DoulaSam - thanks again, you're such a huge help!
I'm planning on skipping the epidural this time, provided I can move freely during contractions. The only thing that still worries me is the commute. If second labors are quicker than the first I may be in for a trouble. I would be coming from the Schaumburg area. You can picture what the traffic looks like on some days at certain hours. If I had to go there for the monthly/weekly check ups it would be costly and time consuming. Or I guess maybe I wouldn't need to see the midwife at the hospital(?). Oak Park would probably be the closest one of them. If my husband wouldn't be able to get home on time (traffic, etc.) I woldn't be able to go by myself due to distance.
Where can I find a midwife that might accept Medicaid? I did find some pages but they were so outdated every time I called a place it was either closed down, relocated somewhere else with another name (never found them again) or there was another problem.
We don't have anybody to watch dd so obviously there would be my husband but no one else. Does that usually count as the one person rule? If need be, I can do it myself but at least our daughter would be taken care of. I still want her there, whether she is asleep or awake.
I'm sensing you don't really recommend any of the hospitals nearby. I was really counting on one of the two I mentioned if home birth falls through and now don't know what to do. I guess I could do it all by myself at home...but not really. It would be too traumatic for my husband. :)