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do you like being a sahp?

post #1 of 17
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i have worked almost the whole time we have had children... until the last two years. and i have to say i am LOVING being home full time. i have wanted to do this for so long.

for 15 years prior i have at least worked 24-36 hours a week as an RN but when we moved back to AZ after 2-ish years in maine, we decided that we would try me being home full time. 

i just like taking care of stuff here. i love being home and not stressing about my weekend shifts coming up (it took about a year for that weird butterfly in the stomach thing to disappear, thinking "oh man i have to work this weekend"). 

money has been tighter, and i have taken on the lions share of household stuff, but you know i don't mind it. there isn't that weird transition of me being home to dad being home back to me home. i am just always here.

planning our week is just sweet because i can do all of it! lol

i mean there are bad days, but those happen everywhere, so to me it is just part of life.

maybe i am all on cloud nine because i have wanted for us to be in a spot where i could do this for so long and now... WOOHOO!

i just felt like shouting it from the roof tops. i realized the other day that that funky tummy feel was GONE! and i thought i am finally realizing i am doing this. LOL

post #2 of 17

I do love it although we all have our days of chaos!  I have never worked while having kids and my hat goes off to the moms who do that.  I think it would be so hard and they work to make it work.  I respect the hell out of that.

post #3 of 17

I enjoy it very much.  I do work every other weekend, but that is all.  I love being the main caregiver for my daughter.  However, this may all change when I have TWO young ones very soon (expecting in June).  But, I wouldn't trade the time spent with my daughter for anything.  Days can be rough, especially in winter when we are stuck inside doing the same things over and over, but I still prefer to be home with her.

post #4 of 17

Yes, I do love it. I was working PT out of the home when DD was little, and that was hard for me. The good thing that came out of it was that DH watched her one of the days that I worked, so he knows exactly how much work goes into taking care of everything all day long. As everyone else has mentioned, some days are harder than others, but I'm finding it's getting a little easier now that they're older. :)

post #5 of 17

I love it. And I find it frustrating and sometimes grueling (I am never done working and I get so tired of poop). And I feel like I am vanishing from the world and not making a mark. And I worry that my husband will decide that I am not interesting enough, given that I am all babies all the time.

 

But I do love it, and I can't imagine not wanting to be here with the girls (I can imagine not being able to, for whatever reason, and just thinking about it exhausts me). But the trade-offs are sometimes hard.

post #6 of 17

I love it, never wanted to do anything else. 

post #7 of 17

I am in the middle on this.  I worked as a public school teacher for close to two decades before taking two years off to stay home with our now-two year old.

 

I found teaching to be stressful, rewarding and sometimes a real downer.  I find staying at home to be the same.

 

I know I am fortunate that I can stay home, but it has been so much harder than I thought it would be and I don't like it when I run into people I used to teach with and they tell me how much "fun" I must be having.  Yes, there are fun times and I love my little one like crazy, but it can be very, very hard.  He is quite hands-on and almost never plays by himself. 

 

I think it depends on the mom's personality and that of the child, as well.

post #8 of 17
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I love it, never wanted to do anything else. 

Me, too. I'm in the process of finally looking for a job to help the eldest with college expenses next year.
post #9 of 17

I never, never, never wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.  I have never, never, never done well when I had nowhere to be every morning. 

But, we're doing it!  And I think I might be kind of good at it!

 

We're a little bit proud of ourselves right now, Mr. and I!  biggrinbounce.gif

post #10 of 17

 

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maybe i am all on cloud nine because i have wanted for us to be in a spot where i could do this for so long and now... WOOHOO!

i just felt like shouting it from the roof tops. i realized the other day that that funky tummy feel was GONE! and i thought i am finally realizing i am doing this. LOL

 

 

 

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Originally Posted by MrsGregory View Post

I never, never, never wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.  I have never, never, never done well when I had nowhere to be every morning. 

But, we're doing it!  And I think I might be kind of good at it!

 

We're a little bit proud of ourselves right now, Mr. and I!  biggrinbounce.gif

 


OMG these are two cutest posts ever. Seriously. These made me smile and feel so happy!!

It is so nice to hear that both of you feel so proud and happy to be SAHMs. It gives you a real sense of accomplishment and purpose, and I think that whatever it is that the two of you feel is exactly what you need to be a GOOD stay at home mom.

 

I never wanted to be a SAHM, and I have had some really hard days doing it, but I do feel happy about being one. And reading these two posts reminds me to be even more happy and grateful. Thanks.

post #11 of 17

I have a job before but, taking care of my DD was my priority. So, Im staying with her at home, and luckily I was able to help my DH while working at homethrough the internet!! Love taking care of my DH!! So sweet and naughty at the same time duck.gif

post #12 of 17

I always knew SAHM was what I wanted to do for the benefit of my children. Not to mention when you add in childcare costs it would now cost me more money then I could make to work and have them in daycare. 

I'm also a really bad employee, but I'm a good SAHM. winky.gif

post #13 of 17

Do you ever have those low-motivation days where all you want to do is zone out in front of the TV or computer, and park your kids in front of the TV to get a little peace and quiet? Ugh, today was one of those days. But with that, comes amazingly fun filled days, or days where everyone is in a great mood and happy and helpful...So yeah, I love being a SAHM, but I wish I never had a low-motivation day because I know I'm being a bad mom but I just can't get myself out of that funk. Can anyone else relate?

post #14 of 17
MrsBone, I can relate! Summer is my favorite for being a sahm. Winter time It's so cold and a pain to bundle up to do anything and sometimes I just want to lay in a pile. Thanks for the motivation to get my butt back in gear today. smile.gif
post #15 of 17

I have been a SAHM since my oldest daughter was born and I love staying home with my kids.

post #16 of 17

I'm in the middle. I have days where I'm really happy and remember why I wanted to stay home to begin with and there are days where I want to pull my hair out and go to work for my husband so he can stay home. I do enjoy it for the most part, though.

post #17 of 17

I'm a Nurse too, I worked after DD1 was born, then DD2 came along, then DD3, and I never ever thought that I was going to stay at home after I got pregnant again, then after DD4 was born I just couldnt do it anymore. Having to work full time and then coming home to 4 daughters was exhausting and heck I'm only human. Did I liked at first? Of course I did, 1000 times better than having to stand for hours and hours on end in surgery, but now... I miss my job and I feel horrible for doing so.

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