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[Lauren82]

I uploaded a belly pic to Facebook and a friend commented: "Wow! You're huge!"

Gee, thanks.

Mind you, this friend weighs about 350 pounds. I had to bite my tongue.

Why do people think it's okay to blurt out whatever they want? The first rule of what not to say to pregnant women should be to NEVER comment on size. That includes big or small.

I've also had it with the rude comments about our family's size. If I hear any of these again, someone is going to get hurt:

Aren't you done yet?

Woooow, that's a lot of kids!

Don't you know how that happens?!

[Ava's Mama]

I ALWAYS tell women when they are pregnant that they look beautiful!  I find it goes a long way and keeps things positive.  My hopes are that if I am positive and appropriate people will do the same to me!  Just delete your friends comment, that is what I would do! 

[Lauren82]

Originally Posted by Ava's Mama 

I ALWAYS tell women when they are pregnant that they look beautiful! 

Same here. "You look lovely!"  "Congrats!" "You're glowing!". Never ever ever "You're HUGE or small or tiny or whatever..." because I think it's just as rude to make an issue about how small someone is.

[mymaya]

my best as of late was (coming from a sort-of-friend): "didn't you guys hear about birth control?"...... hahahahaha. they are all jealous, anyway. not worth our nerves, ladies!

[Lauren82]

Originally Posted by mymaya 

my best as of late was (coming from a sort-of-friend): "didn't you guys hear about birth control?"...... hahahahaha. they are all jealous, anyway. not worth our nerves, ladies!

I hate the birth control comments. Nunya business, people!!!!!!

[MissE]

My in laws seem to have a good time with the "you sure there's only one in there"? There were other comments but they were from my FIL and he has a weird sense of humor. He once commented on me, 8 months pregnant in a dress "You look like a cow in a moomoo"...ugh...wow... I contered saying "I get that from someone  who wears a red nomex to a restaurant?". He laughed about it and I think he knew that he hurt my feelings somewhat but like I said...my FIL has a weird sense of humor, I forgave him for that :).

Other than that, I don't care much if people say that I'm huge or not. I carry weird, very high, all up front so I can see where people are surprised to see me and YES...there's only ONE in there LOL.

I was put in the hospital when I was 26 weeks with DD and on my way to triage (food poisoning, I went into labor) people were "congratulations mama"...ugh...I still had a few weeks to go..I must have been big :).

[domermommy]

MissE, I carry the same way - very, very high. It's soo annoying and the last time around I got so many comments from people about how big my baby was going to be since I was clearly huge (he was 8lb 2oz, so not that huge.) It doesn't help that I have a very short torso and am short already (5'3). Bah.  I also hate the birth control comments -- we started getting them when we got pregnant with our FIRST!! I was shocked. I guess I better toughen up and make up some good comebacks, because we're not stopping with baby #2. 

[Worldshakerz]

I am tall, but very short waisted. My belly has no choice but to pop way out and very early on. Even with my very first pregnancy, people continuously asked me if I was having twins because when I was 5 months pregnant people thought I was going to pop. My second pregnancy, my belly showed a little earlier and I got much bigger but she only weighed a pound more than my son. This being my third time around the belly has been noticeable way earlier and people have asked if I am having twins or if I'm farther along than I think - even my own mother! LOL. Anyhow, at this point I try to not let it bother me - but I don't think I have ever rolled my eyes as much as when I am pregnant .

[greatgatsby]

Originally Posted by Lauren82 

Same here. "You look lovely!"  "Congrats!" "You're glowing!". Never ever ever "You're HUGE or small or tiny or whatever..." because I think it's just as rude to make an issue about how small someone is.

YES. People tell me things like "are you sure you're pregnant?"  "are you sure your baby is growing?" etc.  So annoying!

[greatgatsby]

Originally Posted by MissE 

My in laws seem to have a good time with the "you sure there's only one in there"? There were other comments but they were from my FIL and he has a weird sense of humor. He once commented on me, 8 months pregnant in a dress "You look like a cow in a moomoo"...ugh...wow... I contered saying "I get that from someone  who wears a red nomex to a restaurant?". He laughed about it and I think he knew that he hurt my feelings somewhat but like I said...my FIL has a weird sense of humor, I forgave him for that :).

Other than that, I don't care much if people say that I'm huge or not. I carry weird, very high, all up front so I can see where people are surprised to see me and YES...there's only ONE in there LOL.

