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2nd, 3rd + time Moms What items do you want this time around?

post #1 of 21
Thread Starter 

Or what books are you reading this time around?  

 

This little one will be our 3rd.  I read everything when I was pregnant with my first, then read Spiritual Midwifery while pregnant with #2.

 

I got the Happiest Baby On The Block DVD after #2 was born and learned how to swaddle effectively!  OMG I wish I could afford to give that DVD and a sling to every new mom.  I also got a Moby baby carrier for #2 to add to our collection of ergos, ring slings and mei tais.

 

So this time, the only new thing I can think of that I want try is a didymos wrap.  

 

What do you want to try this time?

 

post #2 of 21

i want a belly band! i never had one and always thought it would be helpful but by that time it seemed a waste for only the last month or so.. this time im going to get one.

post #3 of 21

Hmmm.  I definitely want to read Ina Mae Gaskin's new book.  I want some more comfy maternity dresses for the summer.  I didn't get around to reading Birthing from Within last time so that's on my list.  I did watch the Business of Being Born sequels a few weeks ago (you can watch them online at the website for a fee).  As far as baby items, I finally figured out what kind of diaper covers I like when ds was about 1.  So I need to get covers in smaller sizes, and I'll probably get another dozen newborn prefolds (only had 1 dozen last time, and ds was pretty small) Maybe a third dozen infant prefolds.  I also want another small mattress for the baby, either crib or toddler sized.  Our king sized mattress is on the floor, and ds has slept in that from day 1, but after 2 1/2 years of bed sharing I really miss being able to have my own space, if only for a couple hours between feedings.  I know better now what I like in baby clothes (one piece outfits!) so I'm stocking up on those.  I'd like an ergo this time, but we'll see if I can find a good deal on one. 

post #4 of 21
Thread Starter 

Oh the belly band is nice for postpartum too!  If you just lift your shirt to nurse ( like me) its nice for covering your belly!

 

we had a bassinet with both boys but didn't use it much.  This time I plan to do as much as I can to help this babe sleep a little farther away from me.  DS1 is 6 and DS2 is 2 and they both still sleep with us!

 

post #5 of 21

I second that I know what I like as far as clothes go.  Gowns for the first few months make diaper changing so much quicker, and then one piece sleepers that are cute enough to wear all day!!

 

I'm looking forward to making a sling (well two, one for me and one for DH) DH is either going to be AC/DC fabric or MSU(our college) Mine will be somthing with bright Green and maybe Brown.  

 

I also want to use sleep sacks this time around for the winter. 

post #6 of 21

Yes, I looooove baby gowns in the early days!  All mine were borrowed last time, so I've been scouting thrift stores for good looking ones.  And one piece sleepers and rompers until babe wants to start walking away from the potty (we did partial EC with ds, it was awesome).  After that, pants with all elastic waists (no zippers/snaps!) so they are easy up and down for the little one. 

post #7 of 21

I'm debating whether to buy an infant car seat with a larger height/weight limit.  Our daughter was so huge she outgew it at 6.5 months which meant I had to wake her to take her out of the car if we went somewhere :(  But maybe this one won't be so huge...

 

I need to buy a new comfy chair for nursing since I sold our last one, thinking we were done :(  For the first couple of months nursing upright was much easier for me.

post #8 of 21

Things Id love to get:

a chest freezer- Id love to be able to precook at least a month worth of meals.. Im have pretty rough recoveries.

a small fridge for my room- sounds bad but I get super thirsty when Im nursing and I strongly dislike room temperature drinks. They turn my stomach (yea, I know Im weird orngbiggrin.gif)

a pouch sling that works for my big boobs and a newborn..

some good nursing bras.. like more than the 1 ill fitting one I have now!

a postpartum belt- am I the only one whos belly is painful after birth? Its not cramps (although I get a lot of those) it feels like my stomach is just going to fall off.

 

Things I have on my need to get list but aren't 100% necessary:

a swing or pack-a-play- just someplace safe to put the baby down when I need to go to the bathroom

a co-sleeper- for those nights and DH and I want some alone time

A rocking chair for the playroom so I have a comfortable place to sit and nurse the baby

a nursing stool- I used one with DD2 while she was in the NICU and it helped out so much.. I just never bought one myself

a house keeper for the first couple weeks Bolt.gif

 

post #9 of 21

Okimom, I don't remember my belly hurting exactly but I remember feeling like I had to pick up my belly and hold it in when I was upright the first few days post birth.  I am thinking some kind of support would feel good afterwards.

post #10 of 21

I have some things I need to rebuy because they were given away or sold after ds stopped using them (cloth diapers and sling), but as far as things that I want that are new to a second child...hmmm

 

I guess I really want a place to set baby down in that will be safe from ds. I have my eye on those little hammocks...with the wooden stands? They look AMAZING. But we'll see. 

