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thanks justkate.  yay fo r ipad..much easier to juggle with baby on lap/boob!

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Birth control - Funny, I was going to ask an opposite question.  My cycle never returns until well after a year, and then I'm anovulatory for several months after that. We are not done - in fact, we want lots more! We have not used birth control at all since I got pregnant with DS1.  At that point we used condoms and NFP. So, I was going to ask if there is anything I can do to be one of you Fertile Mertles.  I'm not talking that I'm ready to get pregnant right now, but I'd love to have my kiddos closer together than so far I've managed to. 

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birth control- we just do condoms and FAM. Works great for us and last time I ovulated at 12 weeks and was regular from then on in spite of nursing around the clock and co-sleeping.  oh well.  I definitely didn't do anything to get it back sooner so I am no help there jenny.  We are planning on having a lot of kids and planning on adopting the next two.  I don't think I am done being pregnant/giving birth/newborn thing so maybe another one after that?  I don't know, I started out committed to four and we will see from there.  I come from a family of five kids and DH from a family of two and he is already talking about a lot more kids so I guess we will until we feel like stopping.  Right now though, I am content with two and just figuring that out lol.

 

working out- if walking counts then I am doing that but while I would love a good run, there is no way my body would. I still get achy by the time that I get home from an outing. Rosie- don't worry, it gets a lot easier and even easier with the second one.  I remember not being able to figure out how to feed DS, fix dinner, and actually eat for a long time.  It felt like I started at 5pm and didn't actually get to eat until 9pm.  Some days it is like that now but maybe I am just more ok with it lol.  I have made dinner every night this week though and we have had it sort of on time.  I don't have to but I really enjoy cooking.

 

justkate- it is nice to have you back :)

 

I am struggling with a decision that I know some of you might think is stupid.  It is this whole pacifier thing.  There are instances, like DS is screaming and DD is full but woken up by DS and cannot settle back to sleep.  She will nurse and then get mad when my  milk lets down but then be upset if I try to walk her around, start rooting, etc.  I nurse her again, she spits up and gets upset.  Logic part of me says that a pacifier is no big deal and sounds appropriate when used sparingly in this case. My heart just is not in it.  I feel like a failure and like I am not being as "good" of a mommy as I was with DS.  It is frustrating, I have cried about it, and I just want to be able to take care of everyone the way they need it.  it doesnt really help that we are all sick right now.  Any input about pacifiers is welcome. DD is four weeks today.

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Flavorfull, I'm in somewhat the same boat with pacifiers. DS was really really fussy for a few days and wouldn't let me put him down. Well, DD was like that constantly and I about went crazy, I'm terrified of dealing with another high needs kid again. I never used a paci with DD and I thought I'd try it with DS, but still hemmed and hawed over it because it just doesn't feel right. But I bought one, and we tried it, and he didn't have much interest. I've been offering it a few times over the past 2 days and it hasn't helped. That said, he got over the fussy thing (he had a cold) and I've been able to put him down, so I'm happy. I think we'll stay a no paci family.
 

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I'm actually pretty pro-paci. I used them with DD and now with DS starting at day 3 or so (provided BF is going well and latch isn't an issue). I think they are definitely overused by some, but I also feel like they have their place. I am a pretty firm believer in parenting by instinct, and when I don't have a paci, it is one of my firts instincts to stick a finger in my baby's mouth to suck on to soothe them between feeds or when they are inconsolable. I do firmly believe in the benefits on non-nutritive sucking on breasts, and my DS spends a lot of time on the boob ... but there are times when he really just needs a quick suck without any milk or fatty hindmilk and the paci has been great for that. DS takes it from time to time, though he also likes his hands. I can tell already that he is less of a suck-addict than DD was. He needs to suck from time to time but his addiction isn't as strong as hers was :)

 

That's just me, though - I'm not expert, but it works for our family.

