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I hope it's a phase and we can either move past it, get thru it, grow from it -- and whatever happens, be happy with the outcome.  I don't think it's fair to stay together if we are both unhappy, just for the kids.  Especially if they are grown.  I don't think it's taking the union of marriage lightly, but we are only legally married b/c we aren't catholic.  Not to say I don't value marriage and what it is or what it means, but emotions aside, it's a contract.  Sounds heartless.  I know.  

If we are going to get thru this, we both need to TRY.  And sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to try, he just wants things to go back the way they were.

I don't though, not necessarily.  I love these kids and I love being a SAHM.  I love that his work allows me to do what I do.  I love all of that.  I just wish it didn't all come at the cost of him being upset or angry or both. 

 

I was wearing him in the Boba around town today getting lunch and coffee, and I got so many compliments.  I love that Boba.  I'm so glad I have it.  I'm thinking of selling my Storch.  What price do you think would be fair but not too cheap?  I was thinking like $40-$50?  Is that too high for a used wrap?  I have no idea.

 

When I say I would stay together, even if I was unhappy, for the kids I mean only when they are young. I'm not sure at what teenage stage I would feel comfortable with it.

 

From what I have seen second hand, it is REALLY hard on young kids to go from house to house. It has to be confusing to have different rules, and different expectations. Plus, on a selfish level, I wouldn't want any other woman that DH would get with to raise them in any aspect. Selfish, I know. 

 

Noooooow, if DH were abusive and/or an alcoholic or something of that nature then I think that is something where it is definitely worth any other obstacles to just get out. 

 

Marriage is just a legal contract........I totally get why people get divorced. I am just glad that I am Catholic so it brings the other aspect into it that the civic law doesn't have. Only because I have the personality where I don't know if I would actually *get* a divorce, but I would think about it alot. That "what if" would always be in the back of my mind driving me crazy! LOL

 

I think used wraps (if they are in good condition) can go for a decent amount. It is almost impossible to get them cheaper, so even the 10 or 15 bucks off a new one people like. 

Plus, you can always ask for that much and then go lower if you don't get any interest.

 

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Abuse issues or alcoholism/drug abuse are obviously game changers in my book. But short of that? There's not really anything that DH could do or not do to make me want to get divorced. We were actually talking about this the other night. Watching the emotional pain he experiences being away from the big kids so much is awful. There's no way I could put him through that with DD or likewise imagine not seeing DD every day. Or not spending every holiday with her. That is unfathomable to me. And DD ADORES DH. There's no way I could keep her from him. Just won't happen.

 

I'm a product of divorce. My father is an alcoholic and had started using cocaine. It wasn't a healthy situation to keep us in so my mom left. They are still friends, it just wasn't a good idea for us to be around him on a daily basis. He still has issues with alcohol but isn't using drugs, at least to my knowledge.

 

I think if you are in a relationship that is having a rough spot, and you recognize that and can see where there are problems, you should take some efforts to make things work. I know I struggle with that. I will do ANYTHING for the kids regardless of how tired I am. But if DH asks me to do something? Eh, I usually find a lot of excuses. I'm working on that. It's hard. Making a marriage work is tough! But like Annie, as a Catholic, divorce is not an option.

 

I got 3 used GroVia dipes yesterday off craigslist. A coworker's wife was selling them so that was super convienent! I'm excited to try them. I also got a Wrapsody Bali Breeze woven wrap used from a lady here in town. It's lovely! Just to give you an idea of pricing, it's normally $75 new and she charged me $30. I've done a front carry w/DD and attempted a back carry but she was a little too squirmy. Will need to try again.

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The reason I say that I think the adults should do everything they can to overcome their issues and stay together for the kids is because most reasons I hear for divorce are really so trivial. Falling out of love is a big one. Of course you aren't going to have that exciting love that you had when you were first together. A lot of that physiological and driven by the biological need to procreate. That's going to wear off after a while. Then you have to find other reasons to love each other and stay together.

