I have had issues with my 'friend' for a while now. The short back story is that my dd and another little girl Natalie became friends in preschool. They were two peas in a pod and really loved each other. Natalie's mom and I have many things in common and always have lots to chat about. I really thought this could be the beginning of a long friendship. It has proven otherwise.
I am all for parents parenting their children how they see fit. Whether to parent AP, or feed sugar, or play with plastic, or not... really every family situation is so dynamic and we are all living in this blended world... live and let live is a good way I view the world.
Okay so I think this mother has extreme practices.... An example of this is that her children can not keep gifts, they can only have old worn toys (books and a few toys are okay, but nothing plastic or nice), they eat very traditionally (whole foods in the vein of Nourishing Traditions) which is fine, but I really can't see why MORE food isn't available. Her children are all rail thin and whenever they came to my house they would eat as much as I could give them (of a similar variety as their mom provides). This screams bad parenting to me, but I don't say anything because it is really none of my bussiness. Also, one child can not have a playdate or parkdate without the other... and mom is always making sure that when 'friends' are mentioned that both girls say their sister is their 'best friend'. There are more examples, but you get the idea.
So this winter when I went over for the only playdate we had with Natalie in many months the mom explained to me that they are not heating their house because... hmmm, well the only reason she gave is that they didn't want to spend the x number of dollars on the heater. Now we live in the SW and so it isin't a brutal freezing winter, but regularly drops below 35 at night. Isn't this going waaaay tooooo far? When I got there one of her rail thin girls was huddled next to the space heater in bare feet on the concrete floor....
by the way, both parents have advanced degrees and both parents work for the major employer in town and I know they are not rich, but um... isn't this going too far?