 

I'm almost 3 weeks PP and feeling good. Still have about 17 lbs to lose, which I'm not thrilled about. I'm almost done bleeding. My vag keeps feeling nearly fully healed, then it gets all itchy and I ended up scratching and then it feels all sore again. Not sure what is up with all of that.

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Well, I think that I am down for the count. I was doing fairly well until today. It's PP day 5 for me. Hopefully I can head off any PP depression.

Feeling better?  I think I was a little further out the day I began to cry at breakfast because I didn't like my fried egg.  :)  DH got out the fish oil post haste.  Your body sacrifices Omega-3s for your baby, so supplementing those can really help!

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I'm stuck with FAM + condoms. I don't react well to hormones and I'm afraid of sharp pokey things by the cervix, so no Pill or IUD for me. Dh isn't ready for a vasectomy yet, but we are SO done. Luckily I've never had an unplanned pregnancy.
 

I agree.  No sharp pokies for me!!

 

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I am struggling with a decision that I know some of you might think is stupid.  It is this whole pacifier thing.  There are instances, like DS is screaming and DD is full but woken up by DS and cannot settle back to sleep.  She will nurse and then get mad when my  milk lets down but then be upset if I try to walk her around, start rooting, etc.  I nurse her again, she spits up and gets upset.  Logic part of me says that a pacifier is no big deal and sounds appropriate when used sparingly in this case. My heart just is not in it.  I feel like a failure and like I am not being as "good" of a mommy as I was with DS.  It is frustrating, I have cried about it, and I just want to be able to take care of everyone the way they need it.  it doesnt really help that we are all sick right now.  Any input about pacifiers is welcome. DD is four weeks today.

I don't mind paci use.  In fact, I have a pacifier "library" that I've loaned out to other moms because I was so desperate to get one of my kids to take one (he was a car screamer.)  (I never did find one he liked, unfortunately.)  But where I draw the line is letting my kids suck on one to fall asleep.  I've heard breaking that association can be really, really hard.

 

AFM- dissertation proposal due this morning.  And I'm here on mothering.  Yarg.  ;)

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Al - Dissertation proposal tomorrow!?!? Omg how are you doing that.

I'm starting to think I'm really missing something. I'm not able to study effectively with one hand, and I constantly have Odin in one. He doesn't sleep well/long away from me, and he's not long tolerant of the moby (and it hurts my battered boobs to wear at the moment). How are you guys doing it? I feel so trapped. In and of itself baby care is fine, but adding anything to it is really tough.

greensad.gif I neeeeeed to do work!
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Aletheia - good luck with your dissertation!
 
Pacifiers - I have heard the arguments against them and I'm definitely going to wait the recommended 4-6 weeks before introducing any other 'nipples' (esp. since i've been having latching trouble) but I can foresee myself using them when the time comes.  As a baby/toddler I was all about my soo-soo and I turned out fine! ...right? (lol)
 
Latching/nursing is still challenging for us and I had a bit of a cry earlier out of frustration and pain BUT early this afternoon I was nursing and working on my latch with rosie when out of the blue she opened up and latched HERSELF on (to the breast which is causing me the most pain) in what was one of the best latches we have had so far.  I was so happy and finally truly felt what a good feed feels like... euphoria!  I know our problems aren't over yet and I had taken some ibuprofen earlier to help with pain so that probably helped as well, but it was a good moment for us and I'm hoping it means our darkest breastfeeding days are behind us.
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tarabelle- hope the latch continues to be comfy!

 

rosie- Strangely, I am more motivated to work now than before Mo got here.  I think it helps that I can't be by the computer very much, or have two hands.  I'm reading and thinking more, and, contrary to what this post makes it seem like, fooling around on the computer less.  :)  But I also remember with my first I did NOTHING else, even though I was supposed to be finishing an incomplete paper.  I just couldn't manage it.  The first was too life-altering.  I didn't even know who I was.  I also had  fussier baby that time around, and that makes a big difference.  Mo is happy to be put down on a bed to take his three naps (which I've scheduled for him, bless his little heart- I had to get a schedule together so I could feel like I was meeting the needs of all the kids), and so if the big boys are at school and Mo isn't on me, I can really get stuff done.  