There are dealbreakers. Violence/abuse is the only one that's a definite one for me. Substance abuse depends on whether or not the person is trying to stop. You may have to separate for a while in such a situation but, hopefully, things can come back together. Cheating is a bigger one for me than substance abuse. I don't think it's always an unforgivable offense but I don't know if I could ever get over it and trust the other person again.

I think one of the best things any individual can do to keep a marriage together is take care of the other person without any expectation of reciprocity. Like Annie said, if I do for my kids like that, I should also do for my husband like that. It is harder to do for another adult, though, and I definitely struggle with that.

I think I've decided that I'm definitely going to stay with my mom for a while. I'm depressed and can't be by myself right now. It's just a matter of getting myself moving and getting everything organized and packed, which is really hard to do when all I want to do is curl up in a ball. Trying to figure out what to pack for all of us for 6 weeks is very overwhelming, especially at this time of year when the weather can sometimes be hot and sometimes be cold. I feel like I need to pack every article of clothing we have, which is unrealistic.

I also made an appointment to possibly get some medication. I can't do acupuncture anymore so medication is my only option.
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1st - Carrie - what color is your storch and how long? for that price I will buy it from you - Storchs are great toddler wraps and pretty indestructible. (ya'll can see where my priorities are!)

 

DH and  I got to talk a bit yesterday and DTD. gah. I am not doing that on the floor anymore! so sore today. Need Norah to have her own bed - at least for a little while, so we can have the bed back!!! between those 2 things, I think we are in a better place, and I don't feel as much as an emotional wreck.

 

I think I could move past cheating. Depending on the offense - like, were you stupid and slipped up once? I can get over that. Long term affair that was both emotional and physical? IDK - that would be much, much, harder. physical, emotional, drug and substance - I don't need to life with that or have our kids subject to it. deal breaker.

 

MW - I know the drive sucks. and being with your mom might be tough - but I hope that going there helps lift you out of the funk. You can see Sean and visit with friends. Who knows, it might even be good for Ryan to be on his own for a bit, though Dylan will miss him :)

 

Also - if the meds help, take them.  Kids need a healthy you. Mentally and otherwise.

 

Annie - hooray on the craigslist finds! I am not doing CL anymore, I use a local FB swap page. Less trolls and scams. CL used to be so awesome!

 

Carrie - do the two of you have any mutual interests? DH and bonded over WoW for a while (for me, it was an "if I can't beat 'em, join 'em" sort of thing) we both love shopping, natural stuff, etc. Yours likes to work out, is he interested in jogging/running with you?

 

Oh, and I love wearing Norah or Gabe in public - mostly such great comments! makes my day ;)

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It's so funny.  When I was cleaning up yesterday and then out walking with the kids I was thinking.  If I spent anywhere near as much time/effort on my relationship with DH that I do on trying to talk to and communicate with my 3 year old, maybe things would be better.  I'll research and techniques and dig deep to find patience and respect and have complete and total unconditional love - sure I get angry but I make sure N knows I still love her even when I get mad.  I need to find it in my heart to try this with my marriage.  And then I come here and read two posts saying almost the same thing.  Nice!

 

MW - I fully agree with what you said about finding other reasons to love each other and stay together.  

In our most recent talks, I've been bringing up that we need to get back to doing things for each other w/o expecting a thank you or a medal.  I'm sick of him announcing that he did XY or Z b/c he wants me to thank him.  I don't walk around announcing everything I did so he can thank me.  I'm just tired of it.  

The other night he was so grouchy and banging things around b/c he didn't get a chance to work out.  I was like listen, knock it off.  I don't know what you want but you have to stop this attitude.  He said he was mad b/c he took too long out shopping with Nora, and mad b/c Nora's party at school went on too long and he didn't get to work out.  I was livid! Both things are for your DAUGHTER.  Get OVER IT.  Be happy she had a fun party, be glad you took her shopping and got to hang out with her.  argue.gif

Regardless I said I was sorry he didn't get to do what he wanted to do.  It sucks that some times our needs come last or aren't met at all.  I try to feel for him b/c I do in some ways get what he's saying (but I think I deal with it better b/c I have to).

