It's been a long time since we've had a large family thread. I find that I run into issues that are rather unique and I'd love to share ideas with other mom's who are also in the middle of the chaos of a large family! I can't be the only one.
I'm the mom of eight. Our oldest just turned 15 at the end of March, and our youngest, twin girls, turned 1 at the beginning of March. Dd, 3yo, is currently asking for a new baby, so I guess the excitement of the twins have officially worn off. LOL Breastfeeding is still keeping AF away, so she'll have to wait a bit.
I am exhausted. These twins gang up on me. Lily was a good sleeper for awhile, but Lucy made up for her. Now it seems in the past few days they have switched places. Dh and I have postulated that a Freaky Friday experienced has happened between them. Lily was our passive, easy going baby, and now she's a crank. Lucy has gone the opposite. I don't know, but Lily has been climbing all over me all night long, and I have had exactly 2 full nights of sleep since they were born, and most nights I don't get more than 2 hours sleep in a row and have a baby or two latched all night long. Also, dh works full time, and is in school 3/4 time. He is graduating this semester with an Associates in Digital Media, but we have decided that he'll re-enroll to add an AS in Web Development to increase his marketability. The downside to this is that he is gone before we are awake in the morning and on school nights (from 2-4 days a week depending on the semester) he does not get home until 9:30-10 pm. Often, I feel like a single mother, though I do have his support and contact via Gmail chat and stuff. But I spend a lot of time feeling overwhelmed and inadequate, especially has the house descends into disaster and such.
I would love a little more interaction from other moms! I'm an introvert who has really struggled with connecting with others in real life in my community. It's a very small town that isn't always so welcoming to outsiders (though technically, dh's great-grandparents are from here, but that side of the family has moved away). Really, I just don't get a lot of support from within my extended family or from my community for our chosen life style.
Given all that, as an introvert, I'm really struggling to find quiet time to recharge my batteries. I'm trying to work hard on my habit of yelling. My threshold is super thin, feeling almost constantly stressed. I can tolerate childish behavior to a point, and then I lose it. I have four home with me all day every day, so when the other four get home, I'm usually near my limit. I don't know that home is a very peaceful place to be a lot of time and I want to change that for all of us. Thoughts, ideas, suggestions?