Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy
But, but, but.... Condoms just are not a good way to go, if you really need to not conceive. Their (in)effectiveness is counted using the whole cycle, as far as I understand. If they are used during the very days you know you can get pregnant... well, I think it is a very bad idea.
Anyway... NFP here, all the way. Then again, we have dealt with years of secondary infertility, so I am not sure that we would need to think of any of this, anyway. Besides, we only space rather than ever want to be done for good.
Well see that's the thing...we are WAY too fertile. My DH has "happy waiting" sperm. With this baby I was charting with temps, CM and all of that jazz like a PSYCHO (like, with an app in my phone where I would go to record every little thing that happened, related to my fertility, every day) and so we know exactly which "BD" conceived this baby and the exact moment that I ovulated (I'm one of those "sharp shooting pain in the ovary on the exact day my temps/calander/mood/body tell me I'm going to ovulate" chicks) and the only physically possible way this baby could have been conceived is if DHs sperm waited almost SEVEN days for this egg to be released.
My cycles are as sure and steady as anything you can think of...28 days. I've ovulated on the same day every cycle since I was a teenager, except for maybe three or four times...my first PP period after DD was born, my period came back on the day it would have come had I not had a baby at all. After DS and no period for over a year, my cycle returned within a few days of when it would have come, had I not had him. I'm like...CREEPY regular with my cycle. But I've also not messed around with hormonal birth control so much (I've been on it before, for a few months, just to try it out...while I was "trying it out" I conceived DD, haha).
I just know....KNOW....that if we don't do something totally permanent and crazy, we're going to end up with at least another baby. Two of our three have been conceived while actively and aggressively trying to avoid conception and my son was conceived basically within a few days of my DH saying "okay, we can have another" - the man barely looks at me and I feel my boobs aching like I'm pregnant...I swear.
But more than the fact that they are not "sure fire" protection against pregnancy, they SUCK. They are expensive and a pain in the tail and I hate them. I can't stand condoms. I've chosen my life partner...condoms are supposed to be for young people sleeping with men they aren't really sure are "the one"!!
(Hahahha, I know that last sentence isn't true, many coupled up folk don't mind condoms, I just hate them a lot!)