Weekly chat April 16-23 - Page 3
MW appt went well today. Baby and I are looking great, sounding great on the Doppler. She seems to think I might go into labor hopefully before the weekend...but we both thought that last Monday, too, so hopefully this time we are right!
Moss- 40+5 here, and getting impatient!! I just want to see/hold this baby and find out who's in there already!! Mood swings are definately happening here, too. I was convinced I'd have the baby on the 22nd, and nothing, not even any BHx, happened yesterday. So I was trying not to cry when DH asked me if I was ok when we were getting ready for bed. And I've had a super short temper w/ people. Left some not so nice FB messages for family that keep bugging me.
If ONE MORE PERSON ASKS: "Is anything happening?"..."Why you holding that baby in?"..."You haven't had it YET?!"..."Do (insert random activity here) and you'll go into labor."...I will stab them in the eye with a fork!
My bio-dad keeps calling every couple of days asking if I've had the baby and "forgot" to call him. He called Saturday as we were going into a Chinese buffet to eat lunch. I said, "Can I call you back, we are just walking into the restaraunt for lunch." He said, "Sure, but hey, are you in labor? Anything happening?" Pause...I said, with heavy sarcasm, "No, otherwise I probably wouldn't be walking into a restaraunt, would I?" Silence, then laughter, "Oh, I guess not!" Called him back, and he wants me to take castor oil b/c he wants the baby born RIGHT NOW, said my MW must not be good w/ dates if she is "so far off," (Saturday I was only 40+3???), and general horse crap that made me want to slap him if he didn't live across the country. Also can't believe I'm having a "Hippie birth" (home water birth) and really wants me to go to a hospital so I can get an epidural. Yeah. No thanks, Dad. Oh, and he and my grandmother are going to fly up when the baby is about a month old...THAT ALONE is stressing me out b/c they are both going to sit here all day, wanting to hold the baby, for a WEEK, while I cater to them, cook for them, and generally entertain them. And that is NOT about to happen. Not to mention they are going to pick apart everything from the town where we live, (extremely rural community compared to their sprawling urban city), and my house, which is a manufactured home, and the fact that I'll be nursing, and baby wearing, and blah blah blah. I'm trying to get excited about it, as it will be the first time they are going to see where I live, and I do plan to show them some of the nicer things around here. Hoping for a good visit, anyway, but expecting a bunch of crap. LOL!
My mom and brother are hoping to come the 1st week of June, and that visit, I'm looking forward to. This will also be their 1st time seeing where I live, and they will both be a huge help and very supportive.
See how opposite my parents are and why they divorced?? LOL!
Sorry for the rant...I kind of unloaded all this on the MW today, too, lol. She said to tell ppl we moved the due date to the 29th so they will quit bugging me!
Chiro I think I also have a repeat plugged duct offender. Along with other suggestions MW says hot compress right before nursing, cold right after, and point baby's chin at the duct. Unfortunately my offending duct is on top. I'm gonna try nursing him upside down side-lying again tonight. Sigh.
Mine was from about 9:00-12:00 on my right breast. I tried dangle nursing, flipping her around so that her chin was towards it, massage, heat, showers, etc. Nothing worked. When I started the Lecithin I also added a moist hot compress. I would out the compress on for 15 min before her feeding then massage while she ate. Oh, I also started holding her in the football hold instead of the cradle hold. The first time I did those three things together I felt the milk start to move.
Oh goodness Christy. It might be hard to do but I would tell my dad that he can stay in a hotel. You do not need that extra added stress when he and your g-ma visit.
All this talk about breastfeeding is getting me excited to breastfeed again! I might change my mind later when I am feeding around the clock but I didn't realize how much I missed it. I was done bfing DS for 3 month before I got pregnant this time.
I road the lawn mower ( actually mowing the law) today. All I did was almost break the lawn mower. I'm still pregnant :) I have another appointment tomorrow and hoping to buy my baby more time with another NST.
Sending hugs and patience to those who are past their EDD and still waiting. It must be so annoying to have people bugging you about it! I've only had two "have you had the baby yet?" comments so far and in the meantime it just seems like a silly thing to say - as if I wouldn't have mentioned it if I had!
I'm starting to feel like I will be joining that 40+ club soon. All along I've had a feeling that baby would come at least a week before the 'due date' (since the other women in my family have all had their first babies at least 2 weeks before) and here I am 3 days away from 40 weeks and not feeling anything in particular. I feel both impatient and also a bit anxious, especially since things aren't exactly how I imagined they would be at this point.
