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1 week past "due date"

post #1 of 14
Thread Starter 
Ugh I swore I wouldn't get like this again, but I'm so down, feeling like I'll be pregnant forever. With my DD, I had my membranes stripped & now I'm wondering if I can even go into labor on my own without some kind of nudging. I had scar tissue from a LEEP done over 10 yrs ago, I thought her birth probably took care of all that but now I'm wondering if it's causing me to not dialate properly. My MW didn't think I'd make it to my due date and here I am. Contractions every day & only 1.5 cm dialated.

Would anyone like to commiserate?
post #2 of 14

I'm only 40+1 and not very impatient, so I can't commiserate...but maybe I can offer some encouragement. I don't think that having self-defeating thoughts are helping your cause at all. I believe that our minds are very powerful and that what we think or fear can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Maybe you could try some positive affirmations about your body working perfectly. Try doing some visualization of what you want to see happening. Trust that there is a reason baby hasn't come yet...baby isn't ready yet. Try to trust that when the time is right and your baby and body and all other factors are in synchronicity, labor will begin and your body will know what to do and baby will be born! I know this is all easier said than done. But I think that being "down" and having self-defeating beliefs or thoughts that your body just can't do it right and all the negative energy surrounding your mind and thoughts do not help and may actually hurt. hug2.gif Try to trust in the process and not obsess over dates or time and relax and try to find a little peace in these last days, hours or moments of pregnancy. That is what I'm trying to do...but it's difficult, I know. Hang in there!

post #3 of 14
Thread Starter 
Thank you. I needed that reassurance and that's why I vented here. People are driving me absolutely NUTS and have been since I hit 39 wks. Some days I just turn my phone off all day.

Today I just feel hyper emotional, you know that feeling before you start your period and you just feel yourself brewing & you know it's just hormonal but can't make it stop? That's how I feel.
It was rainy and dark here all day too which didn't help my mood. Hoping for sunshine tomorrow so me & DD can play outside.

Also, my MW wants to do an u/s Wednesday which last time lead to a low amniotic fluid diagnosis & her stripping my membranes. I'm really hoping for no interventions this time.
post #4 of 14


 

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Originally Posted by saudade View Post

I'm only 40+1 and not very impatient, so I can't commiserate...but maybe I can offer some encouragement. I don't think that having self-defeating thoughts are helping your cause at all. I believe that our minds are very powerful and that what we think or fear can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Maybe you could try some positive affirmations about your body working perfectly. Try doing some visualization of what you want to see happening. Trust that there is a reason baby hasn't come yet...baby isn't ready yet. Try to trust that when the time is right and your baby and body and all other factors are in synchronicity, labor will begin and your body will know what to do and baby will be born! I know this is all easier said than done. But I think that being "down" and having self-defeating beliefs or thoughts that your body just can't do it right and all the negative energy surrounding your mind and thoughts do not help and may actually hurt. hug2.gif Try to trust in the process and not obsess over dates or time and relax and try to find a little peace in these last days, hours or moments of pregnancy. That is what I'm trying to do...but it's difficult, I know. Hang in there!



Thank you for this wisdom.  I think I need to come back and re read it over and over and over.  I havent' gone past 40 weeks with any baby so far so this has been hard for me. 40+3 today.



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Originally Posted by MamaChick View Post

Thank you. I needed that reassurance and that's why I vented here. People are driving me absolutely NUTS and have been since I hit 39 wks. Some days I just turn my phone off all day.
Today I just feel hyper emotional, you know that feeling before you start your period and you just feel yourself brewing & you know it's just hormonal but can't make it stop? That's how I feel.
It was rainy and dark here all day too which didn't help my mood. Hoping for sunshine tomorrow so me & DD can play outside.
Also, my MW wants to do an u/s Wednesday which last time lead to a low amniotic fluid diagnosis & her stripping my membranes. I'm really hoping for no interventions this time.

I am feeling the exact same way today.  I have cried 4 times for no reason at all.  It feels totally hormonal and I felt very depressed this morning.  Getting out and going for a walk really helped with the depression though. 
 

 

post #5 of 14


 

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Originally Posted by MamaChick View Post

Thank you. I needed that reassurance and that's why I vented here. People are driving me absolutely NUTS and have been since I hit 39 wks. Some days I just turn my phone off all day.
Today I just feel hyper emotional, you know that feeling before you start your period and you just feel yourself brewing & you know it's just hormonal but can't make it stop? That's how I feel.
It was rainy and dark here all day too which didn't help my mood. Hoping for sunshine tomorrow so me & DD can play outside.
Also, my MW wants to do an u/s Wednesday which last time lead to a low amniotic fluid diagnosis & her stripping my membranes. I'm really hoping for no interventions this time.


