Thanks for the book recommendation Snapdragon - I checked it out already and it looks great....right up my alley! As for what the benefits may be of leaving my son at home when I go school......potentially giving myself an opportunity to reconnect with myself as an individual as I believe this has been one of the sources of the problems DH and I are having. An opportunity for my husband to truly feel like an equal parent. He feels that he has not had this opportunity due to my very attached parenting. (also a source of the problems in our marriage).
I appreciate the comment that my parenting instincts are probably right on target. I just have trouble trusting my own instincts sometimes, although funny enough I've always considered myself to be a very intuitive person and able to listen to my intuition. It's just become clouded over and more difficult for me to access. Could also be due to not eating well and not getting enough sleep. My son only nurses at night and it's up to 8 times a night, and sometimes even 10. It's been that way since he was born. I'm really tired and my health has suffered due to lack of sleep, bad eating habits and stress.
I think your DH would do well to understand that there are ways for him to be a more involved parent without you needing to go away to school. He could take the baby to the playground, play with him after work each day for an hour so you can do something else. I also think there are other ways of you reconnecting with your passions and interests outside of parenting than going away to school and leaving your ds behind. Join a book group, or attend interesting lectures at school during times that you mint otherwise be at home occasionally. It doesn't have to be all or nothing, and if you are doing attachment parenting in a way that excludes your DH, you should find ways to solve that issue - because it's important that you are both parenting. I guess something I really doing understand is how he could feel like he doesn't get the chance to parent as much as he wants, and yet also feels that the child would be perfectly fine without you, you being the one who does most of the parenting? I guess your posts come across strangely to me.