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Birth Control after Baby?

post #1 of 41
Thread Starter 

For those of you who are going to use birth control after our June babies are born, what method are you going to use?

 

Personally, I haven't decided yet. DH and I are still talking about when/if we want more, but we're leaning towards at least one more. I'm not cozy using hormonal birth control, and DH says he'd rather me not. IUD's scare the crap out of me. Condoms make sex way less satisfying. I have very little experience charting. Maybe a diaphram? I'm not really sure. We may just end up not trying and not avoiding, which DH says he'd be fine with.

post #2 of 41

DH want a V. we can get one around $500 at the sliding scale clinic

post #3 of 41

We have ticked through most of the birth control options available. I can't use anything with hormones in it, after a ruptured ectopic in 2002 in which I was unknowingly 6 weeks pregnant and taking the pill. We are done, and also thinking about a vasectomy. I don't consider it a great option. I am not prone to hysterical thinking but the fact of the matter is that if dh has a vasectomy I can still get pregnant. It will be years before I could get my tubes tied (breastfeeding). So that leaves barriers. I think I will be doing the sponge. We haven't tried those yet.

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post #4 of 41

i actually do like the IUD but getting one would be a PITA.  either i get on medicaid then go in after i have the baby so i can get one for free or i pay $500 out of pocket to get one.  if a V costs the same amount we might as well go that route. 

post #5 of 41

We were supposed to be getting a V for DH because this baby was a complete "oopsie" and it was very very hard for us (mostly DH) to get over in the very beginning...now HE'S talking about he's not sure we're completely done for sure......I'm like, WHAT??

We've been on everything else. I won't take hormones. I won't get my tubes tied. I loved the IUD, until I found out that it doesn't necessarily stop conception from taking place, it just makes your uterus a hostile environment for a developing pregnancy so you "flush it out" - um, no thank you. I won't put spermicide in my body, I conceived the baby I'm carrying while charting/temping like a mad woman and using condoms in the "danger zone"....I feel like a V is the only thing that has a good chance of keeping us pregnancy free that I'm actually willing to do.

But is a V good for a man? I've never heard anything bad about it...but I'm also pretty much uniformly against the snipping/cutting/cauterizing/clamping of any part of our bodies. I just feel like it can't be good, even if it's only on some small scale that we'll never truly understand, to disrupt the flow of energy in the body like that. I don't know...anybody know if there is some "hidden truth about vasectomies!" - that I should investigate? I haven't been able to find anything, but you never know....

I'd rather have a whole bunch more kids than risk DHs health or happiness or cause him some kind of trouble. :(

post #6 of 41
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Originally Posted by BroodyWoodsgal View Post

 I conceived the baby I'm carrying while charting/temping like a mad woman and using condoms in the "danger zone"....


But, but, but.... Condoms just are not a good way to go, if you really need to not conceive. Their (in)effectiveness is counted using the whole cycle, as far as I understand. If they are used during the very days you know you can get pregnant... well, I think it is a very bad idea.

 

Anyway... NFP here, all the way. Then again, we have dealt with years of secondary infertility, so I am not sure that we would need to think of any of this, anyway. Besides, we only space rather than ever want to be done for good.

post #7 of 41
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Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy View Post


But, but, but.... Condoms just are not a good way to go, if you really need to not conceive. Their (in)effectiveness is counted using the whole cycle, as far as I understand. If they are used during the very days you know you can get pregnant... well, I think it is a very bad idea.

 

Anyway... NFP here, all the way. Then again, we have dealt with years of secondary infertility, so I am not sure that we would need to think of any of this, anyway. Besides, we only space rather than ever want to be done for good.

 

Well see that's the thing...we are WAY too fertile. My DH has "happy waiting" sperm. With this baby I was charting with temps, CM and all of that jazz like a PSYCHO (like, with an app in my phone where I would go to record every little thing that happened, related to my fertility, every day) and so we know exactly which "BD" conceived this baby and the exact moment that I ovulated (I'm one of those "sharp shooting pain in the ovary on the exact day my temps/calander/mood/body tell me I'm going to ovulate" chicks) and the only physically possible way this baby could have been conceived is if DHs sperm waited almost SEVEN days for this egg to be released.

My cycles are as sure and steady as anything you can think of...28 days. I've ovulated on the same day every cycle since I was a teenager, except for maybe three or four times...my first PP period after DD was born, my period came back on the day it would have come had I not had a baby at all. After DS and no period for over a year, my cycle returned within a few days of when it would have come, had I not had him. I'm like...CREEPY regular with my cycle. But I've also not messed around with hormonal birth control so much (I've been on it before, for a few months, just to try it out...while I was "trying it out" I conceived DD, haha).

I just know....KNOW....that if we don't do something totally permanent and crazy, we're going to end up with at least another baby. Two of our three have been conceived while actively and aggressively trying to avoid conception and my son was conceived basically within a few days of my DH saying "okay, we can have another" - the man barely looks at me and I feel my boobs aching like I'm pregnant...I swear.
 