My mom is here from California for a few weeks, and while it's nice to have her here, she came down with a pretty bad cold upon arrival on Saturday and has been resting in bed ever since. So now instead of her taking care of me, I'm taking care of her! And I'm getting a bit paranoid about germs and not wanting to get sick just before I'm supposed to give birth...not to mention the possibility of having a sick person in our small apartment when we have a newborn. I haven't had so much as a sniffle since I was in the US last October, so it's weird to have a sneezing, coughing person in my house, even if it is my own mom.
So I suppose, despite feeling a bit impatient and restless, it's just as well that I haven't gone into labor yet. Today I told my mom that I was feeling a bit impatient and she said I have to wait a few more days so that she will be all better and able to help/support me. It's frustrating because the whole relationship has been turned around - I was looking forward to having her here to look after me and now I'm looking after her and stressing about her situation rather than happily preparing for the biggest event in my life thus far. The whole energy seems to have changed since she got here.
At least DH is being an absolute angel. He's off work for the next 3 days so it will be great to have him around since today was really boring and lonely just entertaining myself while my mom is in 'quarantine' in her room. He already offered to take care of both of us if necessary.
Christy, your dad sounds like a real piece of work. I agree with adoremybabe, you should suggest that they just stay in a hotel, you shouldn't have to wait on people that soon after having a baby! A friend of mine here told me that after she had her baby, her mom (who lives in town) would come over and hold the baby so my friend could wash the dishes and clean the house. I was like, WTF? I thought the grandparents were supposed to take care of the new mother, not sit around while she did housework.
I'm sorry to hear about the breastfeeding issues chiro and Rosie - I hope they get better quickly!
My dad's plan is to stay in a hotel w/ grandma. But they are most likely going to get up early and come right over, and then leave at bedtime. I'm hoping they rent a car so I'm not having to go pick them up every day. Surely they will, my car is small already, and with 2 kids/car seats, we can't fit an extra 2 adults in it. And I'm not loaning them my car, I may need it. DH will be working, so he'll have our other car with him.
In other news, woke up w/ some cramping this morning. Regular cramps every 20 minutes, then they tapered off to about 1 per hour lasting 30-60 seconds. I checked my cervix, and there's definitely a change. I can get to the opening now, and would guess it's about 3cm or so, very stretchy & soft, with some brownish mucus. So hopefully we will have some real action here, soon. I'm 40+6 today.
Oh, and this heat wave sucks. Record breaking heat makes me SO thankful I am not pregnant in the middle of the summer.
Chapluqa - Thank goodness for your Angel of a DH! I bet that he even it all out.... at least I hope that he does! A couple of days ago my own DH sent me a text asking how I was feeling. He is usually pretty busy at work or I just tell him how I'm feeling so it was really sentimental for me. Made me feel loved :)
Christy - can you go as far as to give your dad an appropriate arrival and departure time? In a situation like this I'd REALLY want to do that plus make up a list of helpful chores. I'm not sure that I'd be able to do it but it sounds good in the moment.
Nicmom - I hear you on needing the nap. Yesterday I uncovered my roses and weeded that particular flower bed. I'm fine on my hands and knees but afterwards my back hurts sooo bad. I'm sure it's the belly weight pulling it down. Everything is a month ahead of time growth wise so that means that post partum I'll be sitting in a chair direction dh what to do in the garden. He's gonna love me :)
AFM - Today I am 41 + 4 I had another NST yesterday and baby is still perfectly happy to stay put. I'm now dialated to a 3 and around 50% effaced. My OB did have me choose Friday or Saturday for an induction though. Saturday will be my 42 week marker and to be honest I'm not sure that I'd feel fully comfortable going over 42 weeks. I opted for a Friday induction (which is also my birthday) but if I get to Friday and want to postpone til Saturday, I will. I don't care if it irritates my doc. He is on call anyway. I started my labor start tincture yesterday. I am praying that it works to get things started as naturally as possible!
I hope that every other pregnant mamma out there is still hanging in there!
Hey there, I'm at 40+1 today and feeling like it will still be a few more days before I get to meet my little one. Thankfully my mom is feeling a lot better, so I'm not stressing about that anymore, now just getting really excited (again) to meet my baby.
I wonder how many of us are left and how many will end up giving birth in May? I think it would be quite cool if my baby decides to arrive on May 1, since that was the birthday of my dear stepmom, who passed away in 1999. I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
Adoremybabe - I hope everything went smoothly and you had a great birthday/birthing day!
daylicious - hope your bottom is feeling better soon and that you and me both (and whoever else is still waiting) get to meet our babies this week!
Day- I think I may be using the verbena cocktail...I am starting to get a little worried about the length of this pregnancy:( I hope your lo shows up soon!!
