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[Igottafeeling]

I'm almost 10 weeks and I feel like I'm showing. This is my 3rd child and I'm not sure if it has anything to do with that. Before pregnancy though I worked out 6 days a week but still have been fighting this little stomoch bulge. I feel like that has just been pushed up and out. My husband hasn't said anything one way or the other.  is it true that women will show sooner with subsequent pregnancies?

[greenmamato2]

Yes you will absolutely show sooner with subsequent pregnancies 

[heatdodge]

I'm glad to hear others are showing.  This is my 3rd pregnancy, and in the other two I LOVED having a belly to stick out and be proud of!  I wore tight shirts and dresses and savored the feeling of having a big "proud" belly.  I generally have a good self image, but this time around I just feel fat.  No, I just feel bloated....REALLY bloated, in the MOST uncomfortable way.  I keep thinking I've just developed a gluten intolerance or something as it feels food related rather than pregnancy, even though it doesn't go away!  I'm bloated all day, but by evening it's out of control.  So uncomfortable - and I do look like other 8 month prego ladies (I'm 10 wks).  Granted, by the end, my belly will be humongous - I've gained 50 lbs both other times while working out and eating well, and it is all in the tummy.  But for some reason I haven't started wearing maternity clothes, although I struggle to fit into anything.  It's like I feel like I'm not allowed to yet - like someone will ask how far along I am, and when I answer they'll judge me or make triplet comments, or something - honestly I don't know what I'm afraid of.  I'm hiding myself under giant tee shirts and unzipped "fat day" pants.  I put my hand on my tummy the other day in that "pregnant way" simply because I was self conscious of what strangers thought - and felt like a fraud (like I was faking a pregnancy).  What is going on with me??  This isn't like me at all.  And I'm not hiding the fact either - we've already told everybody.  But I still find myself trying to suck in (not even something I did regularly prior to this preg).  I think pregnancy is the most beautiful time and am so excited to get to do it again, so i don't know what's going on with me!  Anyone else with totally weird sudden-onset self image issues?

[greenmamato2]

 I put my hand on my tummy the other day in that "pregnant way" simply because I was self conscious of what strangers thought - and felt like a fraud (like I was faking a pregnancy).

I've done this too.  I'm going to be 12 weeks day after tomorrow and I still feel like I have to wear regular clothes, or I'll be somehow "exploiting" this pregnancy or something.  It is ridiculous.  I think though, that so many people make comments of "oh, it's still so early,"  or "I bet you'll be excited to get into the second trimester," that I know sometimes I often feel like "real" pregnancy doesn't start until much later.  Celebrating your new baby or your growing belly should be something you're allowed to do from the start without stares or little comments.  Yet, I find myself subjected to the same inner criticism and worry, just waiting for those knock-downs from people around me.

I'm going on a trip out of town in a couple days and plan to wear dresses and shirts that really show off my pregnant self.  I'm hoping I can just relax and enjoy it. :)  You should too!

[Liz R]

I'm 9.5 weeks with twins in my first pregnancy & starting to show