My maternity leave ended this week and my 3 mo is in daycare (home daycare with ~ 6 kids total, 2 DCPs), with dad one day and with my mom one day a week. It seems like this will be a great system for us, except that dd won't take a bottle at all!! We offered her both a pacifier and a bottle at about 3 weeks old. She never accepted a pacifier (we only tried it because she is a major comfort nurser in the evenings) and except for the very first time, she never accepted the bottle from my husband.
We've tried different bottles, different nipples, different flows, even a sippy cup and she doesn't accept anything. She pushes the nipples out of her mouth with her tongue with out ever trying to suck them. we even offered her formula from a bottle to see if she'd accept that with no luck. The thing is, when she is at the DCP's she does pretty well all day long, will get a little fussy in the afternoon and cry a bit but really is fine. With my dh, its not so easy at about 3 pm, she got really upset and cried for a long time before falling asleep. She is nursing a lot more in the evenings and a little more overnight tomake up for it. I actually feel okay about her doing this but everyone around me is getting very upset and its really stressing me out. Our DcP's helper suggested that I only pump and offer her a bottle and that she'll take a bottle from me eventually (she said she had to do this with her son and it took 2 days and finally he took a bottle). I'm really uncomfortable doing that. I'm so nervous that it will kill bf'ing with dd and I'm NOT ready to give that up after only 3 months. If she gets total nipple confusion and doesn't want to bf anymore, I would still pump as long as I could, but I'd be heartbroken to lose that and I know that exclusively pumping is SO hard! My mom fed her a tiny bit of an avocado thinned out with breastmilk and she took that from a spoon really well and my mom said she really seemed to enjoy it, but i don't know if offering food so early is an option either! I'm just not sure what to do and I'm starting to feel really stressed about it. I really liked our DCP when we met with her (several times) before deciding but she is acting like she won't take dd if this continues, although hasn't said it outright and also had made some weird comments about the baby crying like "A mom came to pickup and she was crying and the mom asked if she'd been crying all day." I was like "but baby's cry. Why would that upset another parent?" She didn't really respond except to say "of course baby's cry." but that whole exchange got me all weirded out! anyways, if anyone has experienced this, any advice? Sorry so long!!