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I am finding comfort that so many other mommas that have 3+ children!

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 

I have to say I was not planning on being a mom of 4 and I am feeling overwhelmed (I think partly because I am so tired and nauseous). I am feeling old. redface.gif AND our life is in big transition right now (with employment and housing)...so anxious about getting more settled before #4 arrives!

 

Part of me is so grateful that there is a big gap in my kids (they will be 9,6,3 when #4 comes along) but the other part of me feels like this just keeps going on, and on, and on. We did foster care after #1 (before adopting #2) so I have had one (and sometimes 2) in diapers for over 5 years and I have been pregnant or nursing for the last 3.5 years. I had JUST stopped carrying a diaper bag a few months ago. smile.gif Is it hard having them spread out? I keep thinking I will have one in high school, middle school, elementary school and in pre-school....it makes me wonder about my ability to be there for all of them.

 

Anyway, enough of my complaining! I know this will work out and I will not even be able to remember what life was like before #4 came along. I love being pregnant and giving birth and I am excited to meet her (but right now I just feel like sleeping for the next 8 months until labor starts)! ROTFLMAO.gif

 

But I just love that there are other moms on here that are pregnant with #4, #5 or #6! It makes me feel not so alone in this journey of having a large family! You women are all so inspiring! I am in awe of your peace about adding another to your family! bow.gif

post #2 of 23

We are joyously expecting our 6th blessing :)

 

I'm fortunate enough to be able to stay home with my children and home school them. It can really be a mad house around here with all the diapers,nursing,messes, etc.... but it's all worth it.

Being pregnant and having a toddler (or two) definitely tries my patience and I strive to keep my stress level down when trying to manage the household. It's crazy-hard I'll admit but wouldn't have it any other way. 

 

A couple years back my 5 year old comes up and says he's got a secret....

"You're a pretty mama"

This is so sweet on it's own but when you're hugely pregnant it's especially wonderful.

 

Hang in there mama, it's all worth it :)

post #3 of 23

I was so excited to read this!  We're going to start homeschooling next year.  I'm nervous but sure its going to be wonderful!  I'm glad to hear of someone else doing it (and with more kids than me! ;)).

 

This is our 4th!  My kids are fairly close in age (4, 2 and 11 months) so I can't comment on the age gap. I know what you mean about being exhausted!  I feel that way some days too!  I know it will all work out though...if anything, I now have an excuse to have a nap with some sweet, cuddly babes!

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Originally Posted by Katri'smama View Post

We are joyously expecting our 6th blessing :)

 

I'm fortunate enough to be able to stay home with my children and home school them. It can really be a mad house around here with all the diapers,nursing,messes, etc.... but it's all worth it.

Being pregnant and having a toddler (or two) definitely tries my patience and I strive to keep my stress level down when trying to manage the household. It's crazy-hard I'll admit but wouldn't have it any other way. 

 

A couple years back my 5 year old comes up and says he's got a secret....

"You're a pretty mama"

This is so sweet on it's own but when you're hugely pregnant it's especially wonderful.

 

Hang in there mama, it's all worth it :)



 

post #4 of 23

We thought we were done at three (12, 9, and 7) but then we decided we just had to have one more hence the two year old:P Almost immediately we really wanted another one but we kind went back and forth. I'm pretty happy that we're going for it. This is our last baby but I think five is a lovely big family:P And I think it will be great for my current baby to have a sibling closer in age.

post #5 of 23

i love seeing all the big famlies too! love.gif

post #6 of 23
This is #4 for us! A lot of the time I feel like we are crazy, but I have two from my first marriage (almost 11 and 9.5), and a one year old from this marriage, so I feel like this one needs a buddy! Also that she is going to be too spoiled without another little sibling, haha. She is doted on by all of us, especially my 9 year old.

Luckily we are buying a much bigger house, we are closing in a few days. Right now we barely fit into our 950 sq ft house, with no closets or garage and a small yard!
post #7 of 23

This is number 4 for us as well! It is awesome that there are so many mamas with a goodly sized brood :)

Truthfully, I am nothing but OVER THE MOON about this next blessing...I am positive it will be crazy but amazing. My husband is so sweet and funny, when he found out we were pregnant with our DS he said "Well, it really doesn't matter how many babies we have now, love" and I was like why? So he sweetly but seriously responds "We're  taking the leap and going from man to man to zone defense. Once you're in zone defense, there's no going back" LOL! So needless to say he has been crazy supportive of this pg as have my girls (my son is still a little caveman lol) I feel so lucky to be in this DDC with all of you lovely mamas!!

post #8 of 23

Having #4 here too. redface.gif But I wasn't at peace about it at first...lol. I'm slowly getting there now though. We're homeschoolers too and I'm honestly a bit overwhelmed just thinking about teaching four children at home, especially since I work secularly as well. But by the time I got the older two kids up and dressed, packed lunches, took them to (two different) schools, went back to pick them up from (two different) schools, and spent the evening helping our daughter with her homework - well, I don't think that would be less work than home school. So we're going to be moving along very slowly until after the baby gets here. 

post #9 of 23

This is #4 for us!!! I'm slowly warming up to the idea. We thought 4 would be a nice even number, and we were running out of time to get pregnant since my DH is turning 40 soon and that was our age cut off. He was going to get a vasectomy after his birthday. We figured if we were suppose to have #4 it would happen by then. Sounds strange, BUT it hasn't been that easy for us to get pregnant and I really didn't think it would happen. We've been married for almost 10 years and we've never used birth control and my other kids are 3-4 years apart. Imagine my surprise when I actually ovulated and got pregnant. LOL It really sounds silly doesn't it? Anyway, I'm trying to have a positive view on this... I really do LOVE the idea of number 4. It's the timing that throws me off. My DH is in the military, and it's very possible he won't be here for the birth or will leave shortly afterwards. We also homeschool, and that has me a little nervous as well. I can homeschool with 4 kids, right?