 

Which I'd better go do.

 

As a side note, is anyone experiencing the major post-partum hair loss that I am experiencing right now?  Holy smokes!  I'm sort of a heavy shedder when not pp, and so right now I feel like there is hair everywhere.  20 inch long red hair wrapped around everything, including this morning the toes of my baby.  Eegads.

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Yes! I lost ALOT of hair with my #1.

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As a side note, is anyone experiencing the major post-partum hair loss that I am experiencing right now?  Holy smokes!  I'm sort of a heavy shedder when not pp, and so right now I feel like there is hair everywhere.  20 inch long red hair wrapped around everything, including this morning the toes of my baby.  Eegads.

 

Yes! I swear I am going to lose all of my hair, blah.

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Latching/nursing is still challenging for us and I had a bit of a cry earlier out of frustration and pain BUT early this afternoon I was nursing and working on my latch with rosie when out of the blue she opened up and latched HERSELF on (to the breast which is causing me the most pain) in what was one of the best latches we have had so far.

Yay for a good latch!  I would totally be excited an cheering on your baby girl for learning to open wide!  good job.  Keep up the good work and I hope it keeps up and that you get more and more encouragment.

 

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 I feel so trapped. In and of itself baby care is fine, but adding anything to it is really tough.
greensad.gif I neeeeeed to do work!

Yeah, after I had DS I was completely at a loss as to how to coordinate to do anything!  Don't worry, you will figure out bits and pieces of the rest of life, aside from baby care, very soon.  I remember what a big accomplishment it was to just cook dinner, then clean the whole house, then lead a bible study.  You get there, I just think the first is such an adjustment in every part of life and then you have the difficulty of tongue tie on top of it. I really think the tongue tie thing is super hard and, just from my two experiences, it was a lot harder to take care of the constant feeding with a tongue tie baby. I am sorry you feel trapped, I could not do the moby with DS either bc it hurt my boobs/swelling mastitis stuff.  Can anyone come over and help you?  Or, and I am just trying to think of all angles, is there a chance you feel like taking a step back for a semester would be a good idea?  I am just trying to help, not sound like I doubt your ability, just trying to ask what might be helpful and balanced for you.

 

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Flavorfull, I'm in somewhat the same boat with pacifiers. DS was really really fussy for a few days and wouldn't let me put him down. Well, DD was like that constantly and I about went crazy, I'm terrified of dealing with another high needs kid again. I never used a paci with DD and I thought I'd try it with DS, but still hemmed and hawed over it because it just doesn't feel right. But I bought one, and we tried it, and he didn't have much interest. I've been offering it a few times over the past 2 days and it hasn't helped. That said, he got over the fussy thing (he had a cold) and I've been able to put him down, so I'm happy. I think we'll stay a no paci family.
 

yeah, it has been an emotional time bc this week we all had a pretty bad cold and I felt spread really thin.  DD either has reflux or I have overactive letdown, or both?  I don't know.  DD will cry with pain and squirm and eventually fart a lot, she arches her back and cries and spits up, and she will get upset when she is comfort nursing and my milk lets down.  She also will grimace and spit up in the back of her throat and swallow and cry. it is sad.  She is kind of fussy and only wants to be held and rocked or walked. I think she maybe has 10 min at a time of not doing anything and just watching when she is awake, otherwise she is crying or nursing or finally asleep. It is hard bc DS was interactive by now and I just feel like I am not doing it "right" with her and like I need to figure who she is out better/quicker.  I think DS didn't have the same issues with overactive letdown because his tongue tie slowed down the flow enough. I tried the pacifier, she doesn't like it so no go for now. I have switched to nursing one side for two hours and the other for any feedings for two hours, we will see.  the next step is to cut out dairy bc DS and DH are sensitive/allergic to lactose...hoping it isn't that, I just got back to eating dairy and love some ice cream!