Other (well meaning) people do not help at all, do they? I've also been hit with a bunch of "you're still pregnant?!" and then just to make things worse they throw the wrong kind of wording in with it, saying things like, "Well when are you going to deliver?"  Well I don't know, Einstein, when do you think I will deliver

 

Yikes, that came out mean.

 

I read somewhere that drinking tons of water might increase amniotic fluid? I don't know how true it is, I didn't research it much, but the longer I am pregnant, the more water I try to drink. Is that something you would try, at least just to put your mind at ease? Just throwing out ideas here...

post #6 of 14
Thread Starter 
I am totally guzzling the water today! Although most of it seems to be getting peed right out.

My favorite question is "are you dialated?" ugh! Do I ask you about your privates? So weird!! I get daily texts "feeling anything?" or "any contractions?" yes I've been having them for months, thanks! I also got a "any closer to delivery?" yesterday. I replied with "I have to be, right?". Sheesh.
post #7 of 14
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Originally Posted by MamaChick View Post

My favorite question is "are you dialated?" ugh! Do I ask you about your privates? So weird!!



The lady that leads playgroup always asks, and it feels really uncomfortable. She finally understands thtat my HBMW doesn't check. So when I walked in this morning, she asked if I was having any bloody show or leaking fluid! Seriously!

40 + 3 here. With DD I went into labor the night of 40 +3 and had her the next day. I don't really see that happening today, but I could be wrong. It sort of feels like since it hasn't happened yet, it isn't going to, which is ridiculous.

Yesterday my phone rang off the hook- midwife and doula both called, which was good. I also heard from my mom and dad (separately), MIL, sister, and a few friends. Then my mom had her boyfriend call trying to be funny. I didn't think it was nearly as funny as they did.  I've been trying to post a little something on facebook just so people don't have to wonder. this weekend I simply posted "nope." and everybody got it. At least everyone did their calling yesterday so today has been quiet.

 

 

post #8 of 14

I've started getting a lot of annoying comments from well meaning people. I even overheard two people talking about me today and say, "She better have this baby TODAY!" Or WHAT? I had one person, the day before my due date say..."so if labor doesn't start tomorrow, when do you go in?" As if I'd be just going in to get induced on my due date?? LOL! I haven't had any dilation questions...I have not been checked, don't want to be. I am 40+2 today and only one of my four children went past my due date. He was born 40+3, so this is unusual for me. But my response to everyone no matter what their idiotic comment is "MAYBE TOMORROW!" With a smile. Every day is just "maybe tomorrow". orngbiggrin.gif

post #9 of 14

41w now. Grumpy, grateful, pessimistic and hopeful all at the same time. I'm feeling like being online is not really what I need (you know it's bad when the announcement thread pisses you off ...) today, though I did just read this lovely article that other overdue mamas might appreciate too:

http://mothering.com/all-things-mothering/pregnancy-birth/the-last-days-of-pregnancy-a-place-of-in-between

 

post #10 of 14

40+4 today and I LOVE THIS THREAD! I can really relate to everyone and what they have posted.  Even my dad texted me yesterday to ask me if I had had any contractions yet.

 

I  Had lots of contractions that were actually somewhat intense today but they  are not in a pattern and only last about 30 seconds. As usual.  I am sorry for those of you in the same boat as I, but also grateful as I don't feel so alone and it helps me feel that everything will be ok. Dh and I had a good talk last night about my anxieties and fears surrounding this birth and I think that has helped me a lot.

post #11 of 14

if your this far along try some raspberry leaf tea, the organic kind it may not start labor but itll help the prosses my mother inlaw did it and two hours later she had my sister inlaw. but if it doesnt its still good for your uterus and can make labor easier. im only 38 weeks and 3 days 2 cm dilated and no contractions what so ever. i drink the tea everyday and somehow i can notice it doing something!!!! either way its healthy for you:) 

post #12 of 14

lalazap- thank you for sharing the article. perfect. This is where we are, where everyone is waiting for us to be something different that it is hard to feel that what we are now is good enough.

post #13 of 14

I definitely need some co-miserating!  Maybe everyone here has had their babies now love.gif???  I'm 41 weeks and 2 days and have been dealing with the annoying comments for weeks too!  Dreading the thought of having to go to work tomorrow to hear it some more, so really hoping to go into labor today at some point...  Tomorrow I also have to see the midwife and have an NST, etc.  Would really like to skip the extra testing and just have this baby :-(  Anyone else still hanging in there????

post #14 of 14

Oh, and Lala thank you for that article!!!!  Love it!!!!

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