I know this has been discussed before but I can't find a thread and thought I'd start a new one. I need some ideas for how to respond to a comment I get on a daily basis (yes, freaking daily) about my family.
I have three sons (7, 5 and 3) and a 5 month old baby girl. When we are walking to school, going to the grocery store, pretty much anywhere I get the "Oh, you finally got your girl!" comment (or, "4th times a charm!" or "you must have been so RELIEVED when you found out it was a girl!")
When she was a newborn and I heard that I kind of politely laughed and moved on. But the older she gets, the more attention she garners (being a chubby, smiley baby now), the more often I hear it. And my older sons are standing there every time and can hear this comment. I just think it's too much. Besides the fact that I obviously love my boys just as much, my 4th pregnancy was unplanned so we were definitely not "going for" a girl. I find that ridiculous anyway since you can't exactly "try harder" to get the gender you want. It's just so dismissive of the older boys, like they are throw-aways in my hunt for a daughter.
So, anyway, normally this sort of thing rolls off my back, but the fact that it happens SO often now is really bugging me. I know people are not trying to be rude and really don't get that it's annoying to hear.
Ugh. So how do I respond? I am not good at snarky responses. I'm the typical, smile, be polite type (who says the snarky comment in my own head) so I need a response that is polite but lets my boys know, and the person, that I love them all the same and I'm not going to entertain that line of conversation.
I've talked to them about it after the fact (told them those people are just trying to be funny and of course I didn't keep having kids because I wanted a girl) but I'd like to show them that I'm not going to politely laugh when someone says it.