DD will be turning seven soon and we've had a lot of upheaval recently. She's started to have multiple tantrums on a daily basis. DH and I are at the end of our ropes on this and we don't know how to handle it at all.
I don't even know where to start with how to describe it. DD will suddenly fly off the handle about some little thing. "Time to come to dinner" or "no you may not watch TV right now"... Basically anything that we ask of her that is unexpected or not what she wants to be doing leads quickly to a spiral downwards into a tantrum. It happens so fast we can't stop it once it is upon us.
Perhaps the worst factor is the screaming. She screams at the top of her lungs and can and will do so for 1/2 an hour to an hour or more (occasionally much longer). We live in an apartment with neighbors on all sides. The walls aren't very thick - we can hear the next door kids giggling when they play. I am sure our neighbors think there is something really bad going on in our apartment. Today, for instance, there were at least four instances when DD was screaming long and loud.
Time out isn't an option - she doesn't stay where we ask her stay. We have tried putting her in her room and calmly holding the door shut but she has attempted to climb out the window. DH is ready to spank but I really can't go down that road. How could we tell her not to hit if we hit her? (And she has, just recently, started hitting me, DH and -worst- our 3 yo DD).
I don't even know how to describe it. We are miserable. We spent time with family recently and by the end of the visit everyone was breathing a visible sigh of relief that we were going away.
Does anyone have advice? Is this normal behavior for a seven year old? My sanity is at issue here. But first and foremost: How do we stop the screaming before we get kicked out of our apartment?! I'm seriously concerned we'll be getting a letter soon from the management with a complaint.