But then he wanted me to thank him for doing the dishes.  What?  No no.  The dishes are part of living here and being in this family.  I'll thank him for that but I won't say thanks for doing dishes.

 

DH and I have a ton in common.  Just right now I'm having trouble seeing it.  

 

He bought a groupon to drive a Ferrari Scuderia racing car on a real track, I think 3 laps.  Normally it's a couple hundred dollars, but this was a good deal - it was only $99.  He told me about it all excited and I was like, omg that is awesome! I said I wanted to go watch -- but part of me is really jealous b/c he bought it w/o even asking me if I'd like to do it.  I would SO love to do it.  I feel like he doesn't even think about me sometimes.

 

((hugs)) Mw about how you're feeling.  I'm glad you're doing something about it regardless.  I can't imagine packing to be away for that long.  I'd probably pack basics and plan to shop while I'm there.

 

Lemme get back to you on the wrap.  I'm not sure the size and if I can get more for it, I'll try! orngbiggrin.gif

 

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See, Carrie, being upset about the party taking too long is the kind of selfishness that fathers have that I was talking about. I don't think it's fair to hate them for it. I mean, I'm not saying that to bash men or anything like that. I think they just don't realize what they are doing when they say or do stuff like that. I don't think it occurs to them to think in terms of having the privilege of doing something with this precious child that makes her happy (which is the most wonderful gift anyone can get). I think mother's have those thoughts, too. I'm sure I have daily thoughts about how I wish I could just sit and knit all day long rather than taking care of the kids. That's not quite the same thing because that's work as opposed to fun but it's the same feeling of wanting time to myself and not having to give it to anyone else.

I'd be upset about the car thing, too. That would be like Sean getting some great deal on SCUBA diving but only for himself. I would be very angry about that. But, the thing to do is remain calm and tell him how you feel about it and why rather than getting angry and yelling or not speaking or whatever. Not quite on the same level but I went through something like that with Sean after he came home from his first deployment. He'd stop at the store while he was out and pick himself up a treat and bring it home but not have anything for the rest of us. Ryan and I both felt hurt that Sean didn't think to get something for us. It wasn't that big of a deal to me but it was to Ryan, who was 14 at the time. Once I presented it to Sean that way he got it and was much better at thinking about us.

Sean is actually really good about being home and available. That's one thing that I could not abide, having my husband always going out doing his own thing and leaving me alone with the kids. Not that yours is doing that, Carrie, but I've known some women in those kinds of relationships. I knew one woman who had to take all of her kids to store with her every time she went even when your husband was home because he refused to take care of them. That wasn't his job even though she WOH, too.

I think a big part of the problem with Sean and I is that we don't have anything in common anymore. We've been apart so much that we've developed our own separate interests that don't involve the other at all. We used to have exercise in common, being in the outdoors enjoying things like hiking. In Hawaii we liked to go to the beach and kayak and hike to the waterfalls. Having more kids and no one around to watch them has taken that away from me. I've had to find interests that I can do at home with the babies and kids. Plus, the fact that there is nothing like that to do around here that's close and driving an hour or more to do anything every week with a little baby and car sick kid is just not going to happen. Sean still exercises every day. He has to for his job. I'm just not into that so much anymore.