But more than the fact that they are not "sure fire" protection against pregnancy, they SUCK. They are expensive and a pain in the tail and I hate them. I can't stand condoms. I've chosen my life partner...condoms are supposed to be for young people sleeping with men they aren't really sure are "the one"!!


(Hahahha, I know that last sentence isn't true, many coupled up folk don't mind condoms, I just hate them a lot!)

post #8 of 41

yep dh and i used condoms on fertile days and got pg with dd (4 days before O) and got pg this time either with withdraw or an accident with a towel lol 

post #9 of 41

i havnt really thought about it much because we want more and DP wants them close together. if we do decide on birth control, we will either do charting or if we are serious i will get another IUD. i loved mine but they are on the pricey side. i think i paid 200 for a copper one, so better than 500 at least.

post #10 of 41

We do NFP, pull-out, and condoms occasionally.  It's worked so far!  I'm not sure if I want a baby number 4 though and I'm also not ready for DH to get snipped, so we'll see.  I'm definitely not doing any sort of hormonal birth control. 

post #11 of 41

I had an IUD for a few years between #1 and #2, and unless DH wants a vasectomy, I'll be getting another one.  

post #12 of 41
I'm getting the Paragard. If for some reason I end up having to a have a C-section, I'll get my tubes tied. We're definitely done.
post #13 of 41

i cant take hormonal birth control. dh doesnt like condoms. i am afraid to get an iud. i have heard of them poking through, falling out, and the whole thing with only preventing implantation makes me sad. i do have health issues to consider with everything. dh is way too scared to get the v. all that is left is for me to get my tubes tied. which i am also scared of doing. this last pregnancy was conceived while doing nfp. wasnt nfp's fault. i wasnt following the rules and had sex the day before o. in my defense, it came a week early and i thought i would be safe. however, it was only my 3rd cycle pp and the rules are clear about not trying to predict until after 6 cycles charting. i will prob try nfp again while waiting to not be scared of getting my tubes tied. but then again, i am leaning towards getting them tied 6 mo pp even though my cycles dont return until 21 mo pp. i already learned my lesson about the mini pill not working for preventing for me. and the hormones give me nasty migraines. i love charting but i also want the freedom of not caring and just being able to enjoy dtd without worrying about my cycle. i LOVE ovulation sex. the best ever. so i dont want to quit o'ing either. if this is rambling to you, then imagine what is going on in my head. lol. i have to be done. i can not handle any more children. i am hands full. i love it, but i am disabled and can barely do the bare minimum. my kids deserve more than that. and i wont feel like doing more until at least a year pp. having sex is so spontaneous for us that a diaphragm wont work either. and after the year pp it is still spotty until my cycles return at 21 mo. and then i have 2 or 3 months of feeling like a real person with energy again and then bam pregnant and feeling like crap again. it has to end. but i am scared of the tubal ligation syndrome. i am scared of surgery. 

post #14 of 41

We'll continue to use FAM. I went 15 mos before the return of AF after DS was born. ...that's the only sketchy part for me since you can't really be too accurate after 6 mos of relying on breastfeeding (what's that called...ecological something or other?) then I have this gaping gap between then and the return of fertility when you can actually chart again.

 

I went on the mini-pill after DS because I was returning to school and there was NO room for an "oops". This time around we'll likely just use barriers and luck until the return of AF when we'll resume FAM.

post #15 of 41

our housemate had her tubes tied. a couple years back, she bleeds like 10 times a month. 

post #16 of 41
We use condoms ( latex-free) and follow proper use. Never had an oops or broken condom since learning proper use, but I acknowlege the possibility. We will continue to use them for the time being.
post #17 of 41

DH is getting a vasectomy. We are done and it is way less invasive and complicated than a tubal. 

post #18 of 41

Will be using condoms.  We've used them for 3yrs without any breaks/scares.  They work well for us. 

post #19 of 41

Lioness...I would highly, *highly* suggest looking into post tubal ligation syndrome and reading up on what tubals can do to a lady. I wanted to get my tubes tied...until I started to research it. For many, many women tubal ligation is the beginning of a long nightmare involving ill health, mental health issues, severe cycle issues and problems with uncontrollable weight gain. Please look into it and make sure you are okay with the risks before you go for it. <3 <3 <3

post #20 of 41

DH will most likely be getting a V. he was going to have a V done after we had DS but well he is a procrastinator. I don't like to do any hormone stuff and after reading about what tubal can do to a women I am not taking any chances there. We hate condoms and other stuff you need to insert put on etc. I was sorta charting but doing it pretty half ass (start being more responsible in charting the mon I found out I was pg) DS and I were not having sex very often only 2 times in the month we conceived and we were pulling out and I thought I was in a very low fertile period but apparently as you get older you can O later. I also don't like the idea of altering our bodies but I also do not want another surprise baby.

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