What do you do when your kid repeatedly, deliberately, lies about what is going on. For example, when I catch his arm on the way to smacking me, he says "I just want to put my hand here" and then holds it out in the same place it would have hit me but when there is no other reason to have his hand out like that. Or when you watch him rip a box and then he says "you ripped it!" or "it was already ripped".
Penelope Leach says they say these things because they WISH they were true. And they don't really understand the difference between pretend and reality at this point, right? So to argue with them might be pointless. And to reprimand them for lying might be unfair.
But I can't let him get away with refusing to take responsibility for his actions, can I?