Chap- So happy to hear your mom is well! Fx'd you get to meet your lo soon, too!!
AFM, I'm 41w3d today. I so desperately want an April baby... I've got 3 days...the other thing that stinks is my friend/photog goes on holiday on the 30th! I seriously cannot believe I'm still pregnant. It's actually making me really upset:( I starting to doubt myself, my abilities, the health of the baby, the smoothness of the birth....it's all too much for me:( I'm lost~ I just want this to happen naturally! I don't want to induce no matter how it happens! Why can't he/she just come!!!!! ~tears~
I'm still here as well. I'm thinking he will be a May baby but have tried visualizing a Monday birth. I am ready. I did nipple stim, sex, lots of walking and continued with the castor oil yesterday and the BH may have been a little firmer last night but that could also just be in my head. I will be 41 weeks on Tuesday and will be ready to start some herbs or homeopathy at that point.
In case anyone might have figured why I disappeared 12 days ago and have been MIA since, I had my baby. Born April 16, after days, well, weeks on and off, of prodromal, maybe about the last 24 hours of which I got the feeling would lead to something big lol. April 15 we were walking around the mall, had lunch with the kiddos, by the end I told DH um, maybe you better get that cheesecake to go! Hours later, I went to bed, as ctx were tapering off again. Woke at 1am with a couple "good ones", went back to sleep, at 2am had ctx every 9 min. After about 6 of them, was pretty convinced not so much the regular intervals (as I had had those for hours many times lately) but something new in the strength of it all. Tried to sleep until 430am, ctx coming closer together, but then after awhile spaced out more, but couldn't sleep, got up with DH and did some prayers. Was 90% sure this is it, but still was determined not to be fooled! Something about also how they stayed, even got stronger laying down made me think this was it. About 530 I went to lay down again. 99% convinced. By 6, when DH was in the bathroom I had "the big one" -lol- a contraction that made me go "Yup! and Time to go to the birth center right now!" We had an hour drive ahead of us! I labored for another hour while DH threw our stuff in the car, and got the kids ready (I didn't want to wake them, as they usually wake at 7am) Time seemed to slow and speed at the same time. I was in 'labor land'. I was feeling good and the ctx were coming longer and stronger. My two previous home births made me want to just hunker down and stay home for this birth. Alas, did not plan for an UC, and felt too nervous to try it spontaneously. Somehow by the time we got in the car, I was coping, breathing through it all but it was not so easy. It just feels wrong getting in a car in labor, what can I say? Kids were all in, DH made me a smoothie and got me hot water to take in the car. I wrapped in my labor blanket and away we go. First half of the ride was ok, texted MWs to say we were on the way. Suddenly halfway there, things got a lot stronger and I was feeling 'pushy' at the peak of ctx. Snapping at DH, getting panicky feelings. DH I could tell was freaked that I might be about to have the baby in the car... but no such luck! We got stuck in traffic. You should have seen him drive on the shoulder, passing all the cars, honking, weaving in and out of traffic like in the movies, lol! Not very safe -ever- but especially for a woman in labor with a car full of kids. Right when we got off the fwy, he's all shouting out the window, 'woman in labor!', and telling ODD to make a sign to put in the window as we drove, ha ha. Dude, but I seriously wondered if I was complete cause it felt like I was sitting on the baby's head. Turns out when I arrive I am 5cm. Not too advanced, but pretty good. I think I switched from early labor to active labor for that last half hour of the ride, which is why it suddenly got so much harder. Oh and my water bag was 'bulging' hence the pressure I was feeling -not her head. Things slowed as we settled in, and I got in the tub. Thought it would go fast from there, but the ctx spaced out a lot in the tub, got mellow, totally doable. Honestly that was the nicest part of the experience at the birth center. Someone brought me Recharge, DH massaged my low back with the ctx, there were candles. The ctx picked back up after awhile. After 2-3 hours I got checked again and was 6cm. At that point, it was a bummer. I started feeling just really tired, and ever since i got out of the tub the ctx were just no fun. Tried the birthing ball for one ctx-- nope. Hands and knees on the (too soft!) bed. Asked to be on the floor on hands and knees as I thought it would be more comfy, the mw was all, just use the bed. Was hanging onto DH with the ctx, trying to get a position that did it for me, but none did. Leaned over, holding the back of chair was ok. Hanging from a hammock thingy from the ceiling - tried a couple times- sucked. I kept mentioning that every position sucked, and in general felt way tired and just did not seem to have the stamina for labor that I had with my other 3. Ctx came hard and fast, and i couldn't find relief. tried laboring on the toilet, mostly cause MW ordered me to a couple times. Did not like it at all. Waters sprung a small leak fairly early on after I arrived at the birth center. I seemed