My teenager has braces. At first, we tried letting him control his intake of pop (they aren't supposed to have it, or if they do it is in very limited quantities) that didn't work - he was drinking it every day. Then we tried the once a week, but somehow that got away from us. He went to the dentist and has a cavity and they told him that he has plaque on his teeth from pop. I told him, one night when he wouldn't brush his teeth, that until he could show me that for three days straight he could brush his teeth twice a day and wear his bands that he wasn't having pop. He hasn't been able to do it yet, and that was over a week ago. The dentist told him he needs to be brushing at night, and he didn't last night. The other day he asked for pop. I made him promise that for the next three days he followed through with brushing his teeth twice a day, and that if he didn't he would have to go six days. He promised me that he would, but then didn't brush his teeth last night, despite me reminding him. He's 16 years old! He wants to be treated like such, but he can't even brush his dang teeth! My husband told him that until he can start following through with it, he is being withheld from his monthly clothing budget ($50) and piano lessons ($30 a week) as we pay $150 for his braces every month. I also am going to have to pay $60 for his cavity.
He complains that I treat him more like a mother than a friend, we have a very strong relationship and talk about everything, and we really do have a friendship. However, a friendship goes two ways, and he is so rude and disrespectful to me. He gets a clothing budget every month, but always asks for more things. Yesterday I explained to him when he asked for a $30 necklace that I had $60 after gas and groceries to get me through the next 2 weeks, After that he asked me for a shirt, then proactiv, then got mad at me for always saying no. I pointed out to him every time that I didn't have the money, it's like he expects it to come out of thin air! He has a job, he can buy things on his own - even though he doesn't get a lot of hours. I also just spent $90 in hockey equipment for him, with more expenses to come. We just got back from a 10 day vacation, he has college class tuition coming up, we have some medical bills.
I'm so burned out.