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post #41 of 48

I'm counting today as halfway!  Puts me at 41w3d which is later than any of my others ;)   And we had our u/s today which always is the halfway marker for me psychologically.  

 

I really am trying to embrace and enjoy this pregnancy because we intend it to be our last. But it is so hard running a house and chasing 3 preschoolers to devote any time to wonder and appreciation. My belly is growing, and this little bean is a big wiggle worm!  Every night, I lie in bed with my hands on my belly just feeling him/her move, and I smile. It's the only quiet time of the day that I get to fully enjoy this baby. I

 

I'm feeling some anxiety creeping in again because i'm having a lot of symptoms similar to my first when I had pre-e. So I'm trying to honor the worry and let it pass, still preparing myself for the fact that this may not be a past due water birth at all and instead accept that there are other possibilities for this baby's arrival.  Being at peace with the unknown is something I'm striving for this time.

 

Other than that, I am feeling good and strong and ready for a fun, round summer!

post #42 of 48

Hi Monkeykeeper, love that you're feeling so much movement! Have you read about Brewers Diet at all for pre-e?  This is my first pregnancy so I can't speak from experience, but I've heard it mentioned as a way to prevent/combat pre-e.  I haven't checked the sources or anything so pls take this with a grain of salt, but there's an interesting article about pre-e on the Brewers Diet site: http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/id36.html

post #43 of 48
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Originally Posted by MIrandaM View Post

Hi Monkeykeeper, love that you're feeling so much movement! Have you read about Brewers Diet at all for pre-e?  This is my first pregnancy so I can't speak from experience, but I've heard it mentioned as a way to prevent/combat pre-e.  I haven't checked the sources or anything so pls take this with a grain of salt, but there's an interesting article about pre-e on the Brewers Diet site: http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/id36.html

MIrandaM, thank you for wanting to be helpful. I'm going to try to respond without coming off snarky, so please know that what I say is not intended that way.  Telling someone who had pre-e that they wouldn't have gotten if they'd eaten a certain diet it is sort of like telling someone who has cancer that they didn't take the right vitamins. If only it were that simple, no women or babies would ever suffer from pre-e. The fact of the matter is that despite lots of research no one knows what causes pre-e,and the disease seems to be caused or triggered by different things in different women. Currently, it is thought to be a maternal-fetal  conflict beginning at placentation. Of course, since it is a conflict, then optimum nutrition certainly may improve outcomes. But eating a proscribed diet is not going to "cure" or  prevent pre-e. 

 

The Brewer results actually have never been able to be replicated. In all modern research, no link has developed between pre-e and diet. In fact, for women who already have pre-e, the increased kidney load from the additional protein could be problematic.

 

For me, it seems that pre-e is genetic--on my husband's side. His grandmother was hospitalized with several of her pregnancies for severe pre-e, and it has followed through the generations. Of his female cousins who have had children (several are much younger than he), nearly all of them have had pre-e. And of my husband's 4 brothers, two of the 4 wives have had it as well. There is a genetic link that holds up in research too.  

 

I have gone on to have one pregnancy with only slight hypertension at term and another with no hypertensive issues. But an experience like severe pre-e says with you and colors how you view everything.

post #44 of 48
I'm 20w1d today (not quite halfway for me probably) and it's pretty exciting. Just a few random thoughts to mark the occassion:

  • I'm enjoying the pregnancy. I feel good smile.gif I look good smile.gif I'm happy.
  • I've been going to water aerobics once a week and trying to take the dog out on a nice big walk twice a week.
  • I've been tireder longer than I was with DD.
  • I'm not showing much -- though I wish I was! I'm still wearing my regular pants and a hair tie through the buttonhole and/or bella band, but have broken out a few maternity tops.
  • I've gained about 12 pounds so far, which seems about right to me, but is up above where I "should" be on the babycenter chart. (I have eaten 3 pieces of chocolate pecan pie since yesterday, though -- but it's homemade! and DH won't eat any! and it's right there on my counter calling to me! and hey, I'm preggo!)
  • Feeling lots of movement lately -- and I felt movement MUCH earlier than with DD (think 14 weeks as compared to 21!)
  • I've gotten a few twinklings and twinges that this bean will be a boy lately -- and we'll find out (I hope!) tomorrow. I vaguely thought "girl" earlier in the pregnancy, then I wasn't sure -- nothing at all like the conviction I had with DD.
  • We've planned a minibreak over a 4 day weekend for Memorial Day. DH wants to save up ALL of his time for after he kiddo arrives, but I talked him into getting away for a bit while we can. It'll be the first time that we've spent the night away from DD. We booked a fancy downtown hotel, are going to a Cardinals game, eating at the melting pot, and taking in some museums/movies/shopping/shows.
  • I am way behind on following up with a doula, and in fact have not even 100% committed to a hospital birth with my family practice doc.
post #45 of 48
Monkey Keeper - My best friend had pre-e (and so did her mother with both her and her sister) and it all blew up at 40 weeks. She had to have a c/s under general anesthesia and it was a scary, scary time. The technician who wheeled her in when she finally woke up said that her BP was the highest he had ever seen. hug.gif
post #46 of 48
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Originally Posted by crystal_buffaloe View Post

Monkey Keeper - My best friend had pre-e (and so did her mother with both her and her sister) and it all blew up at 40 weeks. She had to have a c/s under general anesthesia and it was a scary, scary time. The technician who wheeled her in when she finally woke up said that her BP was the highest he had ever seen. hug.gif

Thanks, c_b!  It IS scary, and I had a negligent care provider to boot. I appreciate the hugs :) 

post #47 of 48
Monkey_Keeper - I think that she also had a negligent care provider as well. She was having intense lower back pain for DAYS -- which were probably huge warning bells for kidney failure! I feel like he just let her crash and burn until it got way out of control and she had to have an emergency c/s under general -- she had regular monitoring and prenatal care -- I feel like a day earlier would have offered maybe the option of an induction or at least a spinal so she'd have been awake greensad.gif Anyway, I'll share your story of pre-e followed by 2 more uneventful pregnancies with her.
post #48 of 48

Jen- I think you are my due date buddy- I am so excited for your scan- actually sometimes it is better at 22 weeks- I had my "20 wk" scan at 19w2 and they couldn't see some of the heart.  I also had a for sure feeling my baby was a boy- they told me early on the the best guess was girl and  I kept feeling a male energy and sure enough he is a boy and three professionals- a rad tech - the radiologist and the echcardiologist all said they would retire if it was not a boy- two different occasions so I am sure he is a boy.  I'll be looking out for your results heartbeat.gif

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