 

We did partial EC with ds last time starting at 8 weeks and we were fully out of diapers at 15 months, so we'll be starting that right from the beginning with this babe. I'm guessing that I'll probably pick up some little buckets or ikea potties before this one arrives to help with that. 

 

Oh, I plan on making a mobile for this one. We cosleep and stuff, so last time we did ZERO decorating for baby because he was always with us in the sling or we were all asleep, but I imagine this one will have a bit more alone time and I'd like a mobile for him/her to look at. 

 

And, I really would like a rocker this time, but again we'll have to see. I'm not really one on furniture just for baby, but I do remember getting the chance to use one with ds while visiting relatives and it was AMAZING!

 

 

post #11 of 21

Great link to making your own sleep sacks...im going to be trying this for new baby!

 

http://thismamamakesstuff.com/tutorial-rockin-baby-gown-t-shirt-refashion/

post #12 of 21
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And, I really would like a rocker this time, but again we'll have to see. I'm not really one on furniture just for baby, but I do remember getting the chance to use one with ds while visiting relatives and it was AMAZING!

 

 



I still love my rocker.  When we moved here we took it out of DS's bedroom and put it in our playroom (which is in what was intended as the eat-in part of our kitchen).    It's my favorite place to take a break, hang out, read some books and/or have breakfast or a cup of tea.  I also love that it's the comfy chair that everyone seems drawn to while they are visiting and that they hang out there while I am cooking or what not.  It was such a great purchase and we have more than gotten our money's worth out of it.  I'd love to re-cover it  and make it look more upholstered before this baby comes but we'll see.

 

As for things I want to get for this baby, I just ordered a new ring sling sort of as a little celebration after my mid-wife appointment last week.  I'm pretty excited about it.  I borrowed several pouch slings from friends last time and they were okay, but not perfect for me.  I also managed to get a heavily padded ring sling off of free-cycle but again, not my favorite.  I loved my water ring sling with ds but it tended to slip a bit when it wasn't wet, so I decided to get a nice cotton twill one.  I also would love to get the newborn insert for our ergo.  I liked it with DS but, we didn't use it as much as I hope to with this one.  I also didn't get it till he was a year old though.

 

I'm keeping my eyes out for some plain, unadorned clothes without too much writing or pictures on them.  It's really bothered me looking at baby clothes that they all seem to have writing or pictures or other stuff on them.  Many times the things written on them just really rub me the wrong way/are not in line with our parenting values.  I'm trying to knit, and eventually sew some little things for the baby this time.  My favorite things for DS  the winter after he was born were one piece (but footless) knit rompers with hoods.  I had a couple and I'd love to find /make some more of them.  They were so snuggly and easy and looked nice for when we were out and about.

 

We're also going to need some more diapers.  I'm thinking pre-folds and covers to start with (probably some pul and some wool).  I'm going to try to salvage some of our very well loved BG pockets from DS too, but they need some work.

 

I'm also preparing that I may need to do some major pumping to help keep up my supply this time (last time my supply couldn't keep up after 3 months and we had to supplement) so I need to get more of the tubing and other accessories for my pump and some small glass bottles.  I'm also debating an sns system this time but I guess we'll wait to see what my supply does before we make that investment.

 

I'd also really like to get a moses basket and rocking stand this time, but we'll see.

post #13 of 21
I want a swing again. I had 1 with our 1st, but I lent it to someone who broke it. Then with our 2nd I was convinced I didn't need baby gear crowding the house. So, this time I will buy one!! smile.gif
post #14 of 21
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I'm keeping my eyes out for some plain, unadorned clothes without too much writing or pictures on them.  It's really bothered me looking at baby clothes that they all seem to have writing or pictures or other stuff on them.  Many times the things written on them just really rub me the wrong way/are not in line with our parenting values.  I'm trying to knit, and eventually sew some little things for the baby this time.  My favorite things for DS  the winter after he was born were one piece (but footless) knit rompers with hoods.  I had a couple and I'd love to find /make some more of them.  They were so snuggly and easy and looked nice for when we were out and about.

 

 

 Yes, this is me too! With ds I was just excited to be having a baby and didn't put much thought into what I was putting him in, but this go around, I have some specifics in mind for clothing that I'd like to find. Particularly unadorned, not cutesy, and gender neutral without being all yellow, green, and white. lol I have been on the lookout for something to buy recently because it feels like I'm hitting this big milestone trimester-wise and I wanted to celebrate, but it's been near impossible to find any baby clothing that's attracted me enough! Also, I liked the one-pieces with ds, but once we started ECing, we really needed two piece items...so since we want to start that earlier this go around, I'm thinking of warm newborn clothing that is more in the t-shirt/pants realm. 

