I look at this site and see so many people driving for hours to find somebody to allow them to VBAC, or deliver a vaginal breech.
I had a VBAC with #3--so part of my discussion is that I had a VBAC myself.
I plant the seed at the first prenatal----most are shocked that it is even an option--then I get some to just up and get their records---and have made less than kind comments about me recommending such a dangerous thing---I have been called VBAC Quack etc.
I have over 90% success rate when I lived in a "more progressive city"--so it just kills me to hear that the mother does not want to try----I have to respect their wishes--and I always say they have lots of time to think it over and read about it---I certainly don't expect a decision early on----many need time to mull it over. But---I am I think dealing with "family" who play a huge role----"my family would like to plan it", "My family thinks it is unsafe", "My family...."
Last month I had to do 3 sections on excellent VBAC candidates because they did not want to VBAC----and I have another to do next week--who is also an excellent candidate---but "I don't even want to consider it-----I don't want to labor---and even if I come in at 8 cm---I want to be sectioned" Arrggghhhh!! Yet I can't make her feel bad about her decision-----that would be demeaning to her!
I always say I will respect their wishes--and the final decision is up to them but really do put VBAC in a positive light---and the fact that I did it myself----I would think is a good convincing point.
Ironic isn't it-----you all want it--- and I can't give it away!!! There are no doulas or midwives here at all.
You want somebody to do a vaginal breech, and although I did a few last year---there were still some who didn't want to do it.
You want non-intervention birth--and I get asked about how quickly they can get an epidural at the first visit! I spend their whole pregnancy trying to dispel the fear of labor--and I often spend 30 mins at every visit.
Oh well---back to the labor floor----got a baby coming---she's been fully dilated for 4 hours---and just now starting to get an urge---epidural at 6 cm---she is so glad she chose to get the epidural---and she IS going to get a vaginal birth!!!!