Edited by nhklh - 11/16/13 at 2:52am
travelmumma - I'm so jealous! She sounds awesome!
smhs - Good luck. I'm looking in Chicago, too, and I'm having a LOT of problems finding someone. I don't like either of the two CNM practices that are based in Chicago and due to the legal situation, it's hard to even hear of CPMs, not to mention getting one to actually sit down and talk to you. I know both CNM groups in Chicago do not take twins. If I find a CPM that I know takes twin clients, I will ask her if I can PM you.
But, yeah, I'm definitely feeling down about the whole midwife search.
travelmumma - That's great that you found a midwife that is such a good fit for you and your husband!
smhs - Wow, that sounds incredibly frustrating! Sounds like finding a CPM in Chicago isn't easy? I'm not in Chicago, but I would probably try finding baby wearing groups, attachment parenting groups, La Leche League groups (or some other group that attracts mothers interested in natural childbirth/midwives) you could go to just to ask around and get some contacts. -- If the CPMs are hard to find, that might be a way to find them?
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My first appointment with our midwife was last week. She is awesome, and I feel really great about her. It's so hard not having a health care provider that doesn't feel like a good fit, so I feel for all you mamas that are still trying to find the "one".
I am in Chicago, and on Medicaid. After a long and arduous search for an HB midwife, I have a meeting on Tuesday with a CPM who made a better impression on me in one phone call than the two CNMs I met with in person. Also, she is not way out in the suburbs, which was another factor for me, as we don't have a car, and getting rides to Warrenville to a midwife I wasn't thrilled with didn't sound ideal to me.
I had gotten so frustrated trying to figure this out that I had nearly given up, but the idea of birthing in a hospital is so counter-intuitive to me that I pressed on and began making inquiries about CPMs in the area. They aren't legal in Illinois, but that doesn't faze me on any sort of safety level -- I just think Illinois is backwards for refusing to license CPMs. If this works out, I will be very relieved, and a tiny bit thrilled that this little girl will enter the world as an accomplice to a "crime". ;)
I am thrilled to announce that at 33 weeks pregnant, I have finally found my homebirth midwife! She is wonderful, and our long meeting today made me feel so confident and excited about my upcoming birth. I was really getting down, and feeling like I'd have to give up and just birth in the hospital. I'm so happy!
Yet another reason CPMs need to be recognized and licensed in IL. It would be such a reduction in hassle and headache for would-be homebirth mamas in the Chicago area if we felt we had more than 3 or 4 choices, and had more than underground access to these wonderful, skilled providers. Think of how many women there are in Chicago! The need simply isn't filled by the few homebirth CNMs (of which only ONE accepts Medicaid and will currently do births in the the city of Chicago).
Emmagrace, thats wonderful! Its never too late to switch or find someone you are comfortable with . with DD2 I found our midwife at 39 weeks! LOL... MW choices are sometimes hard to come by. Here in PA there are a few, when we lived in the lehigh valley there were 3-4... but as we learned they all had their "stories" and "issues" ... we share the feeling of thinking we needed to give up and just go to the hossy, until we became comfortable wtih UC. Anyhow, another shame for pregnant women is the midwives out there that seem to be on track and call themselves midwives and put up a veil of how truthful they are. I have personally came across a few one was a personal friend (MW) that wasnt really true to the "with woman" midwife character youd assume by talking with her. You have the midwives that are hossy midwives and resort to protocol and freak out with variations of normal. Then those that are overly in your business and have the need to control YOUR birth. ehh , sorry for the tangent.... Congrats on finding someone that you jive with , thats awesome! Happy birthing!
Just realized I never put an update in this thread, but as you already know if you've seen my other posts, we're staying in the US until after the Wee Baby Jones is born. Bummed about the delay, BUT it means that I get to do a home birth with my friend/midwife! I'm going to start gathering supplies this week and am so very excited about it! I'm applying for pregnancy Medicaid on Monday and they will cover the cost of the birth. One area Florida is super awesome in -- Medicaid is required to cover any birth option, including birth centers and home birth.