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Edited by birdie.lee - 5/9/13 at 8:12am
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Thanks Tear and Birdie, I'm definitely cutting out the coffee and going to cut back on the dairy too. Hopefully we can decrease the spitting up. He's still really fussy at the boob (pulling off screaming) so I'm trying to figure that out too.

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Hi ladies!  I know I've been MIA a lot, but working from home with a LO is wearing me out!  But please do add me to this thread (Jacob born 10/4/11).

 

I was actually coming back to the forum for sleep advice.  Jacob slept wonderfully for the first five months, we were so spoiled.  He'd sleep from 9p - 3a, eat, and then go back down until around 7a.  All of a sudden, that changed.  For a while he got into a phase where he'd only sleep on us.  Then we got him back into his crib, but he was up every hour.  Now we can get three hour stretches out of him occasionally, but there's still a lot of waking.  We won't do the cry-it-out method, so I'm not sure what to do.  Any suggestions?

 

Also, I saw someone had mentioned eliminating dairy.  I had to do that about two months ago (bloody poop), and it really did help with the spitting up, he does it much less often now.  

 

I saw Caly and Boots lurking, can't wait for you guys to join!!!  

 

Will try to catch up more later, Jacob just woke from a nap.

 

Oh, and I love the baby pictures!!!!  We sure did have some good looking kids.  ;)

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Edited by birdie.lee - 5/9/13 at 8:12am
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Val, I was just thinking about you the other day and wondering how you're doing! I don't have any great insights about the sleep either, except to agree that things will eventually get easier in that department. DD did the same thing: she was sleeping AWESOME from about 2.5-4 months. Then I went back to work, and she was up every 45 minutes for a month until we finally started bringing her to bed with us. I feel the same way about letting her cry. I've found that we go through phases of her needing to be with us/on us to sleep (which usually matches up with teething, being sick, or some big developmental spurt) vs. us gently trying to ease her back into sleeping in her bed. She's 9 1/2 months old now, and she just in the past week has slept great stretches in her bed. I have no idea if she'll continue, but the sleep has been nice. I'm trying to roll with it now and keep in mind that tomorrow it could be completely different. Oh, and yeah: dairy=gassiness and up all night for us. I just tested it again this weekend, but we also gave her black beans for the first time so I don't know if the extreme gassiness is one or the other or both. Some test. rolleyes.giflol.gif

Birdie, it's so cute to see her sit up! We started setting DD up with a pillow barricade and letting her play with toys sitting up. Sometimes she takes a trust dive backwards, so the pillows are a necessity with our hardwood floor. What else is going on with you guys?
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Edited by birdie.lee - 5/9/13 at 8:12am
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wave.gifHey Val! I hear you on the trying to work from from home.

 

Thanks for asking about Bro. Birdie(and yay for L sitting on his own. Bro loves to sit up and I can't wait for him to be able to do it by himself) . Brody got worse over the week and when he finally pooped it was solid so I took him to the doctor yesterday. Apparently he's constipated (despite being ebf). So I'm giving him a couple ml of water before some of his feedings. He seems much better already. He sweats a ton so I wonder if that is contributing?

 

I've cut out the dairy now, but I'm still trying to figure out what to substitute. Dh is lactose intolerant so we use lactfree milk, but I read its the dairy protein that is the main issue. Dh can't handle soy milk  so I'm trying almond milk now. That sounds like it could replace yogurt in my smoothies.

 

As for sleeping ....now I'm scared. Bro sleeps  really well, but it sounds like he's in the good age for it according to you ladies. He sleeps between 5-7 hours usually. Since he's not been feeling well lately he's getting up every 2-3. Last night, with the water, he slept 7. Now if I could get him to take a nap during the day. Biggest mommy revelation for me was learning some babies do not nap or get anywhere close to 16 hours of sleep!

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Oh Birdie, I want to hear how the ecing goes! We are planning on trying  but I hear boys can be more difficult. I mean how do I avoid him peeing on everything?

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Hi again ladies!  Well, if nothing else, now I at least feel better that I'm not alone on the sleep issues!  We visited the doctor this week just to make sure nothing physical is going on, and she seems to think it's purely behavioral, and said a lot of babies stop sleeping as well around this time - they are more aware of their environment, and more aware that you aren't with them if they are crib sleeping.  Oh, well, it will pass.  He's sleeping in two to three hour stretches right now, so I can deal with that.  

 

Birdie - I think that's awesome that you are teaching L the baby sign language!  I always wanted to do that, but somehow I just never got around to it.  It's amazing how fast time goes by, and how little time there seems to be during the day!

 

Tear - Thanks for thinking of me!  I think of you ladies often and wonder how everyone is doing.  Your black bean/dairy test made me laugh!  

 

Ram - That's interesting that B was constipated, everyone always says EBF babies can't become constipated... guess that's been proven wrong now!  I hope the extra water helps!  And yeah, your mommy revelation is something that should be in a book somewhere!  For a long time, I thought something was wrong because Jacob is a horrible sleeper, and naps are nearly non-existent.  Now I've just decided it's his personality, and he'll sleep however and whenever he needs to.

