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I'm 10weeks pregnant with our third child. In my previous pregnancies I have never feared an m/c - I guess mainly because both previous kids were 'planned' and it never occurred to me that anything could prevent them from reaching their final destination LOL
This pregnancy however was a surprise and as much as I welcome this new little person in my life I am feeling a bit antsy. A close friend just miscarried at the start of the year and suddenly the idea is in my head...
I had my first mw appointment a week ago but we weren't able to find a heartbeat with the doppler, which would have been fortunate anyway. My next appointment with her is on may 14th since we are going away for a week at the start of the month and I expected to have an appointment with a HB-friendly OB before. However the earliest apptmnt I could get with the OB was may 10th.
So, now I am torn between scheduling an earlier appointment with the mw or just relaxing myself and finding that old trust again within myself.
My friends baby stopped growing in week 7, she learned about it in week 11 and mc'd two weeks later. She said she was glad she didn't know any earlier, bc this way she had two weeks of coming to terms with it and waiting for nature to do its thing. She coped extremely well and wouldn'T have wanted to know for six weeks that the baby wasn'T viable. I can see her point.
So in the past few days I have had on and off round ligament pain and today for the first time definite growing pains. In my logic this would mean, if my uterus is still stretching and adjusting, the baby inside must have a heartbeat too, right? Or is this too naive and unscientific thinking? anyone know more about this? any OB's on here who can actually contribute some medical facts?