I was put in the hospital when I was 26 weeks with DD and on my way to triage (food poisoning, I went into labor) people were "congratulations mama"...ugh...I still had a few weeks to go..I must have been big :).

Wow that is scary going into labor that early!  What ended up happening?  Did you deliver early, or did they stop the labor?
 

[wendipauline]

Someone said the other day "oh, you're already waddling!"

Ugh. I know the intention was good but still. Thanks, coworker.

[crystal_buffaloe]

Originally Posted by wendipauline 

Someone said the other day "oh, you're already waddling!"
Ugh. I know the intention was good but still. Thanks, coworker.

Nothing terribly offensive here yet (but I'm from the South, so it'll come). Just one "Are you sure you're pregnant?" (Yup) and "Already?" (DD is 22 months old!)

[Monkey Keeper]

Originally Posted by mymaya 

my best as of late was (coming from a sort-of-friend): "didn't you guys hear about birth control?"...... hahahahaha. they are all jealous, anyway. not worth our nerves, ladies!

Of that flavor, an acquaintance asked, "What, don't you have a tv???"  

[calpurnia7]

I haven't gotten any comments yet, maybe too early, but I have gotten some nasty looks.  I'm 31 but I look about 24 - but I wear my wedding ring everywhere and frankly I don't think 24 is that young to have a baby if you're ready.  The real haters are at the gym.  I have always thought preggies at the gym kick booty!

That being said - at the grocery store about a week ago I got a wonderful smile and wink from a lady who noticed my belly.  It made my day and I think I'll remember that much more than the ugly stares.  Why are women so mean to one another?  Us girls gotta stick together.

[greatgatsby]

Originally Posted by calpurnia7 

I haven't gotten any comments yet, maybe too early, but I have gotten some nasty looks.  I'm 31 but I look about 24 - but I wear my wedding ring everywhere and frankly I don't think 24 is that young to have a baby if you're ready.  The real haters are at the gym.  I have always thought preggies at the gym kick booty!

That being said - at the grocery store about a week ago I got a wonderful smile and wink from a lady who noticed my belly.  It made my day and I think I'll remember that much more than the ugly stares.  Why are women so mean to one another?  Us girls gotta stick together.

I like your positivity.  I received many negative comments during my previous pregnancy, and I'm sure I will receive many more this time around.  But I also received so many smiles, winks and positive comments from strangers, we should focus on those.

[dmpkmom]

on news that I'm on my third, two coworkers: "I don't know why you are doing that" and "why would you do that to yourself"  Given that I'm not exactly elated myself, I somewhat agree but I also don't need help feeling the way I do.

[WindyCityMom]

Everyone who asks me says "what, don't you guys watch TV?!"  or something along those lines.  Jokingly, but it gets old.

At work, an older woman looked down at my belly, sighed, obviously disgusted, and said (as she rolled her eyes), "Life happens.".  

[Lauren82]

Originally Posted by WindyCityMom 

At work, an older woman looked down at my belly, sighed, obviously disgusted, and said (as she rolled her eyes), "Life happens.".  

Wow. What do you even say to something like that?! What a jerk.

[BRC_MacKenzie]

So far nothing horrible this pregnancy but at about 8 months pregnant with DD, I was leaving the library one day when I spotted a lady trying to get signatures for a ballot issue. I walked up and asked her what the issue was. Ignoring my question, she asked me I was old enough to be pregnant. I was 25 and generally looked young for my age but still - I obviously am pregnant so I must be old enough and second of all, why would I be asking about a ballot issue if I wasn't old enough to vote! I bit my tongue and said "Yes" when she asked me if I was happy about it! Yes, I'm happy, and I'm not signing your ballot now no matter what the cause!

[momtoafireteam]

Its funny, I actually don't get a lot of rude comments about having lots of kids anymore. Maybe once you have six and a belly people just assume you're insane and are scared you will come after them with a bat. :p 

About triplets: Oh yeah. There is this one woman at my kids school and we have some mutual friends, she keeps on making really hurtful comments every time she sees me. The first time she said "So I hear its three? Seriously MyName, I would ****ing kill myself if I were you" and then a month or so later "You look good, but I would NEVER want triplets. No WAY!" We get it, crazy. You don't want triplets. The next time she says something I think I am going to scream at her.