I should start by saying I truly love my in-laws. But ack, they fight. DH says they fought non-stop while he was growing up. They have mellowed a lot, but sometimes they get into it again. Like today at dinner. When they argue, it involves raised voices and name calling and general nastiness (jerk, idiot, shut up). Yeah, very uncomforable. I truly can't imagine acting that way (really!!) but they seem to have no problem with airing dirty laundry right in the middle of the soup course. Stuff that we can't help with at all. DH tries to diffuse it, but it doesn't work. I am NOT ok with this in front of my kid!
They are older (late 70s) and I feel bad because his mom has nobody to talk to about martial issues. They certainly can't afford counselling and I know she's at her wits end at times and hopes we can help. Uh, I can't help! I don't know what to say, but I sure don't want them fighting like that in front of us! Before when DH asked them to cut it out, she looked so despondent like she just didn't know what to do.
Very frustrating. Makes me not want to go there anymore, but we have to (we have to help them in their day to day lives since my FIL had a stroke).