Can I just say something? I was over on the tripletconnection forum yesterday, checking old threads about helping triplets sleep longer at night (I'm not freaking, mine wake only 3 times, and all together... but having babies sleep through the night is a generally tantalizing thought and something I check around about once in a while ), and I was aghast. I literally had a hard time sleeping last night thinking about the "advice" moms were giving each other over there. I've heard about CIO before, of course, but for bedtime -- not for like ALL NIGHT LONG. In response to a woman who was sleeping on the sofa with one fussy baby in order to let the other two sleep, someone said "sorry, but I would NEVER let a baby decide over me and rule my life. They're too old to be sleeping outside their bed" -- they were referring to 7-month-old triplets (and probably 2 months premature, so 5 months adjusted). One mom said that letting them CIO over night is tough for the first few nights, but that "babies are smart, and they learn that they're not going to get anything from their crying." Wow. I'm just so sad for those babies. Generally, I'm the type of person who says every baby is different and every parent is different, so we have to be tolerant of what works in each family. Some CIO at bedtime might be the only way for some parents/babies, I don't know because I haven't been there. And some parents may need to be a little more proactive in helping their LO's learn to sleep longer stretches at night by rocking and co-sleeping rather than offering the breast every hour (say, if mom works outside of the home and doesn't have a chance to nap during the day). But letting babies cry by themselves off and on all night long? At 5-7 months old? My stomach is just in knots thinking about it. I try so hard not to think of babies in understaffed/underfinanced orphanages all over the world whose needs are not being met. Who just give up after a while and stop crying and just stare off into space. But babies who have parents who could meet their needs being ignored, that's just too much. It's a few months - maybe a couple years - of our lives, people. Goodness.
So thank you, mothering mamas, for being such amazing, gentle, nurturing moms, and thank goodness there's a place I can go to get advice from people who think in similar ways regarding parenting.