I hope it's a phase and we can either move past it, get thru it, grow from it -- and whatever happens, be happy with the outcome. I don't think it's fair to stay together if we are both unhappy, just for the kids. Especially if they are grown. I don't think it's taking the union of marriage lightly, but we are only legally married b/c we aren't catholic. Not to say I don't value marriage and what it is or what it means, but emotions aside, it's a contract. Sounds heartless. I know.
If we are going to get thru this, we both need to TRY. And sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to try, he just wants things to go back the way they were.
I don't though, not necessarily. I love these kids and I love being a SAHM. I love that his work allows me to do what I do. I love all of that. I just wish it didn't all come at the cost of him being upset or angry or both.
I was wearing him in the Boba around town today getting lunch and coffee, and I got so many compliments. I love that Boba. I'm so glad I have it. I'm thinking of selling my Storch. What price do you think would be fair but not too cheap? I was thinking like $40-$50? Is that too high for a used wrap? I have no idea.
When I say I would stay together, even if I was unhappy, for the kids I mean only when they are young. I'm not sure at what teenage stage I would feel comfortable with it.
From what I have seen second hand, it is REALLY hard on young kids to go from house to house. It has to be confusing to have different rules, and different expectations. Plus, on a selfish level, I wouldn't want any other woman that DH would get with to raise them in any aspect. Selfish, I know.
Noooooow, if DH were abusive and/or an alcoholic or something of that nature then I think that is something where it is definitely worth any other obstacles to just get out.
Marriage is just a legal contract........I totally get why people get divorced. I am just glad that I am Catholic so it brings the other aspect into it that the civic law doesn't have. Only because I have the personality where I don't know if I would actually *get* a divorce, but I would think about it alot. That "what if" would always be in the back of my mind driving me crazy! LOL
I think used wraps (if they are in good condition) can go for a decent amount. It is almost impossible to get them cheaper, so even the 10 or 15 bucks off a new one people like.
Plus, you can always ask for that much and then go lower if you don't get any interest.