 

So, we are moving in 3 weeks and I think that is contributing somewhat to my emotional stuff. I am going to miss my friends. It was hard to not get to hang out with my friends this week since we were sick. One less week to cherish the time I have with them.  DS was a beast this week and I spent a lot of time teaching about patience and anger management (in toddler terms) and it was hard to have every single day be a struggle of keeping him together, DD needing to be held or nursed all the time, and me feeling sick- intro to solo parenting was not so gentle. So glad we are getting better and I don't see how next week could be worse.  

 

I am going to say it, I miss sleep and I miss sex with DH.  I will get one way before the other lol. I feel like a total loser whining about sleep because with DS I barely ever got a 2 hr chunk of time and I do get a 2-3 hr chunk with DD.  I think I am a little scared of how long the sleep deprivation can go on.  I don't know, it is silly and I know it is a short time in life, it just seems cruel to need to be compassionate and understanding and in constant care of such a precious gift but not be able to be running on full energy.  DH and I fooled around a bit today, no sex, haven't even finished bleeding yet, but I just miss him- definitely not how I felt after DS, nice surprise.  My pelvis is achy and my belly feels flabby.  I won't offically work out for a while but part of me has amnesia about being pg for 39 weeks and is annoyed that my body isn't where it was before lol. DH was ridiculously supportive of my body and so sweet.

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I am going to say it, I miss sleep and I miss sex with DH.  I will get one way before the other lol. I feel like a total loser whining about sleep because with DS I barely ever got a 2 hr chunk of time and I do get a 2-3 hr chunk with DD.  I think I am a little scared of how long the sleep deprivation can go on.  I don't know, it is silly and I know it is a short time in life, it just seems cruel to need to be compassionate and understanding and in constant care of such a precious gift but not be able to be running on full energy.  DH and I fooled around a bit today, no sex, haven't even finished bleeding yet, but I just miss him- definitely not how I felt after DS, nice surprise.  My pelvis is achy and my belly feels flabby.  I won't offically work out for a while but part of me has amnesia about being pg for 39 weeks and is annoyed that my body isn't where it was before lol. DH was ridiculously supportive of my body and so sweet.

I totally feel the same way.  Sleep.  Sex.  Forgetting all about pregnancy.  My body.  Yes!

 

DS seems to be a pretty good sleeper, but I still begrudgingly get up to feed him in the night.  My mom swears that we all slept through the night by 12 weeks, without any "training".  I think her memory is cloudy, but pray that one of my babies will get those genes, rather than the nurse at least every 2 hours until they are well over a year genes.

 

After my first two I didn't want anything to do with sex for MONTHS! It honestly took getting my period back to get any sort of sex drive - and I think it was far more mental (we wanted to be pregnant as soon as we could) then hormonal.  This time, I was thinking about it days after.  We still haven't, and it's kind of weird, because I'm sure DH is thinking it will be the same as before, but I'm ready to jump him - we just haven't had the chance yet.  I'm sure he won't mind the difference.

 

I have felt so incredible after this birth, that sometimes it surprises me to look in the mirror and see a flabby me.  I feel totally normal, yet I've got a long way to go.  DH is the same as yours, and totally in love no matter what.  I like that.

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I have felt so incredible after this birth, that sometimes it surprises me to look in the mirror and see a flabby me. 

Yes!  I am right there with you.  I took a shower tonight (have to remind myself to do that every now and then, geesh!) and was so surprised to see myself in the mirror!  I still have 30 pounds to go until pre-pregnancy weight.  I am also so eager to begin running again- the weather is getting so nice.  But I had Mo in the car yesterday and had to run into the house to get my phone... and the short jog from the car to the house really showed me I am NOT ready to run yet.  I felt like all of my insides were going to fall out.  Bah.