to get "stuck" in transition for maybe an hour or two, which also sucked big time. Was 8-9 cm all the way and feeling "pushy". Also had to pee nonstop during this labor, while I dont' remember peeing much at all during my other ones. Oh and was sounding with DH, the loud, low moaning thing, which I did at the last couple hours of my last 2 labors and helpd, but this time I did it way longer and it didn't help so much. Just kept saying how tired I was, wanted to be done, when would I be done. Was pushing on and off with the ctx during this weird transition time, and it felt discouraging. ON the one hand I got to experience how transition is for some women, which I never have before: the ctx literally you experience as starting like regular but at a certain point a pushing urge is there, but then subsides. I'm sorry to say my "urge to push" which I had in all 3 prior births, and which, in my experience heretofore had led to a complete, powerful, uncontrollable takeover of my body--and which, in prior labors ended with the births of my babes in mere minutes- did not this time ever lead to such a strong urge. I had to bear down, the urge was weak (maybe cause it started at 8-9 cm?). Sometimes I would follow it and push with the urge, other times I found I could ride it out and not push, but it hurt more like a regular ctx when I didn't push so I kept wanting to push. My uterus, which in previous labors seemed to push my babies out of its own accord, seemed tired and not up to the task. Using my stomach muscles and will power instead, trying to make a conscious decision to push or not with each ctx or part thereof-- sucked. It was way harder. I pushed for 45 minutes but it seemed like 3 years. The MW kept telling me I wasn't pushing very well or effectively, not strong enough. What do you expect, when what should be, and what had always been for me, the body's scream to creation, becomes instead, a magician's trick, an act of weak-willed conscious striving. I became confused several times, and had to learn 'how to push." I do remember how ridiculously painful and long lasting the sensations of her in the birth canal, taking forever to come down, feeling like it was never going to end, that I wasn't up for the monumental task, the feeling of splitting in half. which lasted, in this case, not a minute or two as the baby came out, but an interminable bardo of time. I sipped a drink between ctx. I fell asleep in the pauses. I went away. Then somehow she was crowning, and from there it was just a few pushes and she was out. It hurt so much I couldn't even feel a sense of relief when she slid out. It felt like she was still in there. I felt inside out.
Her name is Palmo. She is perfect. Born either at 40+1 or 40+2, depending on which "due date" I go by. She was 7lb 12 oz, 20.5", cried when she came out, as we both lay there stunned. She nursed after awhile. she lay on my chest for about 2 hours. The MWs kept seeming to want to hurry me to do the weigh and measure etc., to tear her away from me. I kept thinking, can't everyone just leave us together? What's the rush. There were a few more weird things that I'm leaving out. Things the MWs said and did during my labor which bothered me.
Though it was my 4th natural birth, and all went as 'more or less' planned, I am lucky in that I avoided interventions, hospital transfers, c-sections, it was the hardest labor and birth, and seems weird cause she is my last child and it should have been the easiest. I do not recommend hour car rides in labor to anyone. In retrospect, I think the labor might have gone much smoother, faster, if I had had her at home. Part of me wishes I had just stayed home and UC. Maybe I wouldn't have "forgotten" how to push, who knows? Maybe my labor wouldn't have stalled when I got to the birth center. It's weird how the pattern was like the opposite of my 3 previous labors. Two were home births,and way better experience! Fast and smooth to 5cm, slow to complete, long pushing stage this time, as opposed to long easy early labor, followed by 2-3 hours of active labor/quick transition/ very quick push to birth. I think car rides, going from my nest to a birth center, and of course that I was more run down with this pg being my fourth time around, led to the longer, tireder aspects of it.
I just realized I don't know if I should have posted this here or not, or saved it for the birth story section. I hope it's ok if I double post it there?
Sorry it took me forever to post about it. We have been cocooning for almost 2 weeks-- I tend to be a reclusive nester-- and this is my first time back online since.
To all those still waiting for there babes, I can promise you they really exist in there, and you will see them sooner than you know. I know cause I thought I would never really go into labor. I felt like I would never meet this person, almost like it wasn't real. My first DD went to 42 weeks so I know how hard the waiting game can be. ELV to you all!
Tara - wonderful story. Congratulations!
I am so done with BH contractions. I have been getting them very strongly at night, disrupting my sleep. I get them throughout the day as well and they have been getting more and more annoying - I think stronger and more uncomfortable but I could also just be losing my patience. I have spent probably half the day today in a stat of contraction. Please, baby come soon.