Originally Posted by casmer
I want to update family members, etc on our baby girl, but I'm really not comfortable with how FB shares SO much information. I really hate how you see random pictures of people you don't know because one of your friends "liked" their picture. I have a blog, but I'm afraid if I make it private, our parents won't remember how to log into it. I always e-mail them when I update it and include a link and they still don't seem to understand that all you have to do is click on the link
to see the blog -LOL. Plus my dad is all like "I've been showing everyone your blog" Grrrreat. Anyone have any tips for keeping up with long-distance family (while maintaining a little privacy)?
I suppose I could just send stuff out in an e-mail...that sounds boring though. Or maybe do a little on the blog and a little with e-mail? Do any of you have any reservations about putting pics of your LO on the internet? I'm kinda nervous about someone trying to steal my kid I guess
Cristeen - could I borrow your parents???
I have pretty strong opinions about social media...so...take it all worth a grain of salt from here down. :-)
I used to blog and I used to be on facebook...I ditched FB 2 years ago after it became obvious that 1) they have ZERO respect for peoples' privacy - and their treatment of user data only gets worse over time and 2) it was making me depressed! All that faux social interaction. The hardest part after getting off was realizing that people I considered my "friends" weren't friends enough to really reciprocate when I tried to maintain a relationship (email, phone calls, etc) with them outside of social media. It made me realize how few real friends I had...but it also made me love and appreciate the real ones a whole lot more.
I shut down my blog because I don't like not knowing who's reading and when I kept it private, people complained and all in all I was just more interested in living my life than writing about it. :-)
I'm even nervous about posting here because I occasionally suspect that family members have discovered my account and are snooping (<---paranoid? yes...probably...but I have a complicated family history).
I know I'm not the only person who's a little more reserved about posting tons of pics of my kids online...once it's out there on the internet, you can never get it back and you never really know what's being done with that data (that you no longer own) or who's looking at it.
That said...it's hard to figure out how to balance staying in touch with those who aren't geographically close but who truly want meaningful updates about your family and life...and protecting your privacy and security, especially in this day and age, when it seems like if you're not on facebook, you just don't exist.
When I got off facebook, I found that people I would otherwise love to be in touch with, just didn't have time to even exchange an email here or there because every social interaction they have is centered around facebook (if it's not face to face). I think that kind of sucks and I think generally facebook and social media in general have made human beings into crappier friends...but...that's how it is. Suddenly it's a HUGE effort to drop an email to someone; it's so much more convenient to just do a drive by on the FB wall.
Anyway...I send emails. I send text messages (which I also kind of hate...but hello, the iphone makes it so easy and addicting). Mostly I try to keep that for pictures (like to my mom or sisters or close friends). I REALLY try to talk to people on the phone instead of online. And I have one friend, one sweet, amazing friend, who actually writes REAL letters still...so a couple times a year, we play Jane Austen and write real pen and ink, stamps and post office letters. And I love that.
The thing is, the people we THINK we need to be in touch with, because facebook has made it all so easy...more often than not, they're not adding anything to us (and we're most likely not adding much to them)! It's just lazy social voyeurism. Why do any of those people, who are annoying you and stressing you out with their juvenile social drama (or politics or relationships or whatever), not playing any significant role in your *real* life - why do they suddenly have a RIGHT to access information about your daily life...just because some whiz kid made a social networking platform and a whole bunch of people suddenly decided it was a good idea to join up?
I don't know...I think the people who are really interested in what's going on in your life would be thrilled to get an occasional email with a few pics of your baby and a quick update.
, I would like to be added to the waiting list for borrowing your parents. ;-)
Just my two cents...