We disagree on politics and religion and the environment and how to eat and live healthily. It's really hard to find anything to talk about that we don't end up arguing about. Even the kids. Obviously, we have them in common and we both love them very much but we disagree a lot on how to handle situations with them. I think if we weren't separated so much we wouldn't be so distant. Unfortunately, Sean hasn't been home long enough for us to get back to each other yet.
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I think daddies just have a different experience with kids. I know that my DH and my BIL don't have much patience to let kids do an activity until they are done. I don't think it's the most fun thing in the world but I have no problem sitting at the park for hours while the kids play. As long as everyone is happy and we don't have another activity to go to, I see no reason in rushing off to do something else. My DH loses interest in about 20 mins. When we go to the science museum, he has to take breaks to get coffee, check his phone, go to the bathroom, etc. I can sit and watch them do the activities or do the activities with them the whole time. shrug.gif

 

MW, I think it's great that you've decided to consider the idea of medication. I think that using medication to help a chemical imbalance for a short time is exactly what it's there for. And being up here will help your mood as well, hopefully. I don't know if I could stay with my mom that long. When I stayed with her for a week, it was getting old. But if it was to be near DH, I could probably suck it up. As far as clothes, we have some cooler days but it's going to be mostly warm from here on out. I would pack two pairs of pants, two long sleeve shirts and then maybe 3-4 pairs of shorts and 3-4 short sleeve shirts for E & K. Also remember there are plenty of Old Navys, Targets, etc up near your mom so if you need to pick up something for weird weather, you'll be fine. ANNNNNNNNNDDDDDDD, you get to see ME! jumpers.gif
 

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I know, Annie. I was thinking that we'd be able to get together. And, Sean and I could have a date with my mom to babysit. Maybe we could even get a whole night at his hotel with just Dylan. winky.gifwinky.gif The nice thing about being at my mom's is that it's close enough that I can come home early if things aren't working out. Mainly, I feel like I need to not be alone right now with the depression. I'm not so depressed that I'm dangerous but I've had a few nights when I've been pretty immobile by myself, if that makes any sense. Unfortunately, I'm at the point that the doctors say I need to be on antidepressants forever. No short term meds treatment. Of course, I can always choose whether or not to follow their advice but it's not an issue of just taking meds for a short while to get over a hump.

Sean recommended the same thing wrt what to pack.

Sean and I are the opposite with the interest in doing kid things. Well, make that play/outdoor kid things. He's not any better than me when the boys want to browse TRU for an hour. lol.gif I get bored very quickly at the park or a museum with the kids. I'm better if I'm with someone else I can talk to but don't last long by myself.
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We always try to do outings with people (museums and zoos and stuff) more fun for everybody! but sometimes it's not possible and we go it alone anyway.

 

Watching a friend's baby today, with a cast on her leg. would you believe I can still wrap her? the cast is done in such a way that her legs still froggy position really well. Thank God, because especially with the cast, she's a chunk!

 

Also, had a babywearing playdate  at my house, the kids had a blast, got soooo dirty, but wore them out. Hooray!

 

Man, I am tired now, but at least the mama friend whose baby I am watching is buying dinner :)

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We go bowling and to the park with other homeschoolers. That's usually pretty good because I have other homeschooling moms to talk to. But, recently I've been getting a weird vibe from one of them. I thought we were becoming good friends but she suddenly stopped texting and emailing me to do things. The last two times I saw her at homeschool group stuff she has talked over me and contradicted just about everything I say in what sounds like a snide way to me. I think maybe she has some issues with the fact that I unschool while she's more rigid with her homeschooling. I don't have a problem with what she does with her kids but I do talk about how and why I unschool. I kind of wonder if she's taken it as some sort of criticism or judgment of her.

For example, I was contacted by another homeschooler who wants to start unschooling her youngest child. I invited her to bowling with our group so she could meet other homeschoolers in the area and we could talk about unschooling. The only reason I talked so much about unschooling that time was because that was the main reason for this other person coming. This other person kept interjecting herself into our conversation to make points about how not everyone has to do things that way and how and why she does things the way she does with her kids. She made some comment about NFL/AP and how there are extreme ends to the discipline issue and looked right at me and said something like, "with some people being very permissive." IDK I got the feeling she was trying to insult me.

