I just need general opinions from people who aren't bias. So please, if anyone will weigh in and be completely honest that would be great.
So, my mom chain smokes in her house. It reeks. When she comes over I make her change into one of my shirts and wash her hands. Just recently I brought the kids to her house and it smelled so bad we spent the few hours we were there outside on the porch because I didn't want the kids in the house.
Last week she asked to have the kids over. I told her I was uncomfortable with it because even though I know she wouldn't smoke in the house when they are there, all of her stuff is covered in the smell and chemicals. So she spent all day yesterday cleaning the carpet and wiping everything down, then got mad when we told her we still did not want our kids there.
DD1 was recently diagnosed with asthma, and we have it under very good control right now.
Anyways, she is very upset because she was excited to have the kids over. I feel bad that I hurt her feelings, but I also feel like I need to think of my kids health first.
Are we being unreasonable, or would you make the same choice?