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Question for you ladies who have had your babies: Has your mind come back? or do you still have the preg brain fog, or are you experiencing newborn sleep deprived mush brain? seriously, I can not keep a thought in my head ( I think we average about three trips to the store everyday because i can't remember what i go for), I suffer daily bouts of foot in mouth syndrome (I'm kinda prone to it anyway, but it's totally embarrassing now) and I am generally more confused and clueless than usual. I am hoping it will clear up shortly after birth, but it's actually really getting me down, it's so bad. Anyone else had this problem, and how are you doing now?

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Just a vent. I have mastitis. My kiddo was so tongue tied for the first week after birth(she had it clipped)that she has destroyed my left breast:( She just canno get a good latch on the left breast. I have cried more these past few days than in the last 9 months. I can see why women stop nursing. She retracts her tongue and bits/chews at the breast because she doesn't know how to stick her tongue out. This in turn doesn't allow her to drain the breast...therefore now the mastitis. I'm a wreck. I had to tell someone. My hubby is being as supportive as he knows how to be. I just feel so alone right now.
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Are you doing warm compresses and (gently) hand expressing? You can do it in the bath or shower, that should help relieve the pressure and get things flowing. There are also two good homeopathic remedies, Bryonia and Belladonna. Not sure which one would work better for you, but Belladonna was a lifesaver for me. Good luck with it, I know how really awful and miserable it can be hug2.gif

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Just a vent. I have mastitis. My kiddo was so tongue tied for the first week after birth(she had it clipped)that she has destroyed my left breast:( She just canno get a good latch on the left breast. I have cried more these past few days than in the last 9 months. I can see why women stop nursing. She retracts her tongue and bits/chews at the breast because she doesn't know how to stick her tongue out. This in turn doesn't allow her to drain the breast...therefore now the mastitis. I'm a wreck. I had to tell someone. My hubby is being as supportive as he knows how to be. I just feel so alone right now.

I'm so sorry. Mastitis is so uncomfortable, andigot it for the same reason though I didn't know it at the time.. greensad.gif I took ibuprophen around the clock during my bout and I think it helped a lot. :hugs:
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Yeah, after I had DS I was completely at a loss as to how to coordinate to do anything!  Don't worry, you will figure out bits and pieces of the rest of life, aside from baby care, very soon.  I remember what a big accomplishment it was to just cook dinner, then clean the whole house, then lead a bible study.  You get there, I just think the first is such an adjustment in every part of life and then you have the difficulty of tongue tie on top of it. I really think the tongue tie thing is super hard and, just from my two experiences, it was a lot harder to take care of the constant feeding with a tongue tie baby. I am sorry you feel trapped, I could not do the moby with DS either bc it hurt my boobs/swelling mastitis stuff.  Can anyone come over and help you?  Or, and I am just trying to think of all angles, is there a chance you feel like taking a step back for a semester would be a good idea?  I am just trying to help, not sound like I doubt your ability, just trying to ask what might be helpful and balanced for you.

yeah, it has been an emotional time bc this week we all had a pretty bad cold and I felt spread really thin.  DD either has reflux or I have overactive letdown, or both?  I don't know.  DD will cry with pain and squirm and eventually fart a lot, she arches her back and cries and spits up, and she will get upset when she is comfort nursing and my milk lets down.  She also will grimace and spit up in the back of her throat and swallow and cry. it is sad.  She is kind of fussy and only wants to be held and rocked or walked. I think she maybe has 10 min at a time of not doing anything and just watching when she is awake, otherwise she is crying or nursing or finally asleep. It is hard bc DS was interactive by now and I just feel like I am not doing it "right" with her and like I need to figure who she is out better/quicker.  I think DS didn't have the same issues with overactive letdown because his tongue tie slowed down the flow enough. I tried the pacifier, she doesn't like it so no go for now. I have switched to nursing one side for two hours and the other for any feedings for two hours, we will see.  the next step is to cut out dairy bc DS and DH are sensitive/allergic to lactose...hoping it isn't that, I just got back to eating dairy and love some ice cream!

