounds like a really good OB.  My backup OB is the same as the one I used for the first baby, she's very nice and aside from a few crummy nurses her hospital would be the ideal place to have an emergency taken care of.  I havn't actually seen her this round, I just plan to add her number to the emergency list beside the phone.  

post #55 of 61

I never seriously considered a hb for this pregnancy.  My last pregnancy was miserable, I swore I would never be pregnant again.  This pregnancy is completely differant! No GD, no iron deficiancy, no depression, I'm active...I feel good (outiside of the normal aches and pains).  Now I wish I had considered/planned a homebirth.  I have actually started to seriously think about just *not* going to the hospital, but that's not a good plan for us.  I love reading about y'alls prep, I'm living vicariously through you ladies.

post #56 of 61

My MW just gave me my birth kit list....I was like dizzy.gif Is it reeeaaally that time already? Oh I am SO not ready!

 

I am trying for an HBA2C and, having never had a vaginal birth thus far (and my last birth was a rcs after "failed" HB); I've been pretty lackluster about the whole thing honestly. I just haven't really been able to believe that I may be able to do this...I guess I've been rather disillusioned and maybe even a bit angry at my body. Anyway, the GOOD news is that I'm getting a little excited, or at least there is a spark there. 

 

I'm working on integrating some of the spinningbabies suggestions into my daily routine (I think last baby was misaligned) along with walking, eating well, drinking RRL tea, and that kind of thing. I'm also going to be starting acupuncture once a week and hopefully regular chiropractic soon too! I have my fingers crossed that all that will lead to the third time being the charm! 

post #57 of 61

marilyn82, I'm trying for HBA1C and its a bit much to think about the what-if of a hospital too.  But at least you have a plan A of HB, and the plan B of hospital transfer, instead of being stuck with the default plan C of RCS.   Birth is looming ahead soon for most of us and I am both excited and scared by the prospect.  Mostly I just want it over with fast.  :)

 

faithsstuff, I'm sorry you aren't happy with your plan! Seriously, do not go into labor wondering what if you had had the phone number of someone else by the phone, what if you could have asked for a second opinion when the nurse says something and you were just not sure she is right but you have no options because you were too lazy to ask beforehand... that was my first labor, and I would spare you that humbling memory.  Most midwives for homebirth (and birth centers especially, whose MWS usually do HB as well) have free consultations, just call one please, you can tell them you don't plan to do it and just are trying to learn more.  You'd have looked into it at that point, finding out what it would cost and logistics and phone numbers etc might be worth it just to have the option and have said "no".  I wanted a hospital birth really badly with this one, and talked to everyone (literally), trying to learn about my options and what would be healthiest and statistically safest for my somewhat unique situation.  I feel better having looked into all my options and DECIDING for, instead of defaulting to, my birth plan.

 

Also, the home birth list, I seriously need to get it together.  Its about halfway there but not all in one "there"..... :)

post #58 of 61
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Originally Posted by Marilyn82 View Post

My MW just gave me my birth kit list....I was like dizzy.gif Is it reeeaaally that time already? Oh I am SO not ready!

 

I am trying for an HBA2C and, having never had a vaginal birth thus far (and my last birth was a rcs after "failed" HB); I've been pretty lackluster about the whole thing honestly. I just haven't really been able to believe that I may be able to do this...I guess I've been rather disillusioned and maybe even a bit angry at my body. Anyway, the GOOD news is that I'm getting a little excited, or at least there is a spark there. 

 

I'm working on integrating some of the spinningbabies suggestions into my daily routine (I think last baby was misaligned) along with walking, eating well, drinking RRL tea, and that kind of thing. I'm also going to be starting acupuncture once a week and hopefully regular chiropractic soon too! I have my fingers crossed that all that will lead to the third time being the charm! 

Sure hope things work out this time! DS was asynclitic and it made for a hard labor and birth but we DID do it at home. This time I'm visiting a chiro well in advance to get everything aligned properly. Don't want to have to push 4 hours again!

 

Visiting my midwife tomorrow and I'll be getting our birthing supplies list too. Eeek!

post #59 of 61

I'm getting my supplies ready too. She gave me a list at the interview 21 weeks ago. I've got a few things here and there since. I have most of it, just a few things like a bit more in the snack dept, old sheets and towels, a couple more hats, I think that's it. :)
 

post #60 of 61

I am so behind in the snack department!  I have grand plans of making all these healthy things, but I suspect in the end I will have a bunch of purchased healthy snacks instead....

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