Point blank, my 4 y/o DD is defiant and I don't know what to do about it. She is fearless and doesn't seem to care about punishment. She is the youngest out of 4 kids. She starts school in August, and I really want to get a handle on this. It doesn't phase her when she goes in "Time Out", it doesn't phase her if she gets a swat on the behind, it doesn't phase her if she gets sent to her room. She does not listen to direction. She is a smart girl. And when she is being good, she is great! But it never lasts long. She has been a naughty girl starting at an early age, and it just seems to get worse with time. It is embarrassing, She throws temper tantrums. I mean, my head is spinning with all the bad things she does. But she really is a good girl! It makes me sad that she is this way. I want to help make her happy and behave!
I have expressed to her that I understand she is upset and I try to find out what is bothering her, but she is 4. I try to help her find different ways to express herself, but in the end nothing seems to help.
Help. What do we do? How do we handle this?