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[Tizzy]

I've just been getting the hands full comment since I was pregnant with DS2, and DS1 was a toddler. So 5 years. Every time I'm in public.

It's just really REALLY old.

[LeAnn A Doula]

I haven't gotten any stranger comments yet. But I hate the comments that imply that I will become an invalid as the summer heats up. I love the heat and I actually wanted to be pregnant over the summer so I could wear all the cute summer skirts and tanks w my belly. I love the idea of having a summer baby! DH and I were both born in late August, so the timing is perfect for our family. We're just summer people.

I get "we'll wait and see how LeAnn is feeling/if she's up for x outing, etc." Blah! It's site seeing, not running a marathon people!  Give me a sun hat and a cool bottle of water and I'm peachy.

[ilovetchotchkes]

Originally Posted by LeAnn A Doula 

I haven't gotten any stranger comments yet. But I hate the comments that imply that I will become an invalid as the summer heats up. I love the heat and I actually wanted to be pregnant over the summer so I could wear all the cute summer skirts and tanks w my belly. I love the idea of having a summer baby! DH and I were both born in late August, so the timing is perfect for our family. We're just summer people.

I get "we'll wait and see how LeAnn is feeling/if she's up for x outing, etc." Blah! It's site seeing, not running a marathon people!  Give me a sun hat and a cool bottle of water and I'm peachy.

OMG this, like for real? I'm sick of hearing it too!!!! I LOVE HEAT. I hate the cold. 

[LilyTiger]

Yeah, I feel the same way.  I mean, I know I'll probably be miserable in 90 degree heat or whatever, but that's what A/C is for.  And most of the time, I love the heat and being outside.  I was much more miserable early in this pregnancy when I was freezing ALL THE TIME and incapable of getting warm than I think I will be come July. 

[pennywhistle]

I am SO glad to be having a summer baby - like you, LeAnn, I LOVE the summer maternity clothes!  I'm grateful to not have to purchase big, expensive winter clothes in order to stay warm.  Summer stuff is so much cheaper, and so many of my normal summer clothes have a looseness and stretch to them anyways so that I don't need much new stuff.  My husband's bday is June, and mine is September, so this August baby will fit right in between!

I just found out that I'll be spending the second half of June in Jacksonville, Florida, though...I'm a northern California girl, so "summer" to me means sunny days in the 70s/80s.  I'm a little worried about handling a Florida summer at 7 months pregnant!

To get back on topic...so far I've been super lucky and haven't heard many stupid comments.  Although the other day when I told my coworker that I was pregnant (this was after she stared directly at my stomach for the entire conversation, so I felt awkward NOT saying anything!), she said "Oh, congratulations!  Tom was saying the other day that he thought you were pregnant, but I said that I just thought you were putting on weight."  Gee, thanks for retelling that conversation for my benefit, friend.

[iixivboots]

That's funny, in AZ, I would never be offended by someone implying I'll be miserable during the summer. We all are to some extent. I just plan to not leave the house before dark!

[LeAnn A Doula]

Pennywhistle - My sister lives in Jacksonville. It'll be toasty but it shouldn't be too bad in June, esp if you will be close to the water. So jealous, by the way! I love love the beach! And ugh! to your co-worker. I just want to stare at people who say things like that until they realize how stupid they look sitting there w a big foot in their mouth.

Boots - AZ does get brutal, I lived tin Sierra Vista when I was little. Burnt my toes on the sidewalk. I'm planning to be in the pool as much as possible. I just can't sit inside in the summer time.

[pennywhistle]

Originally Posted by LeAnn A Doula 

Pennywhistle - My sister lives in Jacksonville. It'll be toasty but it shouldn't be too bad in June, esp if you will be close to the water. So jealous, by the way! I love love the beach! And ugh! to your co-worker. I just want to stare at people who say things like that until they realize how stupid they look sitting there w a big foot in their mouth.

Oh good!  I'm going there for work training, and was told by one of the teachers that the hotel they chose is near the water.  Guess I'll need to get a cute bathing suit!

[monkeyscience]

I haven't gotten too many stupid comments yet, so that is nice. I'm getting bored/annoyed by hearing the same old comments (wow, you're really looking pregnant now!) repeatedly, but I don't think anyone's said anything particularly insensitive. And I 100% agree with the people who say I'll be miserable in the summer heat, so that doesn't bother me! I hate, hate, hate the cold, but I don't like the heat, either. (And in Houston, we are talking humidity + heat, so it is not fun!) I'm really more of a spring/fall person myself. :) But I was hardly going to try to plan my pregnancy around the heat, given the trouble we had conceiving! I'm grateful to be having a baby any time of the year, and very grateful to live someplace where everywhere is air conditioned!

[Sol_y_Paz]

Monkey, I wish people would tell me I am really looking pregnant now.  

Originally Posted by monkeyscience 
But I was hardly going to try to plan my pregnancy around the heat, given the trouble we had conceiving! I'm grateful to be having a baby any time of the year

I love this.  This times 1,000 sums up my thoughts on summer + being very pregnant.  