Because of that I haven't been motivated to go to the groups very often lately. There are only 3 of us who are really active, go to almost everything every week, and she is one of them.
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We go bowling and to the park with other homeschoolers. That's usually pretty good because I have other homeschooling moms to talk to. But, recently I've been getting a weird vibe from one of them. I thought we were becoming good friends but she suddenly stopped texting and emailing me to do things. The last two times I saw her at homeschool group stuff she has talked over me and contradicted just about everything I say in what sounds like a snide way to me. I think maybe she has some issues with the fact that I unschool while she's more rigid with her homeschooling. I don't have a problem with what she does with her kids but I do talk about how and why I unschool. I kind of wonder if she's taken it as some sort of criticism or judgment of her.
For example, I was contacted by another homeschooler who wants to start unschooling her youngest child. I invited her to bowling with our group so she could meet other homeschoolers in the area and we could talk about unschooling. The only reason I talked so much about unschooling that time was because that was the main reason for this other person coming. This other person kept interjecting herself into our conversation to make points about how not everyone has to do things that way and how and why she does things the way she does with her kids. She made some comment about NFL/AP and how there are extreme ends to the discipline issue and looked right at me and said something like, "with some people being very permissive." IDK I got the feeling she was trying to insult me.
Because of that I haven't been motivated to go to the groups very often lately. There are only 3 of us who are really active, go to almost everything every week, and she is one of them.

 

Yeah - from what you say there I think she has a problem with you. Weird how some people get that way. There are so many different personalities out there that one form of parenting is never going to completely work for everyone. I don't get why people take such offense at other people's parenting styles......

 

I am also one of those people who get very disinterested very quickly at a park or the zoo (we have been to our zoo like 50 times, it is basically a hike at this point! LOL) or something like that.

 

HOWEVER - I think I will be more able to hang out and just have fun and let the kids have fun once all my kids are about 2 1/2 +. Little ones are so much energy when you are out and about that I think I get tired. I mean, when I am at the park I can't really just run around and have fun OR sit on the bench and relax - I have to make sure A doesn't run off into the woods. Later this summer I am sure she will want to go up ladders and such and I will have to help her up and go up with her again and again (did you all read about riding down the slides with babies????). Stuff like that makes me bored and tired.

 

I really hope I can hold off on getting pregnant for a long time or forever. I am looking forward to just having fun with the kiddo's! Not that I would be sad or mad if I got pregnant......I would just rather not. I almost feel like I am over the hump of having kids.....like another one wouldn't even be any harder! lol.gif

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Little ones are so much energy when you are out and about that I think I get tired. I mean, when I am at the park I can't really just run around and have fun OR sit on the bench and relax

That's how I feel right now. Dylan isn't walking on his own now but he's not content sitting still. I can't put him down on the ground because he puts everything in his mouth. So, I have to either be constantly moving around with him or sitting with a fussing, squirming baby. Exhausting! If I could sit and knit while the boys played, I could probably hang out for quite a while.

I didn't read the article about sliding down slides with babies. I've never done that. I saw the headline so I assume it was something about babies getting injured from that.

If you commit to NFP, you don't ever have to be pg again, right?

That's not something I need to worry about at all still. For one, AF still hasn't returned and my CF has actually gotten less fertile looking. Plus, Sean showed absolutely no interest in dtd the entire time he was home. He has gotten that way more and more with each deployment. I'm beginning to wonder if it's some sort of PTSD thing. Or maybe he's just getting old and tired and has Low T. lol.gif Frankly, I am sort of glad about it because I'm really not in the mood and don't have the energy. It's kind of funny because I'm not worried at all that he's not attracted to me anymore like I imagine many women would be. I'm relieved that he's not bothering me.
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If you commit to NFP, you don't ever have to be pg again, right?
That's not something I need to worry about at all still. For one, AF still hasn't returned and my CF has actually gotten less fertile looking. Plus, Sean showed absolutely no interest in dtd the entire time he was home. He has gotten that way more and more with each deployment. I'm beginning to wonder if it's some sort of PTSD thing. Or maybe he's just getting old and tired and has Low T. lol.gif Frankly, I am sort of glad about it because I'm really not in the mood and don't have the energy. It's kind of funny because I'm not worried at all that he's not attracted to me anymore like I imagine many women would be. I'm relieved that he's not bothering me.