 

One day at a time... ;-)
 

post #10 of 23

If this baby sticks it will be number 5 for us ! I have had 8 miscarriages, this is my 12th pregnancy (I have had 3 full term pregnancies, but had twins!). I have a good feeling about this one, I am further then I have been with most of these and my numbers are much higher, so I am hoping everything is good! I would like 6-7 kids!

post #11 of 23


My husband used the same analogy!  We've found that 3 was easier than 2 anyways...so he's confident its going to get easier!  Funny man!  We both love the idea of a big family!  I think we thrive on chaos! ;)

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Originally Posted by darkblue0729 View Post

This is number 4 for us as well! It is awesome that there are so many mamas with a goodly sized brood :)

Truthfully, I am nothing but OVER THE MOON about this next blessing...I am positive it will be crazy but amazing. My husband is so sweet and funny, when he found out we were pregnant with our DS he said "Well, it really doesn't matter how many babies we have now, love" and I was like why? So he sweetly but seriously responds "We're  taking the leap and going from man to man to zone defense. Once you're in zone defense, there's no going back" LOL! So needless to say he has been crazy supportive of this pg as have my girls (my son is still a little caveman lol) I feel so lucky to be in this DDC with all of you lovely mamas!!



 

post #12 of 23

I know what you mean about it going on forever - ha!  I got pregnant with my first at 21 - he's almost 17 now - and the other kids are 11 and 12 1/2 and 6.  So there are the two who are what we sometimes call "the twins" and then there are 4 - 5 year age gaps between the others.  I don't think it makes it any harder at all.  Definitely draws it out though! - I always thought I would either have kids younger or older, but not for an 18 year stretch!  But that's how it turned out and the kids are all great together, and having the older kids to help out with the younger is so so great.  That's one of the best parts.  I just found out I'm pregnant with my 5th - which is the first baby for my new beau and me - (he has a 12-yr-old as well).  We're excited.  It's kind of a big gap - about 7 years - and I'm definitely feeling a bit old! (like you said), but I think it will be wonderful.  xox Kelly  

post #13 of 23

I'm pregnant with #7. It's awesome having them spread out! I cannot wrap my head around having so many back to back.

post #14 of 23
#5. I get funny looks from people who deeply resent their 1 or 2 kids!
I like kids, they're pure spirits. Teenagers well......
But 5, really? Or twins? My midwife says my uterus is above my pubic bone...
But its probably because my uterus is not a condo sized but a colonial house.
post #15 of 23

#4 here. we have a 5 year old 4 year old and almost 2 year old. It is chaos and this certainly was not planned, however time is helping us get to the happy place :)

post #16 of 23

 

    Thank you for this thread! 

 

   #5 here and it is.... very unexpected.  I am so worried about telling people about this. The judgments, the worry over my health....   What I need so badly is to have people be excited to help me believe that it will all be ok. 

post #17 of 23

 

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Originally Posted by Kontessa View Post

 

    Thank you for this thread! 

 

   #5 here and it is.... very unexpected.  I am so worried about telling people about this. The judgments, the worry over my health....   What I need so badly is to have people be excited to help me believe that it will all be ok. 

 

Same here!  Quite unexpected, and I too am a little worried about telling people about this...sigh.  I never thought I'd be having kids 'older'...yet now I get to worry over things I can't control like genetic issues and increased risk of miscarriage, etc.  Sigh.  However, I'm also very excited as well!  It's a lot at an already stressful time, but I'm dealing with it.  Just really tired!

post #18 of 23
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Originally Posted by Katri'smama View Post

We are joyously expecting our 6th blessing :)

 

I'm fortunate enough to be able to stay home with my children and home school them. It can really be a mad house around here with all the diapers,nursing,messes, etc.... but it's all worth it.

Being pregnant and having a toddler (or two) definitely tries my patience and I strive to keep my stress level down when trying to manage the household. It's crazy-hard I'll admit but wouldn't have it any other way. 

 

A couple years back my 5 year old comes up and says he's got a secret....

"You're a pretty mama"

This is so sweet on it's own but when you're hugely pregnant it's especially wonderful.

 

Hang in there mama, it's all worth it :)

I am another homeschooling mama expecting #6. When this little one arrives our children will be 10, 6, 5 ,3 and 2.  I have been soooo unusually exhausted that our homeschool has switch from structured to "only wake me up if your hungry, hurt or if someone is at the door. I hope this fatigue subsides soon so that I can be somewhat functional again.

post #19 of 23

I really like my large family!

People always make comments, maybe if I only had one they'd say "when are you having another"

But 5 kids is so out of the "norm" but then again so am I ;)

 

I am getting excited, this will probably be my last baby. 

I am trying to enjoy this pregnancy, find peace within the chaos of a huge family.


Edited by Shiloh - 7/3/12 at 6:29pm
post #20 of 23

I like having a big family, too - and I really get all positive responses for the most part - I think a lot of my friends will be excited about it.  I also think this will be my last pregnancy, so I want to enjoy it to the absolute fullest!  I have 4 and my beau has 1 and now we'll have one to share - so 6 kids in the house for us. 

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