When I'm feeling bored and depressed because no one else in my family feels like pursuing anything that's really interesting to me, I see this as a wakeup call that I need to start spending a little time each day pursuing some things that interest me.
Also, since I have pretty much zero interest in computer games, my natural tendency is to see computer game playing as sort of a dead zone, but whenever I take some time to really watch my girls playing their games, I see all kinds of cool stuff that they are learning by figuring out how to navigate their path through whatever universe they are drawn into at that moment. It honestly doesn't interest me enough to make me want to play any of those games -- but I see that it's very much a live zone for whoever feels drawn into it, which seems to be about everyone else in the world apart from me.
Housework. Sometimes I sort of seem to keep on top of it a little, sometimes I don't...but guess what? My almost 12yo just recently graduated from a state of sadness over us not having a cleaner house...and moved on on her own to a state of empowerment at the realization that she really does have the ability to work a change in any area of our house or her life that she wants to. Now she has days (not every day, of course) where she rolls up her sleeves and just tackles whatever part of the house she wants to get in order.
She really livened up our stairway one day by washing the walls and creating her own artwork to cover all the cracks in the plaster.
She has also been very interested in sewing and crafts pretty much all her life. I have little skill or inclination in that area, but I did start providing her with needle, thread, and fabric, and showing her how to do some really basic stuff, several years ago. We got a Knifty Knitting kit but never really got too far with it. When she was around six, a neighbor gave her a few sewing lessons before her (the neighbor's) life got too busy; When she around ten, she learned to knit at homeshool co-op but then got discouraged when she'd get so far with a project and then mess up...
So, as of late, it seemed like she was expressing a lot of "I'm not good at anything" kind of vibes but wasn't really wanting to do any of the stuff I suggested that I thought might make her feel more successful...but I'm learning that it's much more effective for me to just be aware that she has a need, stay on the alert so I'll recognize an opportunity to meet that need when it pops up, and then just throw the opportunity out there.
A couple of weeks ago, I learned about a neighborhood craft group that meets one Saturday a month. I work on Saturdays so I asked dh to go with her. They went last Saturday and LOVED it! It was all adult women who were very helpful to both her and dh (who incidentally learned to knit that day). One of the ladies showed dd how to finish off a knitting project, and since the time she came home, she's been, off and on, just whipping out all kinds of little projects like bookmarks, belts, headbands, and a case for our cell phone. One of the ladies also gave her a crochet hook...and the other day, dh got her some crochet yarn, and dd went right online, googled "how to crochet," watched a video, and immediately whipped out two gorgeous roses.
I'm not saying this super-productive high will last forever; I'm sure she'll get bored again, but I think she's really, really, come much further in learning about her own power to, like Ghandi, "be the change she wants to see in the world."
Oh, and she's also learned to make many of her own simple meals and snacks. And sometimes she makes stuff for her sister, too, so the food thing really does get easier as they grow, even in families like yours and mine where each child often wants something different.