 

It is just with my crazy cycles it is hard to do NFP..........blah, obviously I know I can DO it, it's just I have a looooooot of fertile years ahead of me.

 

I am sure I don't have to tell you since you know your body so well, but just be careful! I get that you are heading into less fertile years, but I know of at least 3 ladies at my church who had a "oops" baby at 43+ (one even at like 46!!) and I know for a fact that they were oops babies and fertility was not helped in any way. I am assuming they were trying to chart, but their cycles started going nuts. At least I will have practice with that when I get to that age! LOL

 

OMG - I wish my husband had low T! I have had evil thoughts of giving him something that lowers libido............he would definitely kill me though lol.gif

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Oh, yeah. I meant I don't have to worry about it right now mainly because Sean isn't home and when he's been home he's shown absolutely no interest in dtd. We haven't dtd since I got pg with Dylan. That's 18 months and counting. Of course, a year of that time doesn't really count since Sean was in Afghanistan. Once AF returns or I start getting fertile CF and we actually dtd, we'll take precautions. We'll probably use condoms because Sean is, obviously, not very good at withdrawal. winky.gif

Charting/NFP is especially useful for irregular cycles. I imagine it's hard being Catholic, though, because you are supposed to abstain, right? You can't use a barrier method or withdrawal or even other means of being intimate (unless you're not a very good Catholic like Sean). I guess you might get a week right after AF and then about 2 weeks after O but might have to abstain for a looong time in between.

I am having a really hard time with Kellen right now. He is a one man wrecking crew, destroying just about everything he touches. The most recent thing is today he actually knocked down the maple tree in our backyard. I've been trying to get a tree growing back there for something like 3 years. This was our third tree and the only one that survived and was growing and he just broke it off right at the base of the trunk.

He said he was trying to fix it. Sean planted it crooked (because he doesn't pay attention to details like that and won't listen to me when I try to advise him) and then stuck in a metal post to tie the tree to so that it would stand straight. The ties broke off so he just wrapped the tree around the pole but the tree kept popping off. Of course, that wouldn't help it from growing crooked anyway since he planted it that way. Kellen was trying to wrap it back around the pole and it broke. I got so angry because I had told him numerous times not to touch the tree. I have told him I don't know how many times to come get me for stuff like that. I could tell he felt really bad but I couldn't stop myself from chastising him. Now I fell really bad about that as well. I don't know how to get this kid to understand not to do things like that.
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K is 8? Maybe another 10 years or so. It is so hard to not be mad when really a kid is not trying to do anything deliberately harmful. He had no intention of breaking the tree, right? Can he help plant a new one?

 

IDK how to fix it, because if alot of the destructiveness is not really intentional (like the tree) - it's not like he can go without touching stuff. I know I have those days where it seems I screw up or break everything I lay hands on.

 

Dude, that is a long time with no DTD. I can't imagine. I have Catholic friends and I can't say whether they use barrier methods or not. I do know they are NFP all the way - no hormones - and definitely plan their families.

 

I am on day 49 of this cycle. ugh. On one hand, I really could do without AF right now, I am not looking forward to it. on the other, I am ready for this cycle to be done.

 

Annie, I have heard those babies called "the Change babies" before . . . one of the reasons why DH is getting snipped when we are done.

 

I have slid down slides with babies - but then, like anything, I think you just need to be careful and not reckless. I have only done it once with DD and I don't think she cared much for it at the time.

 

DS is still so little, that unless we are at the park with good friends whose littles he will follow (he is such a follower), I have to do stuff with him.

 

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No, Kat, Kellen is only 4! It was a small tree. If he were 8, I'd be much more upset.