 

So Jacob's new thing is crawling, he just learned that this past week.  Now he's into everything, and intent on going anywhere we don't want him to go.  Interesting occurrence this week, with a little back story.  Several months ago, we tried to introduce cereal into Jacob's diet, but he started having sleep issues.  It could have been coincidental, but we weren't sure, so we stopped the cereal.  We decided to try it again, since it is a good source of iron, and he was awake every thirty minutes that night with a gurgling stomach.  So I guess he's allergic to something in the cereal??  I think he's just going to have a sensitive stomach.  So far I've had to eliminate almonds and dairy from my diet, and he can't eat cereal.  Odd.

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Val- Is it straight rice cereal he's getting? The only thing I've heard of is if it had soy or wheat mixed in. And yay for crawling! I don't think Brody's going to a crawler. When he was a newborn he tried to crawl, but now he just flips onto his back anytime we try to put him on his tummy.

 

Birdie: That's about how much ECing we're doing. Brody likes naked time in the pack n play so I'm just trying to cue him when he starts to go. We tried the toilet and he was like get me off this thing. I think I will put a kids potty next to the pack n play and try that.

I can completely sympathize with your issues with high needs. Brody managed a 30 minute nap in his stroller today (we're practicing for a 5k this weekend) and I was so excited. He usually only naps while bfing. As for the squirming at night, do you just co-sleep or does L have a crib next to the bed? I have to have Bro in the co-sleeper because I don't sleep well with him in the bed. Even in the co-sleeper if he's really bad Dh switches places with me in the middle of the night and pats Brody back to sleep. This way I get a few hours of better sleep. If it's a really bad night, dh does get up with him and give a bottle around 4:30-5:00 and I sleep uninterrupted for a couple of hours. it's the best sleep knowing dh is watching him. I don't know if you could work something out like that. We do the bottle because Bro is a slow/fussy nurser but you could skip the bottle; nurse him then have dh take him.

FWIW I've had some headaches too, I'm thinking that its because I don't eat regularly. Like maybe my blood sugar drops or something. I tried a modified elimination diet but it made me feel worse so now I'm just on the no coffee no dairy diet. I do hear it helps if you can do it.

 

AF us: Brody's doing better. We added a little prune juice to his formula and he's pooping fine. It's weird because his poop still looks normal ebf (not like adult constipation) but he was straining to get it out. Oh well he's all happy again so my sanity is starting to return.Also Brody's obsessed with walking. He wants to be held up and walk around everywhere so my arms are getting a serious workout.

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Edited by birdie.lee - 5/9/13 at 8:13am
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birdie: hope  you're doing better. That really bites about your tendinitis, i have a cyst in my wrist and even though Brody is next to me in the co sleeper my DH has to pick him up, hand him to me to nurse and put him back in when he's done. Have you started any elimination diet? I think for many people a decaf coffee treat every now and then is OK, but Brody always reacts, even to decaf. Bro's been extra spitt-uppy the last few days and the only thing different was I had way too many brownies this week after not really eating any sweets. Looks like no more sweets for me bawling.gif

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ram - maybe chocolate, not all sugar?
 

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ram, that was my thought too. I had to cut out ALL chocolate for a while, because it gave her mega-reflux. hug2.gif I was bummed, lol...but it was worth it for her feeling better.

birdie, I hope sleep is going better. I considered the elimination diet too, but I tried dairy first. That was it, and apparently it's a common cause of gassiness so it's a common place to start. It was a hard pill to swallow for me, but I got used to it. Almond milk is yummy. Good luck, I hope you find the culprit!
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Edited by birdie.lee - 5/9/13 at 8:13am
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birdie, DD would squirm around and fuss and wake frequently in the night. She would often pass gas, but not always. After cutting out dairy this improved drastically. I don't have a fix-all for the sleep question, though. It's been a big struggle for us, and at one point she was waking every 45 minutes for quite a few weeks. The only way to survive (for me) was to have her in bed with us. Lately (shhh...don't say it too loud) she just started sleeping more deeply and longer. I think it's related to her being much more mobile and making big developmental changes. She's just over 10 months now. In our experience her sleep patterns went through phases and then changed, so just when we started to think we were figuring it out (or weren't going to survive) she would change. Hopefully the recent better sleep is going to continue, though. The thing that kept me sane, and hopefully it will help you, is that this will eventually pass. I don't know of any teenagers waking up every 45 minutes asking for mama or papa. Hang in there! (and seriously....I didn't want to do the dairy thing, but it really helped. I would say try it for a full week, then have a big icecream and see how it goes. That should make it clear).
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Yeah, I'm thinking it was the chocolate too so I've cut that out.

 

Birdie: I've had the cyst, but it got larger and much more painful now that I'm picking Bro up so much. And DH is the diaper duty person at night. So he picks Brody up, changes him and gives him to me to nurse. Then DH manages to fall back asleep while I nurse (men!) when we're done he picks Brody up swaddles him (I never was able to manage that well) or puts him in a sleep sack. This way he's helping a little bit. I don't think it makes a huge difference, but mentally it makes me feel like I'm doing less.

 

 

So I've arranged for a sitter/mommy helper to come for 2 hours once a week. The house has been OK, but I really would like to do more than I realistically have been able to get done. It has been tough here with absolutely no family or close friends to help out. It's just been me and DH 24/7. I'm hoping that the sitter will work out so that eventually I'll feel comfortable enough with her to leave Brody so DH and I can do a dinner or at least a lunch just the two of us. Since I'll still be home while she's here I feel better knowing I can see how it goes.

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