Or, what different gear will I want for baby #3?
With my older girls I was strictly a baby wearing mom. I never took the infant car seat out of the car (it was awkward and heavy and my babies were not, and they only slept in the car seat in a moving car anyway). I very rarely used a stroller (for trips to the zoo, etc, but then mostly to lug stuff). My babies napped in arms/slings, and my toddlers napped in my bed or their own low toddler bed. I used a bouncy seat/exersaucer in our bathroom so I could shower and pee without a baby on me. With DD2 I had a second for downstairs in the kitchen.
Now I'm watching other families with multiple children out at parks, the library, kid activities, and so on, and wondering if I'll have different gear needs/wants this time around. Should I just buy a good convertible car seat, or do I want to get an infant seat that I can snap into a stroller? Should I buy a stroller like a snap-n-go or a travel system to replace the one that got broken on a flight? Do I want a nap set up like this? A swing? I don't want to spent lots of money on bulky plastic stuff I won't use, but I want to set myself up to be in the best position possible to balance the needs of my baby, my older girls, and myself (and my husband and household too).
At the time of the birth, DD1 will be newly 6, and DD2 will be newly 3. DH has a 60-90 minute commute (each way). I have no local family. My support system is primarily other families with small kids. Both older girls will be home full time. I'll be home schooling DD1, who will be entering 1st grade. Both of the girls and I are VERY socially driven. Long days just at home are NOT a good thing. We all go stir crazy and bicker. We like to be out and about. The older girls will have music and dance or gymnastic classes weekly, and we'll do weekly group park days (likely two a week), weekly trips to the library, and such too. Right now we have 1-3 planned weekly activities out of the house for any given week day. Obviously this won't be the case for the first couple of weeks, but I have no intention of spending months at home after the birth. DH will be home for 2 weeks after the birth, and we are talking about hiring some postpartum help - a doula or mother's helper, as well as a biweekly housekeeper.