I don't think I want to bother planting another one since we'll be moving in about a year. It seems pointless, unless I could get a really big one. I guess it might be worth it to spend a few hundred on a tree that the 4yo can't destroy. lol.gif

Yeah, he's not purposely being destructive. He's either being curious, just having fun and getting carried away or trying to help with something.

Yeah, that is a long time without dtd. We were afraid to dtd early in my pregnancy because of my miscarriage risk so that was about 3-4 months. Then Sean was gone for about 8 months. He was home for 2 weeks but I was still having problems with my pelvis, SPD. That wasn't actually completely healed until March or April of this year. Then Sean was gone again for another 3+ months. He was home for about a month and then gone again. I'm not one of those people who can just jump back in bed with my husband after he's been essentially absent from my life for a year. It's sort of like living with a stranger when he gets home and I need to reconnect in other ways before I'm comfortable with sex. And, of course, we've been having issues with that so I never felt any kind of connection to him.

I need to get packing today. We actually slept really well last night, two 4 hour stretches between nursing, very little squirming, and not getting up until 9:30. I wish I knew what the difference was so I could reproduce it.
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I forget who is older sometimes, K or E (I know the ages generally based on your siggy) - and that makes sense, re: DTD. everyone is different - for me, I feel disconnected when we aren't DTD. and DTD generally fixes that (it's not that I am not still irritated about stupid things, but makes them easier to live with - and easier to talk about solving)

 

packing. I don't like packing. wish you luck!

 

Have some fun things planned later this week. Think I need to work on potty training more. I am lazy about it. but at least DS is getting better about tellingme when he poops. Pee . . . .a whole nother story.

 

 

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I've got a sick baby!  mecry.gif  Double ear infection and a sore throat.  Poor baby Finn! Send all your get well vibes, ladies!  We need them! 

 

His temp got as high as 103.5, I said this cannot be teething.  Something is wrong.  My gut and mama intuition were right.  

 

Anyway, I'm reading along but my hands are literally tied lately b/w him and Nora.  Plus I'm really trying to cut back my computer time.  I'm thinking I need to set up a spot out of the way, and keep the computer closed so I'm not always tempted.  Right now it's on the table and always on.  With a laptop its so easy to just grab it and check every time I pass it.  I was thinking if I clear a spot in my room to set it up, I'll have to actually LEAVE the main part of the house and that wouldn't feel right.  Also, maybe it'll help me keep my room clean?  lol.gif

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Aw, I'm sorry Finn is so sick. I was beginning to wonder from what you were posting on FB if it was something more than teething. I hope he feels better soon.

I know what you mean about the laptop. Mine is always open and on and right next to my spot on the couch. I think periodically about turning it off or putting it somewhere else. The only problem is that almost all of my knitting patterns are on the computer, many online. I don't want to print them all out, one because of the waste of paper and two because then I'd have to find somewhere to put all those papers.
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So sorry Finn is sick! I can't imagine double-ear infection! Yikes!

 

You know MW, I would get frustrated about the tree thing too but you're right. He didn't do it on purpose. After the four big kids, I've just accepted that anything in the house or car are fair game for getting destroyed. They aren't being destructive, it's just collateral damage from them being kids and exploring. DSD 14 is going through a painting phase. We bought her paints and a portable easel for christmas last year. Our entire house, except for the tiny kitchen and bathroom floors are covered in carpet. You can see where I'm going with this! innocent.gif She's not painting on the carpet, but stuff happens. I just have to let it go. And honestly, I make mistakes too. I remember a few years ago I had spent the weekend steam-cleaning the carpet. It was all clean and dry and I was sitting on the livingroom floor playing a board game with them. I was also enjoying a glass of red wine. What happened next? You guessed it. Red wine all over the newly cleaned cream colored carpet. mischievous.gif

 

We'll be charting indefinitely. And yes, we're supposed to abstain during fertile times but that's not working right now. redface.gif I'd like to get back to doing that but honestly I'm scared of getting pregnant right now. I do NOT want to lose my milk supply before next spring.
 

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