So, we are moving in 3 weeks and I think that is contributing somewhat to my emotional stuff. I am going to miss my friends. It was hard to not get to hang out with my friends this week since we were sick. One less week to cherish the time I have with them.  DS was a beast this week and I spent a lot of time teaching about patience and anger management (in toddler terms) and it was hard to have every single day be a struggle of keeping him together, DD needing to be held or nursed all the time, and me feeling sick- intro to solo parenting was not so gentle. So glad we are getting better and I don't see how next week could be worse.  

I am going to say it, I miss sleep and I miss sex with DH.  I will get one way before the other lol. I feel like a total loser whining about sleep because with DS I barely ever got a 2 hr chunk of time and I do get a 2-3 hr chunk with DD.  I think I am a little scared of how long the sleep deprivation can go on.  I don't know, it is silly and I know it is a short time in life, it just seems cruel to need to be compassionate and understanding and in constant care of such a precious gift but not be able to be running on full energy.  DH and I fooled around a bit today, no sex, haven't even finished bleeding yet, but I just miss him- definitely not how I felt after DS, nice surprise.  My pelvis is achy and my belly feels flabby.  I won't offically work out for a while but part of me has amnesia about being pg for 39 weeks and is annoyed that my body isn't where it was before lol. DH was ridiculously supportive of my body and so sweet.

Missing sex: yes very very much. I also just miss cuddling him. Odin sleeps in our bed and I don't get to wrap myself around DH like I want. I really want to get Odin into a bassinet for this reason, but trading 3-4 hrs of in bed sleep for maybe one hour of bassinet sleep isn't something we can do yet.

Missing friends: <3 that is just tough.

Missing body: I'm so afraid that I have to say goodbye to all my clothes. And I fear these stretch marks and CS scar are these horrible looking marks that DH will hate. He won't, but I project. It's hard to. Imagine this flab going away.

I think I have a fussy baby. He nurses constantly, and if he's not asleep or nursing he is usually fussing. My mom said it yesterday, "It should be easier." Maybe I need to take incompletes and finish the semester in August, when we will start child care and he will be over 3mo... Maybe this will change after his clip?
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Pacifiers -- I really don't have a problem with pacifiers when used appropriately. I don't like seeing a walking talking toddler running around the mall with one in his/her mouth, but I would put that in the "inappropriate use" column. For newborns the need to suck for comfort vs. food is strong, and comfort nursing may not always be possible or may frustrate the mom or babe. I don't think pacifiers should be used to delay feedings, but when baby is clearly full and simply needs to satisfy the sucking reflex for comfort, then why not use a pacifier? So long as BFing is going well and there aren't any latch issues. 

 

With DS we introduced a paci around 3 weeks. He was a lot fussier than DD has proven to be so far and he really NEEDED that paci. We stopped using it before he was 2, though I don't remember specifically when. We weaned him off it until he was only getting it at naptime and then stopped using it then as well. It was pretty easy getting rid of it though I'd worried and heard so many horror stories. So with DD, we decided to wait until 3 weeks (today) to intro a paci or bottle of EBM, but a few nights ago she was so fussy and was obviously not hungry, so desperate in the middle of the night we tried to get her to take a soothie. No dice. Since then, we've tried a few more times to introduce it, but she's just not at all interested. She'll take a finger sometimes, but not the paci. I guess maybe we just won't end up using one with her. O.o Generally, she's not terribly fussy, but sometimes in the night she has a period of being wide awake and wants to be carried or walked or bounced or something, and we just really want to SLEEP. We've had one grandmother or the other here since a couple days after birth, so we've been able to hand her off and get some Z's, but I'm worried about a week from now when grandma goes home and it's just us.

 

 

DAY/NIGHT -- Anyone have advice on switching up sleep cycle / wakeful periods? I try to keep her awake during the day, but I don't always have her since grandma has been taking her for periods so I can nap in the mornings between feedings.