[Tizzy]

I'm afraid lots of people must think I'm just putting on some weight because unless I specifically bring it up (which I'm terrible at doing!!), nobody says a thing!

I'm hoping it's just the winter clothes, and when it eventually warms up (gah! snow again tomorrow!!) I can wear lighter clothes and feel pregnant lol

[pennywhistle]

A friend of mine who is due exactly a month after me just found out that she's having a girl; she knows I'm having a boy.  She keeps going on about how happy she is to be having a girl, and how grateful she is that it's not a boy, over and over again.  She knows that my husband wanted a girl, so after all that she asks if he was "so totally disappointed that it's a boy?"  THANKS.  I'm glad she's happy, and I'm happy that I'm having a boy (and my husband is too), but still.  Have a little tact, won't you?  It doesn't feel that good to hear how glad she is to not get what I'm getting.

[ilovetchotchkes]

Originally Posted by pennywhistle 

A friend of mine who is due exactly a month after me just found out that she's having a girl; she knows I'm having a boy.  She keeps going on about how happy she is to be having a girl, and how grateful she is that it's not a boy, over and over again.  She knows that my husband wanted a girl, so after all that she asks if he was "so totally disappointed that it's a boy?"  THANKS.  I'm glad she's happy, and I'm happy that I'm having a boy (and my husband is too), but still.  Have a little tact, won't you?  It doesn't feel that good to hear how glad she is to not get what I'm getting.

My favorite has been so far "so you're done then?". 

Well, ok, we may be, but NONE OF YOUR FREAKING BUSINESS unless I SAY SO. 

[bjacques]

I haven't gotten any stupid comments yet.  Probably because after we lost the Andrew last year, it was obvious how devastated we were.  We're also part of a culture that supports large families.  My kids' friends have 5, 6, or 8 siblings and while people will occasionally say, "I don't know how she does it", no one says anything unkind.  When my 8 year old went to school and told his class we're having a boy, the other little guys hugged him and cheered and the girls dramatically feigned disappointment.  It's very different than our public school experience where people would say things like, "Ugh.  You're huge.  Why do you even leave the house?"  Lovely.

[LeAnn A Doula]

I still haven't gotten any terrible comments, thankfully. But recently I'm getting a lot of expectant "Aren't you so excited's??". Honestly, not yet. I'm not even thinking about L&D at this point, let alone the baby part. But I know that people just want to share your excitement when they ask this question, so I try to get it up for them and not tell them about my looong to-do list. I don't think I'm very convincing, though. I have to work on a better reply! Don't get me wrong, I'm delighted to be having this LO but I don't think the true anticipation/excitement will set in for me until preparations are in full swing and I have more details about our possible move, etc. I really just want to reply "ask me in a month."

[LilyTiger]

LeAnn, I totally feel the same way.  I'm too overwhelmed with work and home organizing, etc. to really get super excited about the actual baby yet.  Though I did get really excited about the little cloth dipes I got in the mail. 

I finally got a "are you sure there's only one in there?"  from a woman I work with.  It's particularly weird, because I don't think I'm carrying that big at all and no one else has said anything about it, so it's kind of weird that this one person seems to think I'm already gigantic.  But since that's the worst I've gotten so far, I'm doing pretty well I think.

[rebecca10]

 Apparently, no one can see me without commenting on how big I am.  Really, it's the first thing out of just about everyone's mouth. I think it is particularly striking for people who remember my last pregancy because I was really, really tiny the whole time. I must be a good two months ahead of what I looked like last time.  So I get why people notice. But seriously, folks, I'm so done hearing about it. 

[LeAnn A Doula]

Lilytiger - I know! I was pretty excited last week when I dug out my stash of baby stuff I've been squirling away over the years (mostly cute vintage clothes). Just not all the time yet, it'll come. :)

[justchanti]

rebecca10 & Lilytiger- that must be so obnoxious!  I get the opposite:  people beating around the bush to see if I'm pregnant without straight up asking.  Then when I tell them I am indeed pregnant and almost 7 months at that, they all look surprised as if I'm lying.  One woman today told me it must be so much easier for me that it was for her because I don't look very big.  Though I don't look big (I'm 5'10" and hide it well), I definitely feel big and I still have a whole slew of pregnancy aches and pains!

[Tizzy]

Although I appreciate people showing an interest, the "So, how are you feeling?" question is getting to be awkward. I'm 6.5 months and aside from being able to fall asleep the second my head hits the pillow, I'm feeling pretty good.

My standard response is "Pretty good, no major complaints!"

Which seems to spark the pregnancy horror stories lately. It makes me feel guilty for having such easy pregnancies when I'm standing there listening to them tell me every sordid detail of their horrible experiences. I end up just nodding sympathetically and agreeing "Oh, that must have been rough!", "I don't know how you did it."

Although I do love hearing what other people's pregnancy experiences were, I just find myself at a loss for words..while standing in front of them feeling fab.