nm, was just looking for likeminded people, but it seems there aren't any here.
Edited by FeralFox - 4/15/12 at 8:16pm
Yes as McGucks said, usually there is a value system that would lead someone to make the choice to work the marriage in this way. And it's usually that overall belief system that is the guiding force. I know lots of folks who work their marriage with a wife in submission but they are usually strong Christians, strong Muslims or other religious faith. I haven't seen a marriage that is totally secular that has made this choice (except in cases of domestic violence where it wasn't by choice). So I am curious and was hoping to have more of a description of the thinking behind this.
Is it the kind of people who loe been dominated? I don't I'm just trying to understand. Is it women who are supposed to like being not taken in consideration? Or those who are in abusive relationships?or those who are strongly religious or again is the word submissive too strong and you are refering to women who support their husbands and accompany them in decision making without really making any decision themselves? Am I making any sense?? :))
I saw this on "recent posts" and couldn't leave it alone...
Uhm. yeah. That site is just totally messed up.
And, I, actually, do believe in being submissive to my husband.
But...that site is not it. At all.
The Christian version of submission is that it's a gift I give to him. He's never supposed to *make* me be submissive. His job is to love me and consider me. My job is to respect and submit to him. It makes a nice party...safe, normal. Lots of teamwork. It's our own personal growth, directed inwardly. I'm not supposed to force him make decisions any more than he is to force me to abide by them. He hasn't, and never will "put me in my place."
I know this is an old thread, but I'm here for you if you ever want to talk :). I'm not currently in a submissive relationship (if I take it the way I believe you meant it) as my husband isn't in the lifestyle, but yea...feel free to PM me and we can talk more :D. I don't care to share my business publically.