 

 

Sex -- It's funny that you ladies bring that up because I have been feeling the same, and REALLY surprised by it. After DS was born, I was SOOOOOO not interested. My bleeding didn't stop until 6 weeks pp and my period didn't come back until 6 months pp. I expect my bleeding to last that long again probably, unfortunately. I don't know about my cycle. But yeah, I keep finding myself interested in getting intimate with DH, and feeling like I miss him, miss being close -- sharing a bed with a newborn between you really puts a hamper on "closeness" LOL

 

 

Birthcontrol - We aren't planning on anymore babes, so DH is planning to get the surgery done, though we haven't found him a doctor or figured out timing. I don't know if my period will be back before 6 months this time, but I assume we'll use condoms and NFP prior to him getting that procedure.

 

 

BFing -- Thanks to all the ladies who offered advice on sleepy baby... she actually improved on that front within a couple days of my posting about it, though I did try the things you all suggested and some other stuff I found on kellymom. The compression stuff worked best, and also making her do "sit-ups" between breasts to wake her back up. Generally it isn't a problem at this point, but sometimes at night I still need to rouse her when I switch. Other than that, latch seems good and my nipples are starting to stay more out than flat which has helped with the soreness and discomfort at initial latch. 3 weeks does seem to be when things get better. :-)

 

One thing she still does sometimes is "chomp". It's like when DS would do a few times after his teeth came in O.O With that, he was older so saying "No!" and taking the boob away seemed to work well because I only remember it happening a handful of times ever. I don't think DD is old enough for me to "condition" her like that or to withhold boob time from her to facilitate that "conditioning". So, I don't know what to do, but I don't want her developing a habit because by the time she does get teeth, well, ouch.

 

 

Body/Healing -- I gained about 24 lbs. during pregnancy and have lost all but the last 11. I kind of figure it might take a while for that last bit to fall away. I keep thinking I look huge in the mirror, but DH keeps reassuring me that I look "fantastic". I can't help but feel he's lying... lol... though I realize what he sees is probably not the same as what I see. Pity that. I've been more active than I maybe should have been since the beginning just because I can't help but *DO*. I just can't sit around and do nothing especially when nothing means letting the house get cluttered and a mess. I've been letting others do dishes most of the time, but I can't stop myself from picking up, cleaning, straightening... etc.

 

My lady bits aren't sore anymore, but I have a stupid hemorrhoid. I've never had one before (never got one with DS) so I didn't even know what it was for a long time. It's not bothering me much anymore, but still a little sore sometimes and still bothers me when I go #2 sometimes. (Sorry, tmi?) How long do these things take to heal and go away? The midwife told me it could take months!!!  >_<

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I made it to the other side!  I was starting to feel like I would be pregnant forever!  Anyway, I hope to gain some knowledge from you wise women.  I have a lot of the same issues as everyone else has going on and looking for support as well.  Rosie- I'm right there with you.  I do nothing except feed the baby.  Lucky if I shower and then I'm covered in milk within a few hours.  I'm exhausted and have that same trapped feeling :-(  This is where I need some help-- Gracen had early onset jaundice that got people all worked up--  she didn't latch well at all after birth so I started pumping and finger feeding in the hospital because we had to try to get the billi down.  So, she had to get poked a bunch and we had to have billi blanket which again made learning to nurse really hard.  So, we are FINALLY past the jaundice and after seeing a really great lactation consultant (Adria if anyone is from Madison, WI area) we decided the only way to get her nursing was a nipple shield (which if you knew me you would think is very ironic because I'm a CLC and totally anti-shield!!!!!  Everything about this process has been very ironic :-)  Anyway, now she is latching with the shield which is easier then pumping and finger feeding, but she nurses pretty much 24 hours a day and I'm not sure if its because it's harder for her to transfer milk with???  I'm gonna try to get her off it ASAP, but she still won't latch without it :-(  Makes me feel like a failure, idk.  Thank God my husband is home for another week and that hes helpful otherwise I wouldn't eat or shower! LOL!  My bottom hurts and I have hemrroids (sp?).  Any tips/advice would be much appreiciated!

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Jessi - I suspect Odin nurses instantly because he doesn't get milk as effectively as he could. I'll let you know if it is fixed after his clip next week.
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