DD is 3 and I have a new baby who is 2 months. I am currently tandeming but my 3 year old is driving me crazy.
She seems to have so much emotion tied to breastfeeding. She was nightweaned while I was pregnant but lately if she wakes up and wants to nurse and I tell her it's the middle of the night, she will have a complete meltdown - the other week this happened 3 times in one week and one night she screamed for an entire hour. She will flip out, yell, pull on my shirt, kick me, etc. I cosleep with both kids because DH works night shift and i'm on my own so it's easier to have everyone right there. Often this screaming will wake the baby then I have to deal with 2 screaming kids.
I let her nurse in the morning but if I cut her off after a reasonable time, she will sometimes have a complete meltdown as well. This morning I let her nurse on and off for 45 minutes - then when I told her it was time to get up, she became hysterical.
I ran out of milk during my pg, but now that my milk is back she get SO excited about nursing - she doesn't want to read books anymore at night, just wants to get in bed and nurse. She wakes up early to nurse. SHe talks about it all the time. It's like she is obsessed. Usually she only nurses at bedtime and in the morning, but occasionally she will nurse during the day and if I let her nure during the day she gets so excited.
The past week my baby has been sick so I've just let dd nurse whenever she wakes up to avoid the meltdowns because I am very, very low on sleep. It seems my best options are to either wean her completely or let her nurse whenever she wants, because setting limits is not working well.
My mom thinks it's better to just wean her since she is so emotionally tied up in nursing - she thinks it will be better to just take that option off the table and let her learn other ways to be comforted. There have been several nights when she is in the middle of a meltdown that I just feel like I'm done.
But, we have MAJOR transitions coming up....DH leaves at the end of the month to go to Uganda for a month where we will be moving (from the US), then he comes back, we pack up all our things, head to a 3 week orientation in another state, and then move to Uganda. Part of me wants to wean her before all this, but I also think the nursing can provide some comfort for her in the midst of all this craziness and transition, which makes he hesitate to try weaning.
What do you think???