 

 

post #15 of 21

Slightly off topic, but I wanted to comment on the sayings on clothing... Some I find cute (Mommy loves me, Daddy loves me)  but the, my Uncle is HOT and single is WAY over my line.... And why can I not find any cute little girl clothes that have no pink or bows on them, Really?  Why is it all PINK (Which I horridly dislike, so I'm sure if I have a girl most people will be calling her a he as she will have minimal pink in her closet)

 

Also this doesn't get any better as they get older!!  Some of the shirts are sending such awful messages to kids, and other adults around them.  The first day of school many children have shirts that say things like teachers worst nightmare (as a teacher, it is hard not to judge the parents, or in some situations the kids) or I hate homework, school sucks... I understand that many people don't think its a big deal, but if your kid is told school is boring and not fun, they will think that.  Then what do they think about learning in general.  AGGGGHHHHHH!!!!

 

Sry this just really bothers me.  We watch TV and play Video games, but we also talk about what is and is not appropriate which is necessary as my parents think letting my 8 year old play World of Warcraft on their computer (with them playing on a different one next to him) is completely OK! Lets not open that can of worms...

 

Back on topic, I would also love a swing of some sort, a small travel sized on.  DS slept in his swing or in his car seat (which we swung by hand, can you say arms of steel!) after he had a cold at around 4 months until 8 months... also I think the dog would stay away from it if it was swinging.

post #16 of 21

Dont get me started on children's clothing! I have a horrible time finding clothing for my children. 1) we are pretty modest as a family and I find it an issue to get clothing that doesn't make it seem like Im dressing my 5 yo up to look like a teen 2) doesn't have offensive sayings on it, sorry but I find having a shirt or swim suit that says "sexy thing" offensive and 3) is something my children like. My girls are kind of picky with what they like. I learned to sew just so I can dress my kids

 

I got a cute black and silver dress just in case this baby is a girl.. Ill add it to the gold one I have in the closet. I love baby clothing that is not the "traditional" colors. I still will probably end up with a ton of pink from either hand me downs (which a couple people have already offered when I find the gender).. A couple of outfits I got when we lived in Japan also are still wearable. I love Japanese outfits, there are no "boy" or "girl" colors. You will find boy outfits with pink and purple and girls outfits with blue. Its actually nice because you can kind of use them for either gender.

post #17 of 21

I agree about the clothes too. Since birth DS has worn mostly browns, greens & grays, plain blues, even blacks, in case we had a girl next. Actually baby gap carries plain coloured t-shirts, long sleeved ( a small collection, but NO label) and they sometimes have deals (2 for $ etc) - I know they are expensive otherwise. They are good quality and will be in good shape or #2. Most of our "labeled" or really boy things have been gifted to us, so we use those for play clothes. Even the snowsuits I got were brown, so a girl could wear them.

 

There are many things already mentioned that I agree I want for #2, I actually am getting a little excited about getting it all ready again :)

post #18 of 21

You know, lol, it's funny, but ds has worn an awful lot of girl clothing in his 3 years. Not because I'm so partial to a girl or girl clothing but because they often seem more comfortable for the stage he was at! Like, I LOVE leggings for when they first start crawling....they need some covering on those little knees, but they also need form fitting so that their clothes aren't dragging them down, and I've even used them as long underwear of sorts under snow pants or whatever when it's been cold. 

 

And tunic shirts...when they're little little, I LOVE them, easy for diaper changes. The gowns never worked well for us, ds always got his legs out of them and they ended up hiked up to his chest. lol And when he was younger, I used girl shorts for him in neutral colors because boy shorts were just too long and seemed to rub his legs wrong when he was first learning to walk ect... the same with neutral looking girl jeans. 

 

Now that he's three, he cares a bit more, so we're pretty much all boy clothing now, but this baby will certainly be dressed in a mixture of genders along the way!

 

And, also funny enough, no matter how much blue and screaming boy obvious his clothing is, he still gets called a she by EVERYONE. lol Sometimes people even ask me if I'm sure he's a boy...like, ummm, well, yes actually I am positive that my boy is actually a boy. lol 

post #19 of 21

This will be our third as well and I feel like I'm just coasting from the other two, lol. I gotta say, I am totally into long t shirts or whatever for the first few months, so diaper changes are easier. It really helps a ton. I don't know if there is anything new I want to try. Really, just be more prepared for the new baby adjustment.

post #20 of 21

Oh, and I highly recommend a didy wrap!!! :-) Love, love, love them.

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